well me and my husband ben separatd for 2 months lastmonth i found out i was pregnant i tried to work things out with him but he refuse to hes alwyas ignoring me and he tells me that its not his child that someone tld him i sleep around which is a lie i know for sure , i never cheated on him and he never accused me either but i dont know why hes saying that when he know we usedun protected sex because he wanted a child and just cuase we're separated hes saying its not his, im tired and stressed out dealing with him and trying to tell him i need his support andfor him to be there for me, i dont know if hes just saying that cause he doesnt want it or he knows its his but dont want to be there, and women was orin y situation? i really need helpand good advices? will he be there at the end or what should i do to get over this.
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2007-11-12 16:42:56 · 7 answers · asked by rhea 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You need to say to yourself "F him, let me worry about my baby first, when time comes closer he will take a paternity test, he will be tested positive, and he will pay child support" just forget about it. You dont know, maybe he likes the attention, the feeling of being needed. Tell him to his face, with a smile, and in a sweet voice... that "im not going to risk my OUR childs health because you want to cause me stress, so let me take care of OUR baby, when the baby comes we will get a paternity test, which i know will be positive because i have never cheated on you, and all you have to do is pay child support and since you have already shown your true colors, and your chicken personality, give me all rights to the child, and that is the end between me and you." if he starts running back to you, hold strong, dont give in, until you know he is true.
2007-11-12 16:58:21 · answer #1 · answered by Abc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See my friend what I can feel from your condition is that your husband is not supporting you when you need him the most. See the truth of this heartless world is that the lover never stays with you when you need the lover the most. I can feel your condition. See my only advice is to make your loneliness your habit and stay with the sadness all the time and just follow the truth which says that you should stay alone in life and never ever go to your husband even if he wants you to go back. Trust me everything will be all right if you have faith in God. Remember my friend God will only help you if you are a nice person from your heart and don't hurt any one. I promise you if you are a nice girl then one day your husband will come to you to take your child and you back at home but my friend never allow your husband to take you and your child because he has got no right on you and your child. Your child is only yours and no one else. When your child gives birth tell the child all your sadness when you will feel that the child has got the sense to understand. Don't tell the child any lie ok and take care of yourself my friend. I am always there for you. You friend Raj
2007-11-12 21:48:11 · answer #2 · answered by Raj Chan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am experiencing a similar situation, im 18 and 18 weeks pregnant. Me and my babys dad were very close until i told him i was pregnant and when i told him he didnt deny that it was his becasue he knows that he is the only person i have had sex with since april but he started to treat me VERY badly and always thought that he would turn around and he lived at my house but i kicked him out about 3 weeks ago because i got so tired of him treating me so badly and about a week ago he told me he doesnt want to talk to me at all anymore because he has too much stress in his life. He turned his back on me and my unborn baby and i realized that it was for the best because even though it hurts if he isnt going to be there 100% for me and the baby he doesnt need to be there at all. I decided that i am going to go through the rest of my pregnancy alone and raise my child by myself. i am so upset that i have to do this but i have no choice because if i let him stay around me will not be a good dad because he doesnt want the responsibilty. if he wants to be like that do it alone sometimes its the best thing to do. If you get a paternity test when the babys born and he doesnt want anything to do with the baby dont worry about it, you can do it alone but right now dont worry about trying to push this on him, let him think what he wants because no matter what you say he wont believe you, prove him wrong. Good Luck in whatever you choose and congradulations!
2007-11-12 19:36:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately for you and the baby, you will not be able to count on him for emotional support. Look for that support in your friends and family. He WILL whether he likes it or not, be responsible for financial support, unless he requests a DNA test, and it is proven that the child isn't his. If you are sure that isn't an issue, don't let it bother you. Let him think what he wants to, and shell out the $500 or so to get the paternity test to prove what you already know. I would get a lawyer ASAP and find out what your rights are. He may be liable for some of the expenses in regards to the pregnancy, and of course you want to get your case together to keep him from getting custody of the baby when it is born, and to make him pay support.
In short, your personal relationship is over. Find a way to get closure for yourself there, but don't let him get away with not living up to his financial responsibilities to his child.
2007-11-13 04:20:21 · answer #4 · answered by missbeans 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say just let it go...wait til the baby is born even tho its hard to be pregnant and be alone then get a test done and prove its his and then if he still doesn't want to be part of the babies life then its court time
my friend is going threw this right now but he knew she was pregnant when he wanted the separation she is just gonna wait til the baby is born and take I'm to court for full support and to make sure he won't see the baby at all or very much since he was never there
good luck!
2007-11-13 01:10:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems to me that you depend on him emotionally and possibly financially? If you really need him for support and if you are 100 percent sure it's his baby you should take it to court and force a paternity test. Good Luck!
2007-11-12 16:48:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave him.he's an asshole...ignoring his own baby and neglecting you ??!! I don't think he's became a good father for your kid.
2007-11-12 17:00:15 · answer #7 · answered by Betsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋