how to develop patience in ourselves?

Question

for example i something is ones dream or something is going to happen in future that can be good or bad in case like results so that time is painful and negative thoughts come in mind,at that time how to maintain patience

Answer 1

having something RIGHT NOW won't necessarily make something better.

If you are constantly impatient, and focused on doing things now now now, going to the next big thing, you will miss out on the little pleasures of life.

Prioritize, and get what needs to be done out of the way, but also realize that we only have one life, and we're meant to enjoy it as much as possible.

Answer 2

When you find yourself on the verge of losing patience, try one or more of the following techniques.
- Get real. Adjust your perceptions to the reality of the situation at hand. Don't work yourself into a lather over nothing.
- Resist the temptation to emulate the demanding behaviors of impatient friends, relatives and coworkers. This is an easy trap to fall into, hold your ground.
- Look within to understand why you react impatiently to certain situations. Dig deeply if necessary, because appearances can be deceptive. Impatience may flow from some other dynamic, like inflexibility, lack of empathy, the need to control people and situations, chronic naivete about how long it takes to get things done or an unchallenged attitude learned early on in life. Once you've discovered the cause, identify the interior and exterior factors involved, then mentally weigh each one to distinguish what's truly important from what's not. Determine where your attachment lies, then devise a plan for wresting yourself from its grip.
- Practice restraint. Stop and consider the harm you might do by acting or speaking impulsively. Then mentally list the immediate and long-term benefits of holding back.
- Talk to yourself. Remind yourself how important tolerance and respect are. Ask yourself, "Who appointed you Czar of the Universe?" Or say things like, "This too is part of Divine Order" and "Accept a little more, agonize a little less."
- Use creative visualization to reframe situations that try your patience. Playfully visualize an entirely different perspective, even if it's out of character for you. Mentally spin out this scenario to its most satisfying and beneficial conclusion for all concerned.

Answer 3

Patience is not necessarily a virtue.

What I suggest is learn to act at the right time. Sometimes we have to wait, sometimes we have to act. Sometimes we have to wait for a while, then act.

The trick is to learn the wisedom of when to wait and when to act. So be a man of action always, but instead of learning patience, learn to wait for the right time to act.

Answer 4

Live life by stretchig it out and cutting it apart, then doing specific tasks in those parts.