we burried him on valentine' day i still cant celebrate that holiday
2007-11-12 20:27:52 · 15 answers · asked by muffin 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Valentine's Day
try this
http://onlyinsilence.blogspot.com/2007/08/ten-interpretations-to-happier-life.html
2007-11-13 02:43:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has to take their own time with the healing process. You may never look at Valentine's day the same again. Just make the holiday about the one you love. Go visit his grave site and bring him flowers. Nothing says you have to buy into the flowers and hearts part of the holiday.
It is ok to miss him every day. If you are not functioning, then you should talk with a professional.
2007-11-13 01:37:02 · answer #2 · answered by Robin C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't stay in grief mode -
I lost my Dad - and my world ended
and I howled - crying is not the word
And for the next 6 months to a year - I did not care
but then - I started remembering all the fun things
when we fished - how we laughed - how we hugged
how we prayed together - and it dawned on me
Quit focusing on myself
And remember what he did - so I can be an example to my son - and my attitude started changing
Yeah - I miss him - but he lives again, every time I tell a story,
and he makes me laugh - especially the time we skunked Mom
while we were fishing - and she didn't catch anything on her line - so she "stole" my rod - and I caught a fish on hers
so she traded back - and I caught a third on mine
and she said Billy - put him out of the boat!
I laughed till cried, and until Mom caught a fish!
Those were the days. These are the days now.
I am making memories with my son - reminding him of his grandfather.
You have much more living to do -
you have grieved enough - come - - we have some stories to share!
all the best
2007-11-12 20:39:26 · answer #3 · answered by tom4bucs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
getting over him means letting go of the past not forgetting it. Remembering the good times of your past can help you face some of the tough times of your present/future. When he left, he left a hole that can be filled up with the presence of someone else. Even after 7 years, that does not mean that filling up that space will be pushing him out. Celebrate what you had together by finding love again and being happy - isn't that what he wanted while he was here? I hope so or you probably wouldn't miss him that much.
2007-11-12 20:33:06 · answer #4 · answered by christie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seven years is too long, i think you need to talk to a psychiatrist (not all people seeing a "shrink" is insane!) Everyone of us have different coping mechanisms. My 1st husband died 2 months after I gave birth to my son. I was able to move on because I have a son to take care of. Now my son is 4 and I just got married again this year. Good luck to you!
2007-11-12 20:32:41 · answer #5 · answered by jhing114 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its not easy i know and all you have to do is go on with your life and don't show him your feelings.. Ok but try going out with friends and meet knew people and after a while you will get over him.
2007-11-12 20:40:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so sad - may god rest his soul in peace.
even after 17-years is ok to grieve it shows you love so much.
you have valid reason on this valentine day - it is ok.
may you have long life and always remember valentine day.
2007-11-12 20:31:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you definetly should have your speacial days of remembrance, but over all you should live and enjoy your life. My mom died when I was 2, my dad still goes through her albums on her birthday and death day and their anniversery with me my brother and sister. when I was 2 would be in 1990.
2007-11-12 20:31:52 · answer #8 · answered by jiraniha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is OK to remember a loved one and the best you can do is to find another and let them in to your heart, that might help, love is a grand thing and tends to heal the heart.
2007-11-12 20:32:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course it is,my husband passed away almost six years ago,and my mother four years ago.not a day goes by where i dont shed a tear,i will miss them forever,you never get used to the loss of a loved one ,you just learn to live with it and carry on,because what else can you do?
2007-11-12 20:37:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
in all due respect, it doesn't matter if it's ok or not. thats something you can't control. it's not wrong to grieve over someone that you loved. thats how u know you really cared.
2007-11-12 20:31:00 · answer #11 · answered by chad_27292 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋