Actually me and my wife had a long affair and we decided to marry. Now after 3 years of marriage and 2 cute kids, I started feeling that my sister in law is actually the ideal girl for me cuz I feel more comfortable with her, we share almost all common things in us, like adventure sports, new ventures and stuff. Do you guyz think it is normal and if it is what should I do? Why am I being dragged more and more towards her day by day? I am feeling bad for feeling all this. How can i discourage it or I shouldn't at all.
2007-11-12 23:29:04 · 17 answers · asked by imaskar 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
It has been my considerable and unpleasant experience that the grass is not greener on the other side. You may think it is, but when you finally get there, to your shock and surprise, it actually isn't.
Do a quick cost/benefit analysis of the situation. From pretty much every angle, you stand to lose one hell of a lot more than you could ever gain. I really can't think of any way that you can come out ahead in this particular situation except by staying with your wife and kids.
Oh, and another thing. Please don't ever, under any circumstances, tell your wife about your feelings for her sister. She will not understand. It is just not in the female DNA to be sympathetic or understanding about these things - not even one little tiny bit.
Man up, soldier on, and avoid your sister in law as best that you can. Think of her as the enemy. She may be a lovely person, but you have to grow to hate her because she is causing you to think of doing vile, wicked things to your family.
What you are feeling is normal and it will pass. Give it time.
2007-11-13 01:03:30 · answer #1 · answered by Uhlan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be stupid. You just like the S.I.L. because you haven't had anything new for a while and she is close by. Think of it this way if you go for it and so does she you end up with a girl that would cheat on her own sister which means she'll eventually cheat on you too. If you go for it and she doesn't then she will tell your wife and you can kiss the family goodbye and say hello to Mr. Alimony and Mr. Child Support.
2007-11-12 23:34:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't be an idiot. Your sister-in-law is forbidden fruit. Get smart and think with lump 3 feet above your ***, man. You made a commitment to a woman and now your starting to change your mind. Time to be a man and curb your hormones. What about the kids. Don't be an idiot.
2007-11-12 23:42:54 · answer #3 · answered by Kaelis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tis the 'grass is always greener' syndrome..... Your sis in law must realise how you feel and if so should back away and allow you and your wife, her sister, the space you need to build and strengthen your marriage.
Yes it's normal and you need to keep your eye on 'your wife' and no where else.
2007-11-12 23:34:41 · answer #4 · answered by TIM M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it somewhat is a mixed bag of desires right here. Your sister-in-regulation represents exhilaration with out the discomfort of marriage. You 2 get alongside nicely jointly, yet you apart from would comprehend you're actually not in charge for her. dedication is an surprisingly stressful element and as a father of two teenagers, existence shouldn't continually be hassle-free for you & your spouse. Your sister-in-regulation in all possibility reminds you of the exhilaration of having an more advantageous half with out having any strings related. definite, I additionally think of you need to push aside in spite of you sense in the direction of her through fact she's your sister-in-regulation.
2016-10-02 06:27:03 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know im not a guy but i think u should get over this feelings .. i mean dont u love ur wife n ur kids .. u have to think U HAVE KIDS which means responsibility .k
but f u cant over those feelings u should tell ur sister in law n ur wife about them cus they need to know n u cant hide this 4 ever
WELL i dont know about u but thats what i think
2007-11-12 23:36:16 · answer #6 · answered by Lili 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not normal but it happens. If you really love your wife and kids you shouldn't jeopardize your relationship, but if you find this harder and harder to bare tell her how you feel, but remember there are kids involved so tat alone makes it a very delicate situation. Good Luck
2007-11-12 23:34:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are just suffering the 7 year itch. Live your dream - you are so lucky to have it in front of you every day ... the grass may always be greener on the other side but crossing the road usualy means casualties - kids more often than not...trust me on this one....
2007-11-12 23:32:44 · answer #8 · answered by Dad 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Its only like "The grass always seems Greener on the other side" So do not keeping looking over the fence !!!
2007-11-12 23:33:56 · answer #9 · answered by Aleak!! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's not normal to like your sister in law. that's so wrong. stay away from her. why would any one want to get with someone just like them self's? i couldn't handle someone thinking the same thing i was. i would eventually get to boring.
2007-11-12 23:33:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋