My former BFF( best friend forever? ... has gone around to people spreading lies about me and has taken all my old friends off me, she evil!!... how do i get back at her? i dont deserve this at all, Why are girls so bitchy?Thanks
2007-11-15 02:31:33 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I went through this once, you just have to know that it's not about you. Sometimes people are so unhappy with themselves that they want to make everyone around them miserable, they especially want to make the person that intimidates them the most miserable.
She feels as though she's doing something, she probably feels as though she's getting the best of you, BUT DON'T GIVE HER THE SATISFACTION.
Walk around as if you're the happiest person in the world. Even if you don't feel that way at first, if you just think it, you will start to feel it.
Do things on your own, show them that you don't need them!
If there was ever a time when you had to spread your wings, this would be it.
They will all come crawling back, like they always do!!!!!
Trust me, I've been there before.
You don't have to get back at her, just have faith that all things happen for a reason, and she will get hers.
Okay, Be good
Lola Lenox
2007-11-15 02:43:03 · answer #1 · answered by lolalenox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's just ignorant and jealous. Why even bother trying to get back at her? make new friends and ignore what she tries to do. If you give her the attention and making her think you care and you're mad would motivate her even more to mess around with you. I understand where you're at but getting back at each other isn't going to end anything. Not all girls are bitchy...you'll meet better friends later on in life. Friends come and go....the true ones would still be there in the end.
2007-11-15 02:37:36 · answer #2 · answered by alwaystonys 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confront her in front of ur "old friends" as well...just get everybody together and talk things trough....cuz maybe u dont know but she might think that u did do something to deserve that.....it could even be someone else that put lies on her head...so the best way is to get everything out in the open so u guys can sort it out
2007-11-15 02:38:17 · answer #3 · answered by Jackie C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she has gone around spreading lies about you, then you can't call her your best friend anymore. She's now your worst enemy. If you really really want to get her friendship back, talk to her, tell her that what she's doing is hurting your feelings. If she doesn't want to change, move on with your life, girl. Look for friends that will always be there for you, always have yourback and not spread gossip about you. This life we have is borrowed, so we have to live it as if tomorrow's our last! Please follow my advice! I hope I helped!
2007-11-15 02:51:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything! Just make new friends and show her you are not stooping to her level. If you stoop, she'll probably just keep spreading lies and rumors. Distance yourself from her and all the friends who obviously don't know you enough to believe her lies. Try new things, start a new hobby and make a new best friend. Good luck!
2007-11-15 02:37:09 · answer #5 · answered by WINKIES MOM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want her back? She's nobody's friend. Let her go. And let those who believe her lies go too. They'll find her out and come running back to you in time. Just go on about your business and make some new friends. She'll make a mistake. Evil people always do!
2007-11-15 02:35:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not repay evil for evil!! She's definitely jealous of you and has self-esteem issues. What you should do is forgive her no matter how hard it will be for you to do this. DOn't let her know she got the best of you by getting even. It's not worth your time and effort. Sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk with her and let her know what she did and feel betrayed by her actions, but also tell her you have forgiven her for what she did. She WILL reap what she has sown! NO doubt about that!! Find another friend................
2007-11-15 02:35:12 · answer #7 · answered by metalgods 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh yikes - t his is why I don't have many gal pals... they are so catty. There is no explanation, maybe you did something to upset her, yet she would never tell you that you upset her, instead she does what she is doing to you to get back at you.
Girls can be very evil - I hatee them most of the time, I usually only tolerate some - but they are mostly all the same. I sometimes wish I was a boy
2007-11-15 02:35:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean. for me she wasn't my bff but she did the same thing. i didn't get back at her. i still wanted to be friends so while she would say stuff around me i just had to step back and let her do it. my friends realized later what was true and what wasn't. and my friends didn't leave me but for a while they acted weird around me. now everything is just about normal. just forgive her when she does this (its hard) and in time maybe she'll stop. maybe she'll make a fool of herself and you'll be the only friend she has to come back to when your friends find out what she said was lies.
2007-11-15 02:44:16 · answer #9 · answered by Kyle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why bother? If your so-called friends believe the lies she's spreading about you, then they really weren't your friends either. Find yourself some real friends and forget them; they all deserve each other. Enjoy your new friends!
2007-11-15 02:38:32 · answer #10 · answered by sundsqk321@sbcglobal.net 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋