is marriage a good thing?

Question

Do you have to get married to show someone that you love them. Most marriages end up in divorce ne way. Or their partners cheat.I jus dnt see the point. I t is a piece of paper.everyone just seem to get divorced or mive in with someone else.

Answer 1

You don't need to be married to someone to show them you love them. marriage is about commitment and sharing responsibility - although you dont have to be married for these things to happen, it just helps, especially if children are involved.

If it feels right then marriage is for you - but if you can't realisitically visualise yourself being with another person for the rest of your life why bother, have a commitment ceremony instead (less hassle if relationship ends).

Relationships can be hard sometimes, marriage can either make you feel your tied into something or give you more opportunity to make things work out - it's all about love at the end of the day...

Answer 2

Marriage certainly can be a good thing, if it's what both people want. Of course you don't "have" to get married to show someone that you love them. Some couples who have very loving relationships choose not to get married. But there is a societal expectation. And sometimes one partner will want that level of commitment from the other. At that point, the person who isn't so interested in marriage needs to decide if his or her aversion to marriage is greater than his or her love for this other person.

What you seem to be saying is not so much that just marriages are all doomed to failure, but that relationships are all doomed to failure. The only difference that the piece of paper makes is that it's harder for the two people to separate or cheat without legal reprecussions. If two people are not going to stay together, their relationship will end whether they get married first or not. Getting married is basicly sayin that you love this other person enough to ignore the statistics and make the effort to commit to this relationship for life. If you only see separation and affairs in the future with this person, I'd question whether you should even be dating that person.

Answer 3

Its worth getting married if you've been together a long time, 4 years or more. I dont think you can know everythign about a person after only 1 - 2 years, that's why a lot of people get to married early and then around 3 years realise it was a mistake. Most marriages don't end in divorce, its 1 in 3, so that means 2 in 3 remain happily married

Answer 4

The sanctity of marriage is wonderful - when both partners respect it. Unfortunately, the importance of marriage has been disregarded by many. Selfish and evil values have overtaken this world and has caused most divorces. And the poor children involved in divorce..... Next in line after the devaluation of marriage comes couples just playing house together instead of making a commitment to themselves and God. It's a sad reality. I can only hope that people realize the err in their ways.

I will say that I was guilty of that - but after my 'then' boyfriend and I got saved we repented and got married. And we haven't regretted it for a second. Some people say there's no difference with living together and being married - but there honestly is! We were doing okay before getting married - no major 'problems' except for living together in sin. But God blesses marriage, and we are a stronger couple now. It's a wonderful journey - and you'll be surprised how many family and friends around you will support you for it.

Answer 5

Well, it's a piece of paper with a lot of rights, responsibilities and legal obligations attached to it. (I.e. you pay fewer taxes if you're married, you are legally obligated to support your spouse financially, etc.)

In terms of love, no, marriage isn't necessary. I think that when it comes to love by itself, it's probably harder to live with a person without the legal back-up BECAUSE both have the option of walking away at any time without major consequences.

The fact that many marriages end in divorce doesn't mean that marriage is a bad thing or that a marriage is bound to fail. Whether a marriage is right for you and your partner is a very individual choice. Unfortunately, many people marry for all the wrong reasons. Love, to be sure, is necessary to marry, but it's only one of many aspects of marriage.

Answer 6

Yes marriage is a great thing for someone else and not us.
We have been together 25 years and not married, never cheated on each other, there can be no divorce and as you say its only a piece of paper anyway.

Answer 7

You seem to have a poor view of marriage. I think it is a good thing. You don't have to get married to show that you love someone, but it shows a real commitment to your partner.
The high divorce rate is due to people getting married without thinking about what they're really doing and because it's too easy to divorce if things get a bit difficult. I have never cheated or divorced.

Answer 8

If all it is to you is a piece of paper, then you are missing the point.

It's a COMMITTMENT. It's also a LEGAL and BINDING contract. It combines your financial assets, as well as property assets, and providfes PROTECTIONS for both people in the case of death. IT also allows you to be able to give benefits to each other through your employers. If I were not married, I could not sign my husband up to my company's insurance plans. If we weren't married, and he died, the state would take his car, and anything in his name, and I would have to fight for it in probate court, and possibly LOSE.

Marriage is more than just a piece of paper. And anyone who is married knows damn certain that it does change your relationship. It makes it stronger.

And I hate to disagree, but not EVERYONE gets divorced. I certainly don't plan on it and wouldn't have entered into marriage if I didn't think we had what it takes to make it last forever.

Answer 9

It is, just a piece of paper, And I don't think that proves you love someone. It does come in handy to be married for medical or life insurance, And some other leagal reasons,But, If both are employed,Which is the norm for today,Then each can get their own coverage.Depends on the couple. If you want to get married, and are sure of that,then do it. But it is not a necessity. I lived with my husband for 2 years,then we married.wow,that was 19 years ago.So not all end in divorce.good luck

Answer 10

No you shouldn't get married to someone just to show them that you love them. You should get married IF you both decide that you are done with everyone else and you want to be with each other for the rest of your lives. The day I married my husband we both felt differently straight away -kind of more comfortable, it is difficult to explain, but it changed us for the better. Not everyone cheats - and just to think that everyone divorces or separates is a bit pessimistic as there are lots of happily married people out there, you just don't hear about them because they are not as interesting as talking about all the bust ups etc.