14 years old and possibly pregnant! help!?!?

Question

theres only two people that know that i might be pregnant...
my boyfriend and an older guy that i trust and doesnt know anyone i know so he cant tell them...
my boyfriend doesnt have any money and the other guy i never see i just talk to him over msn, and at the moment i dont have any money
any ideas of how to get money for a test... i think i need £10-£15
if i am pregnant i will keep it because im really against abortion (im also against killing animals including flies and spiders so im not likely to change my mind even though i have no money to look after a child) but how do i tell my mum?
what should i say and when and what situation should it be in???
please give me serious answers

Answer 1

it okay honey, i understand your scared. I'm so proud of you for not wanting an abortion, i'm pro choice, however i dont like abortion. my sister just had a baby, and she came to me crying thinking she was pregnant, sure enough she was. i had to help her and he rbf talk to my mom.i thought my mom would freak out, so i was going to help ease the blow. my sister had the positive test in er hand and hid it a tfirst, my mom was on the phone and my sister started to cry before she could say a thing, my mom got off the phone and my sister said "mom.... dont be mad please... i couldn't handle it, i'm scared...... " then she handed her test to my mom, my mom was shocked and asked what is this? my sister ssid " mom.... i'm pregnant!". my mom was like " oh my God! that's it!? I ws so scared you were hurt or something.... its okay baby why u crying? its a good thing. I'll help you" and I was shocked! but it turned out for the best my niece is now 4 months old. you should go to your mom right away because there ar health issues, especally at 14, when your pregnant. tell her ( have your bf with you, i highly recomment it) you need to talk your not scared and not sure but you think you are pregnant and you need her help. trust me she might "freak out" at first but she'll elp. if you decide to keep the baby and not give it up for adoption, i'm sure she'll help raise it :) but please do this as soon as possible and have your mom get you a test or take you to a clinic, ok? 14 is way too young to have achild, not sayign its bad, but i mean medically. your body isn't mature enough to carry a child health wis efor you and the child. yes you can get luck and have a healthy baby, but some women that have children at extremely young ages like you have health issues later on, so talk to a doctor so he can help monitor you and make sure you won't end up with health issues :) oh i just want ed to add, everything happens for a reason, and chilren, all children are a miracle, a gift from God. even if you don't see it now :)

Answer 2

A test is only a few quid. I'd expect between 5-10 and more on the 5 side.

I'm sorry to hear you want to keep it. Not that I think abortions are the greatest thing since sliced bread, but because you have no clue of what you're getting in to. It's not just the money, it's the fact that you yourself are still a child, it's your education and your future. Your future (which is going down the drains) is your baby's future too. In this case it's the future of a teenage mother with no job, no skills, no education, and no partner - i.e. a father.

You may think not going to school anymore is a bonus - you never liked that waste of time anyway. That waste of time is what gives you options to choose your own path when you are older. Give it up now, and your life's choices will be made for you. The only qualification you have is flipping burgers - and you'll be competing with underpaid Poles for that job.

You'll find the partner-market is a lot harder with a kid back home. And while your friends are learning about life, having an education and making typical teenage mistakes, you're back home changing diapers, and you can't afford any mistakes.

Don't fantasize about the boy who impregnated you taking on the role of a father. He'll be gone sooner or later, leaving you for a much easier girl.

And your child, that baby that you think is so cuddly: Not only will it deprive you of sleep, education and future, you are also responsible for it.
And starting as a teenage mom, I don't think you're doing a very responsible job.

I don't think you should ask how to tell your mother. The only answer is: Fast. Drop the bombshell asap.
You are a child. This is an adult situation that you should not have to deal with - especially not alone. You should be worrying about the right colour mascara - not about this. You need help. Go To Your Mom.

Answer 3

You live in the UK, no?

Go to the doctor. You Brits get free healthcare.

If you really don't want to go, a home pregnancy test shouldn't set you back that far. In the US they go for about US$5. Sometimes you can find them for US$1. So, I'm guessing you're only gonna need between £2 and £3, not £10-£15. But maybe things are different on your side of the ocean.

As for telling your mum, well...

You just gotta do it. Take the test first, and if it says you're pregnant, sit her down, and say, "Mum, I think I'm pregnant." Tell her who the father is.

It's as simple as that. That doesn't mean it'll be easy. Make sure you're not drinking anything that'll change your mood, like caffeine or alcohol. You need to be yourself, and to be in full control of what you say and do.

Regardless of whether you're pregnant or not, you're 14, your body is changing and you've got a serious amount of hormones coursing through your bloodstream right now. Those hormones can really do a number on your brain, so before you talk to your mum, talk with yourself. Tell yourself to stay calm. Your mum loves you. She's not going to stop loving you. Tell yourself that.

You can cry. That's alright. It's even okay to cry a lot.

It's not alright to let yourself get out of control with what you say. It's very easy for a girl your age to say things she shouldn't, especially in your state. So, keep calm, and speak slowly. Your mum will ask a lot of questions. Answer truthfully, and slowly. If she doesn't understand something the first time, explain it to her again.

If you are pregnant it is important that you go and see a doctor as soon as possible. You are 14, two years below normal maternity age, so yours would be a high-risk pregancy. You need regular appointments with a qualified high-risk obstetrician, for your own safety, as well as your baby's.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

You don't even have money for a pregnancy test so how do you think you will raise a child? Babies are VERY expensive. I have two kids and I can not even begin to tell you all of the expenses that come along with chidren.

I suggest you tell your mom straight out. You chose to have sex. Therefore, you should be mature enough to talk to your mom. I also think that you should consider adoption. If you don't even have money (nor does the father) to buy a test, you're going to be in for a shock when you're buying diapers, clothing, wipes, formula, bottles, etc.

Give this baby a good life and put it up for adoption IF you are pregnant. And remember....if you aren't ready for this responsibility then DO NOT DO NOT DO NOT have sex.

Answer 5

Well ii Have a 14 Year Old Daughter and if There Was Enything Like Being Pregnant was On Her Mind i would want to know yes i would be a liittle dissapionted but i would have my childrens best intrestes at heart tell your mum first she will give you money ect .. i am sure she will take your thoughts about abortion in to condsideration ..! ok well i hope i helped !

Good Luck !

Answer 6

You don't need money to get tested, go to your family doctor or to your local health clinic if you want to remain anonymous.

However, your family doctor should be told at some point.

When you tell your Mom, just tell her you need to talk about something serious. Then tell her you're in trouble, that you're late and the test was positive.

There's no easy way to do these things, but it would be a lot easier on you if your mom was with you when you get tested. So you might want to talk to her before going for the test. I'm sure she would pick up a test for you, under the circumstances.

Then, whether the test is positive or not, STOP HAVING SEX!

You're 14, and not ready to become a parent, you should NOT be having sex at all.

If the test comes up negative, fingers crossed, take it as a warning against having sex at this point in your life.

If it's positive, you and your mother will have to decide together if you will keep it or put it up for adoption.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 7

read it first but please finish it.why didn't you think of the consequences of your actions first? shocking. you're 14 and you're not a virgin anymore? so am I supposed to be a ninny coz I'm already 15?
anyway, if it is there, it is. You can't turn back time. But when you tell your mom, maybe you should make sure that she is in a good mood....tell her what really happened and why. NOW, any mother would surely freak at first, but if she's the mother you've always looked up to and ran to for advice, then she would understand and of course, like any other mother, would offer you help even if at first she would try to teach you a lesson by letting you take care of it alone. At first. Don't worry. and pray that you aren't pregnant.next time, use condoms okay?

Answer 8

First tell your parents. They ARE going to be upset, but they will get beyond that.

Second, get to the doctor. You need to be tested to know for sure. Also, you need to make sure you get prenatal care.

Three, make a decision whether to keep the baby or put up for adoption. If your financial situation is as dire as you say, I would vote for adoption, that way the baby can got to a family who really wants and can take of him or her.

I applaud your stand against abortion.

Good Luck

Answer 9

YOU COMPLETETE FOOL! Don't you dare have that child! you can't support it which means all good tax paying people including myself will have to foot the bill with our taxes going towards benefits. YOU'RE A CHILD! you aren't responsible enough to protect yourself when you have sex. you think you can be trusted with a child? Tell your mum for one thing, if you show you trust her she'll help you with anything. I'm so sick of this scenario. It should be illegal for under 16s to have babies. you're not even meant to be having sex. its disgusting. That child will end up like all the other un disciplined brats in the world cause the parent is too young to bring it up properly. this is why england is a **** HOLE and full of chavs! All those that agree say "I"

Answer 10

im sixteen.. and i know how it feels. my boyfriend just went with me yesterday to get a check cuz i had a feeling i was pregnant. it was negative. the advice i can give you is to have a serious conversation with your mom and explain to her that things like that happen. no ones perfect. (remember that) and if you are you should discuss with her if she could help you take care of it. and if you really love your child you would start working but still go to school even at an early age. to support your baby even if its just a little way.. and also show your mom that you are responsible.