will another abortion cause damage?

Question

i had an abortion back in 2005 due to certain circumstances, but i was so lucky to give birth beautiful baby this year. however ive found out that im 10 weeks pregnant again, im in 2 minds though. i dont want to put more pressure on my partner in providing for us, i dont want to disturd by baby i have now upbringing and someone close to me has been trying for a baby for years now and had ivf the other month and i failed, and i dont want to blut out this big news to upset them. but then again i would love to mother another baby. i was wondering if i had another abortion would this effect my chances of being pregnant again in the future? im so worried and confussed. please dont slatter me for thinking of an abortion, i need help, advice and experiences. please help me.

Answer 1

Do what you want but why have an abortion because of another couple?

You may never get pregnant again if you have another abortion even though i have seen that abortions have no effects on future pregnancies.

This could be your last chance but if your going to be having abortions all the time then why don't you get on birth control? It is FREE at the HEALTH DEPARTMENT.

Answer 2

You will never know if having an abortion will have an effect untill you try... I had an abortion 6 years ago and now I have a 1 1/2 year old girl. My friend had an abortion and after she had 2 miscarriages, she has been trying to get pregnant for 9 years,now she is 43 and maybe too old to ever get pregnant. Since her miscarriages, she started to regret her abortion so much. She is one of my best friends and I was feeling so mixed up about telling her I was pregnant, cause I knew how she felt. I told her about my mixed feelings and she really appriciated it.
It seems you are most worried about the people around you and that is not a good reason for an abortion. Only If you think it will be too much stress for you (and that will affect the 2 babies& husband of course) maybe then you should consider the abortion, but also the effect it could have for the future.
If you can handle another baby, I would go for it. I you want another one anyway, you might as well have it now and get it over with. It's so much easier with the second one and it will be nice for your first baby to have a sibbling.
Good luck!

Answer 3

You say you already have a beautiful baby and would love to mother another one. You now have the chance, be it earlier than planned, but nevertheless it's there and happening. Where's the problem? There isn't one! Your finances will be affected but you'll cope. You've already got all the baby equipment you need. The only thing you may need to buy is a double buggy which you can get second-hand. You don't need extra childcare because you're already there looking after your first child. Nappies can be paid for with the extra child allowance payments that you'll receive and if you breastfeed that'll take care of it's food bill for the next 6 months. In time you could get yourself an evening job which will not only top-up your finances but also give you a bit of a social life away from the children.

You say you're in two minds about this baby. I think you will regret an abortion unless you are fully sure that this is what you want. Make sure that your decision is made for the good of you and your family - your friend's unfortunate circumstances should not sway your final decision - don't let them!!!

Answer 4

Don't listen to any of these anti abortion people. The only reason people are posting about abortions in the pregnancy section is that there isn't an abortion section! If there was one made then maybe they would use that!Anyway, To answer your question:

It sounds like you have made your mind up in your heart and you don't want to get rid of it. "but then again i would love to mother another baby." I know you're thinking about your friend and the IVF but you also have to think about the child that is now growing inside of you. you need to sit down and talk to your partner. But also remember that if it came out that you had an abortion so your friend wouldn't feel upset by you getting pregnant so easily, just think how they would feel when they knew that they were partly to blame. All I say is, depending on your circumstances, keep the child. If your friend is really a friend, then they will be happy for you.

Good luck with what you choose and keep us posted.

Answer 5

Ever thought of having the baby FOR the person who has been trying for years?

I'm not digging the abortion thing, but I won't slatter you. I think you should have the baby. If you think about it, you have clothes, toys, etc from the baby you just had- and they could play with eachother growing up.

You'd need to buy diapers and formula.. honestly you should have been on birth control.. since you were careless there is another life at stake. If you have an abortion, you might regret it later, because you feel like being a mom again. Don't worry about what others will think- if you're pregnant, you're pregnant!

I don't think it will affect your chances in the future, but you never know! Lots could affect your chances and you could possibly never have another child again. I'd take this opportunity.

How much does an abortion cost? Out weigh that with diapers and formula.. if you're considering the financial strain, it will cost to get an abortion as well.

Good luck with your decision, why not talk to your partner about it? He might be against abortion (if there isn't certain circumstances involved) and he might want another baby!

Answer 6

i was in the same boat as you last year, i had gave birth to a beautiful baby girl in September 2006 and found out that i was pregnant in October 2006, 4 weeks after my child was born. I was really emotionally upset about my sudden circumstances and decided on a abortion as i was in no state to look after 2 children. my baby girl is now 14 months old and i am due to give birth to my second child in March. i really enjoy having her running around the house whilst planning my new adventure for my unborn baby. i know that i will be hard tor me to bring up 2 children, but i know in the future it will pay off, also my daughter will benefit from the age range between her and her sibling.
if you pop along to BPAS they will talk to you and are very helpful, you can access their website for information to.
An another abortion wouldn't affect your chances in the future at all, people i know have had numerous amounts of abortions and they have managed to now conceive children.
just remeber this is your life and you need to concider what you really really want. It is not your fault this couple cannot concieve, i know that you proboably feel alot for them but as i have said this is your life. Just don't do things you are going to regret, because you will never learn to live with it.

Answer 7

I can only advise on past experience. At 17 years old I had my first child, at 20 my second. I had 2 abortions only three months apart when I was 21. At 25 I gave birth to a perfectly healthy baby girl who is now 7 months. She's clapping, saying dad and already crawling. Before I fell pregnant with her I honestly thought my chances of carrying a baby to full term were slim to none, yet obviously I was wrong. I can't talk on behalf of your body and the way it heals, however I can say with confidence my 2 abortions have not caused any physical damage. The one last thing I can help you with and its something the nurse told me when going in for my second.
"Just remember why you're going through with it."
If its all for the right reasons, there should not be any emotional damage either.

Answer 8

Yes it can effect your chances of being able to carry to full term and even prevent you from falling pregnant again. I was told that even after 1 abortion your chances fall quite dramatically so I guess having 2 would make it even harder. But then again every ones body is different. This is the way my doctor described it. Your body has decided that that time was a good time to fall pregnant. You decide to abort the fetus. When that time of the month that you can conceive comes around again your body thinks "Hell last time I thought I was doing a good job at being pregnant but they ended it, this time I will save them having to end it and not even bother trying" Kinda makes sense i guess.
My partner and I have a daughter and am pregnant again. We are younger parents, 23. He doesn't have a SUPER paying job and we only live of his wage but we mange quite well. I know that our new baby hasn't been born yet but we know that we will manage. We plan our meals every week and know exactly what money is coming out for what. And we still have money left for treating our selves to life's little loves. We aren't the richest(or the poorest) but we are very happy at the end of the week. We have our little girl and another baby on the way. It doesn't have to cost an arm and a leg to feed and clothe your child, with out looking cheap. Good luck

Answer 9

I'm not gonna preach about abortion, just give you a straight answer as I guess that's what you want and I also guess that some others will give you the "have the baby" or "get it adopted" routine, as I've seen it before on here, it doesn't help I don't think.

There's no reason why another abortion should affect your chances of conceiving again, providing you have it done at a proper clinic or hospital. Just be sure it's what you want.

Answer 10

This is a hard decision for you to make alone, why not discuss it with your partner and see how he feels and then talk to your doctor and get some professional advice. I don't think it would harm your chanves of getting pregnant again but it sounds like at least part of you wants this baby so make sure you think it through properly before you make any big decisions. It's a shame that your friend can't conceive but you shouldn't let that affect your decision in anyway, I'm sure they will be pleased for you.
Good Luck whatever you decide.