We had the best sex when we were dating, and the first year or so of our marriage, but now we've been together 2.5 years and he never touches me. He's not cheating, that's not it. I've gained some weight since our son was born, but he assures me that isn't it, either. Our son is 14 months old now, so if it were the 'shock' of becoming a parent, wouldn't that have worn off by now? He gets plenty of rest and is off for the entire weekend but he goes to bed without me and falls asleep before I can even suggest anything. He never hugs or kisses me volunteering and he wants nothing to do with me as far as sex goes. How long can our marriage survive this? I'm a very loving person and I need, no, CRAVE intimacy with my husband. I miss him, and it's really affecting me. I've had to start anti-depressants and I'm just so sad all the time. He acts like he doesn't see me and it just breaks my heart. When I cry he calls me a baby. Why would a 25 year old man start acting like this out of nowhere?
2007-11-12 18:47:57 · 21 answers · asked by ... 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
Your husband is probably porking your neighbor....
2007-11-16 17:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by **Llola** 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*Ahem* If i may, evanlah stop being such a freak about this you insecure-----!
Any who, sorry about that it just irritates me when people like that fret over a problem such as this. Maybe you should talk to him, though this might not be the best idea because you might think that asking a guy for sex will make you sound desperate, and he might not take you seriously.
Maybe something happened to him, though i'm not sure. Have you tried talking to him? Maybe he does not want sex because he lost interest or sadly, lost interest with you. Probably because he lost interest in your appearance?
I'm sorry, I didn't mean to offend you but maybe you should try something...spontaneous. I'm not going to details in what but you should do something to give him some excitement. (role play hahaha)
I hope I helped somewhat. Good luck, and don't think negative or you'll end up having a life of sadness,solitude and such...
2007-11-12 19:04:11 · answer #2 · answered by Jose C 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How is his health both physical and mental? Is he obese or morbidly obese? How do you know that he is not cheating with another partner?
Does he drink or do drugs?
Are you diagnosed with any mental disorders? This could be a major problem in a relationship.
The lady with the "keeping clean" both yourself and your house is giving good advise.
The lady doing the guilt trip about no sex till marriage is wrong. I'm in my sixties and still can find different and great things to do with my partner. If you didn't have sex early you wouldn't know that your current problem is abnormal.
Examples: Sleep in the nude. Wear sexy lingeire. Get a copy of the "Kama Sutra" and suggest positions. Emphasis your sexual assets. Large breasts? Low cut tops. Petite breasts? Thin tops that allow perky nipples to show thru the material.
Nice legs? Try some sexy nylons or panthose with cutouts in interesting places. Short shorts to show the female form to best advantage. We males think the female form is one of the most beautiful objects in the world. Remind him that he is a MAN and you are WOMAN. Take your vibrator to bed with you and use it when he is present. Tell him you need to get off but don't want to cheat. Males find female orgasms very exciting. And should he take interest; here you will be all lubed up and ready to go. How nice.
You are an EQUAL partner in a marriage. This is especially true in the bedroom. If he goes to bed before you do, clean up and snuggle next to him. Set the alarm for 3AM. Many males have nocturnal erections early in the AM. You can feel for them yourself. If not, that is a good sign of physical problems. He should still be able to snuggle. If he is hard then get on top and ride that candy cane cow girl.
Be careful of less-then-positive comments. This is a lifetime couples requirement. Try to find, at least, one good thing to say to your partner everyday. Touch him as often as possible. Remember that you are getting a lot of touch from your baby. He isn't. It is more than ok to initiate sex with your partner. You are not the vestal virgin and your parents and neighbors won't think badly of you for taking initiative in the bed room or boardroom for that matter.
You mentioned crying because you didn't get enough affection. Were you trying to be manipulative? Why does he have to initiate your play?
Males do suffer from depression and he may need help. Can you get help from his family as to the nature of this problem?
2007-11-12 22:28:38 · answer #3 · answered by Bob 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Stop taking those anti-depressing pills, it can only worsen your problem. Your husband could be suffering from erectile dysfunction and is too embarrassed to talk about it. lf that's not it then it be could another illness. ls he diabetic?
Try to have a heart-to-heart talk and don't let him sleep on it. Your marriage should be worked out. He cannot avoid you forever. The sooner the better. A marriage counselor can also help.
Good luck.
2007-11-12 18:57:10 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ummmm......there various possibilities: artwork rigidity actual sickness & is embarrassed to assist you already know he's m________to porn (speedy & ordinary) he's cheating he's depressed He might have well-being issues he's jealous of the time you spend on the child First, i does no longer placed rigidity on him approximately it on the grounds which will in all probability make it worse. i might placed on a happy face and kiss him hi and so long every time he is going everywhere. don't be depressed, be friendly, smile, and be happy to work out him - make domicile the area he might fairly be than everywhere else in the international. Play soothing music for him, rub his neck from time to time. restoration his admired ingredients and bake bread. Make him experience enjoyed and welcomed domicile. enable him loosen up a couple of minutes if he likes to unwind till now dinner. tutor your little ones that Daddy's homecoming is a widespread adventure: that they could fortunately greet him nonetheless off so he can regulate from artwork to domicile. till now his coming domicile time, tidy up your hair and placed on clean lipstick and a squirt of physique spray and smile. dress extreme high quality for him a minimum of a pair of cases each week and plan an occasional night out for in simple terms the two one in each of you. Cuddle as much as him while you watch television or sleep. don't be unhappy by way of fact what guy desires to come back domicile to a tragic spouse - no, he needs a exciting one that's a exhilaration to be around. examine captivating Womanhood, dating Rescue by ability of Dr. Phil. If, after various months of this, there is not any progression, seek for counseling. have faith me, human beings have survived worse than this. exhilaration to you.
2016-12-08 20:23:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be he has some worries of his own like wise may be he has tensions with his job or could be he is sick & hiding some sickness to you also possible he has found some one new in his life there should be some good or bad reason & for that what you should do is talk to him about it make him feel that you are feeling bad when he does or acts like this.
& if still there's no attention to you then you should find someone else.
2007-11-12 19:02:02 · answer #6 · answered by boss of bosses 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, are you keeping yourself clean ?? Try to take pride in your looks and fix yourself up for him when he comes home.
Let him know how much you love him and want him......tell him that he can tell you anything and that you will understand, no matter what his answer is.
Try to get rid of those extra lbs. ..... and start doing situps and do yourself a favor and start walking at least 30 minutes a day......be active, be interesting, and remember.....you have had 14 months to get rid of that baby fat. Stop sitting in front of the TV and take pride in yourself, your baby and your home. When he sees that you are making an effort to do the right thing then I'll just bet he will really notice and he will start making an effort to be closer to you..
Good luck and may God bless and keep you safe and happy..............Take it from me, I have been there and done that !!!!!!!
2007-11-12 19:03:01 · answer #7 · answered by sweetness #1 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Names help please! boy names and girl names?
2017-04-07 08:59:13 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 things:
1)when we were dating,
sex should be for marriage only. its something new the pair can enjoy together. you let him have you all through dating..there's nothign new anymore. so he's had plenty of sex with you....instead of finding out this intimate thing with you as his wife...
2) some girls (im one of them) think that men should make the first move. but now that you're married anyway...you can take him whenever you want. you're his WIFE....claim him girl! they're called handcuffs btw...thought you should know.
2007-11-12 19:10:27 · answer #9 · answered by swordofmystique 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Do not take any notice of the other posts.
He has an issue with accepting the child as part of the family. Before there was you and him, now there is a child and he may not want to share. The situation has changed and he is having difficulty in accepting this.
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2007-11-12 19:31:32 · answer #10 · answered by DAVID W 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Is Dylan a boy's name or a boy's and girls name?
2016-11-15 19:08:49 · answer #11 · answered by Gardie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋