Do you think it's harder to come out when you're bisexual then when you're gay?

Question

I mean, considering that bisexuality is associated with promiscuous behavior and indecision.... on top of the whole same sex thing...

Exactly! xyxoxy... that whole get off the fence thing really ticks me off!

Answer 1

i think it depends on a lot of things as to how hard it is. a lot of parents would rather their kid say 'im bisexual' than 'im totally gay' because most everybody wants to be a legitimate biological grandparent. it also depends on how comfortable you are with your sexuality. i agree that bisexuality is a valid sexual identity however it gets a bad wrap since a lot of kids in middle and high school claim they are 'bisexual' but that doesnt mean they are attracted to both, it means they are curious and it seems to have become a trend. society allows a few bad apples to label something, which is sad. when i came out, the only person that i was nervous to tell was my dad. my mom passed away 5 years ago but she knew. she was the first person i told. my brother i told after that. both of them were fine with it and happy that i felt comfortable enough to tell. i dont know why i was so nervous to tell my dad but after i did, he was like 'duhhh' haha. i could care less what the general population thinks. and you know, i think promiscuous behavior is associated with being both gay and bisexual. people still blame gay people for AIDS and lesbians are either 'skanky' or 'hot' depending on who you ask. who fukking knows dude. it depends on how you carry yourself and what your personal morals are as to how most people perceive you. so to answer your question - 'do you think its harder to come out when youre bisexual than when youre gay?'
i think its as hard as you make it. you're gonna face scrutiny no matter what. and people are always going to disagree with you. its how you handle the criticism that really determines how hard its gonna be for you. good question. i hope i made sense.

Answer 2

They both have there difficulties. One would think that coming out as gay would be harder than coming out as bi, but being bi is quite ridiculed by not only straight people but also gay people. So it may be more difficult to come out as bi. But being a teenage bisexual could prove to be extremely difficult verses being a gay teenager, because being bi you would be bombarded with feeling towards a guy andd start to think you were gay but then you would start getting feeling for a girl and then you would get really confused about what/who you are ( identity crisis ). But being gay you will only have feelings for other guys so there is less confusion with ones self. Also if you come out a bi, if you have parents that take it hard chances are they will continuosly presure you to go out with certain girls and most likely will just denie the other half associated with being bi, and there is also the problem that it can be considered a sex addiction, where the person will sleep with anyone. It all really depends on the person, me I would have found it easier being gay, because I would not have had so many crushes on girls before falling in love with a guy, wich was really confusing but I have come to an understanding of what I am, bi.

Answer 3

I think it is easier to try and understand the bi position for a straight gal like me, then to understand gay. Only because I at least understand the female/male attraction while I have not been attracted in a sexual way to the same sex. Does this make any sense? It is not judgement, by any means, and I think you need to follow what your mind, body and heart tell you. I would imagine that it would be hard to commit to one person in a relationship if you have feelings for the opposite gender of that person. Unless they were open to your duality.

Answer 4

I had no trouble realizing and admitting I liked men. It was harder for me to admit to myself that I liked both women and men. But that was because of a built-in predjudice I had from growing up that made me think bisexuals were simply sexual deviants ready to pounce on anything warm.

Thankfully I got over that predjudice.

But I can't tell you how tired I got from hearing my gay friends tell me to "get off the fence" or "choose one already". So in that sense it's harder as well.

Answer 5

Honestly, I think it is. Because of stupid STEREOTYPES, bisexual people are probably less accepted than totally straight people or totally gay people. Some straight people don't accept them because they're seen as pretty much gay. Some gay people don't accept them because they see them as "fence sitters" & such.

I gotta tell the story of my friend Seth who had to come out twice. Seth knew he liked boys at a pretty young age, so he had to deal with coming out to everyone as gay. Of course, that was hard enough. Then in college, he still was very attracted to men, but he found that he was also more attracted to women than he once thought. So then, he had to go back & come out as bisexual to all the people who he had come out as gay to. Luckily, Seth is such an awesome guy anyway, that most of his friends and family (both gay & straight) totally accepted him for who he was.

Answer 6

I thought coming out for gay would be harder... >_>

but in a social sense, probably because Gay/Lesbian has been pervaded into society and has become a "common" thing so to say.


Common as in, many people know about it, but not many know about Bisexualism.

Answer 7

i think of i'm bisexual and that i dont discover it problematic to settle for that i'm 0.5 gay. It think of that many gay human beings say that they are bi beause they think of it somewhat is larger to be Bi than it somewhat is to be gay. it somewhat is authentic on occasion the place the mummy and dad discover out thier toddler is bi and dont react so badly through fact they think of that it truly is in basic terms a point and thier toddler will turn back to commonly used quickly. i think of that Bi is diverse to being gay through fact gay is comepletey into adult men and being 0.5 and nil.5 supplies far greater selection for relaxing and excitment interior the mattress room and relationship. besides sturdy luck

Answer 8

Why do you feel the need to ``Come out``? I`m fairly sure that women won`t want you after a session with a male is made public.

Answer 9

Yes, I think so, SweetElf.

Fortunately, there are people who will love you for who you are, regardless. I , for one, think you are a wonderful person and I am glad to call you a friend!

Answer 10

nope its easier..because being gay is alot harder..depends too..who and where your at.