she might get mad and go off? How do women expect men to be open with them when alot of women are short tempered?
2007-11-15 02:51:55 · 17 answers · asked by nvsweets2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's hard to be open with anyone whose short-tempered. Men or women. I would tell her the truth and when she goes off let her - just walk away until she cools down. Come back and have a calm conversation and tell her that you feel like you can't talk to her because she's so short tempered. It might actually bring her to reality and she could work on changing her ways.
My husband and I got into a fight about something and when he came back he told me he feels like he cares more about the relationship then I do because HE'S always the one to give in or apologize and I always just inflame it. That really hit home for me - I don't want him to feel that way. Be lovingly honest - let her go off - come back and dish out some more loving honesty - she can't fault you for that. She will always have a temper - but at least you will be able to work on communication.
2007-11-15 02:59:27 · answer #1 · answered by *Photo-op* 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Married couples should have no problem with communication however they do. This is probably the greatest reason people get divorced. If you don't want your marriage to end this way suck it up and be a man. So what if she goes off, obviously you gave her a reason to.
But really if this is something that you have strong feelings about, sit her down and have a deep conversation with her. Let her know that you have something very important to discuss with her and you would appreciate it if she listened to everything you had to say before she reacts. Most women, just like men only half listen and pick out certain things that are said and snap on that. Make sure she gives you her undivided attention and LISTENS to you and actually HEARS what you have to say. This can make things better in the long run. If more people practiced COMMUNICATING AND LISTENING to each other, more marriages would last.
2007-11-15 03:01:48 · answer #2 · answered by I've Got My Answer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to find the best way to tell your wife what you fear (I was taught it's not what you say, but how you say it). Then if she get upset or starts flipping out CALMLY tell her that if she really wants an open relationship and be in on everything, then she has to give you a chance to be open. Then tell her that you will continue explaining things once the first shock is over and is willing to hear the rest. Do this Calmly, respectfully w/o losing your temper as well. If you have to take a deep breath! Good luck!
2007-11-15 03:40:36 · answer #3 · answered by muzacmaster44 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's why women are from Venus and men are from Mars. Honestly you need to do what's best for you. Don't be afraid to confront her. Men are not confrontational in nature which is why I guess women have evolved into such drama queens. People in relationship don't have to give up then need to learn how to compromise. Give her the benefit of the doubt and approach the question when you both are in a natural relaxed situation.
2007-11-15 02:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by Hey There 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl, ok so the thing with an abortion is, once you get one, that baby's life can't ever be lived and an abortion can never be reversed, never be undone. Whereas if you choose to keep your baby, its giving your child a chance at life, an amazing gift only you can give. Also your bf seems to really love his kiddos that he had with the crazy women, so I'm sure he'll come to love your baby too. Yes, he may have a problem with you keeping your baby at first, but I'm sure he'll come to love it too :) good luck girl!
2016-05-23 06:37:45 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your married...and being married is more than just being someone to make the other person happy...you have to be yourself too...she loves you..its why she married you...if it causes a fight...yall can work it out...but if you keep it bottled up...the only person your hurting is yourself....maybe shes not short tempered...she probely just had a bad day...and dosent know how to talk about it... but being married...is alot of work..and things are going to be hard..but u have to work at it to make it last...take a chance ...you never know wut could happen until you try....plus if something was bothering her and you had no idea..wouldnt u want her to be honest with you and come out and say it instead of blowing up in your face for the dumbest thing
2007-11-15 03:00:05 · answer #6 · answered by kayla b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have that same problem.. I be going off on my boyfriend because he be trying to show off infront of his friends.. But when it's just me and him he be all up on me..
Sometime us women get a little crazy but that's how we is must of the time.. I know i am like that all the time.
just start focusing all your attention on her.. trust me us women me get mad really easy.. Take sometime and talk to out wit her,and spend so alone time wit her to. ONE ON ONE
2007-11-15 03:00:29 · answer #7 · answered by LELE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are one seriously whipped individual. Are you her husband or her doormat? Just tell her what you have to say and if she gets mad, she'll get over it. Incidentally, you might want to mention that you don't like talking to her because of all the drama. If she's that psycho, you may want to consider professional help or a divorce lawyer.
2007-11-15 03:16:12 · answer #8 · answered by rad 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if she loves you and is there for you for better or for worse, she should be there to hear anything you have to say. love conquers all. now if you have something bad or are guilty of something, expect some anger and hurt, but as a couple you have that security of having each other there for anything and everything.
2007-11-15 02:55:54 · answer #9 · answered by Evelyne L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just don't pick a time around the rag time. safe ground would be around the middle of her cycle.. meaning the week before and in between and the week after is a no no.. hahaha.. hide all knifes and guns .. nothing 2 fear, but fear it's self.. wow
2007-11-15 03:01:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋