Ok, so those of you that have read some of my other posts know that I am pregnant and I can't have sex because the doctors have put me on full pelvic rest. Ok so we have always agreed that either of us can be with other women as long as the other one knows what is going on. Neither of us has really done anything both due to a lack of want to and oppertunity. We have although played around with my sister and her husbands. The girls didn't touch and the guys didn't touch, and it was just oral. Since I have not been able to please him I have encouraged him to take advantage of this and there is one girl he talks to but that is all. I download porn for him to watch when he gets home from work and stuff like that.
My friend was horrified when she found out about this, she said that I was being stupid and asking for trouble. However i think it is a good idea to be open to new things. What do you think?
2007-11-12 16:36:02 · 32 answers · asked by Selena H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok i have a relationship that lets me be myself i am married to a man that lets me have a girlfriend and i let him sleep with her. ok what i need you to think of is will this make you jeolise. and do you think him sleeping with this girl she will not get a relationship with him where she wants him even though he is married. our first girl got attached to him and tryed to get in betwean us luckly we are very strong in our relationship we discussed ever out come. and when this happened we got read of her and did not talk to her after she did that.
2007-11-12 17:15:02 · answer #1 · answered by silk 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
"should I allow" is setting my teeth on edge. No human should have that kind of power over another. It happens though, even in America there are slaves. the industry is so evil & starts with porn. feed porn, you feed white slavery, drugs, abuse, rape and most other crimes.
as for monogamus relationships...do you know what's right from wrong & just sugar coating it because we are modern day folks in an advanced culture? IF you don not know what's right from wrong, then it's ok, but way, WAY more risky to loose that special guy, than if you would act old fasion and let your real conscious be your guide as to whats right and wrong.
you are still very attractive, plus he can have you in private to do whatever you can...even if it is just a warm body to masterbate on...that is more sexually satisfying than porn or a maniquinn. Plus you will not keep robbing the relationship of spiritual strength.
2007-11-13 08:20:59 · answer #2 · answered by travis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Where to begin on this one. I really believe married couples should not have relationships with other partners. Its just not right and he may enjoy it too much. Like someone else mentioned, there are other ways to be intimate. Its not a permanent thing for you so you both will be okay. The whole sister thing and her husbands... I just really don't understand that!! I think thats really gross and if it was just an oral thing... I can hardly believe there was no touching! Anyway, good luck.
2007-11-12 17:07:51 · answer #3 · answered by Krystal 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You actually did sexual things with your sister.... that makes me sick. let me tell you something... i too couldn't have sex while pregnant with my son. but do you really think i wanted to loan out my hubby or allow someone else to come into our sex life. where there is a will there is a way. I think your both sicko's. things like this makes me wonder what the hell this world is coming to and where its going, no wonder i get on here all the time and see ppl asking for help cause of cheating etc. Its all about me me me... what ever happened to family values? When did they stop and who allowed them to do so.
2007-11-13 00:39:20 · answer #4 · answered by deerlady2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Full pelvic rest? What the hell is that? Are you wearing it out? Messing around with your sister and her husband? Awsome! I do like the fact that you all have standards, with the no guy or gal touching thing. In my opinion, you should be careful, this type of behavior will lead to one of you taking out an insurance policy on the other and cashing in. I saw it on court TV.
2007-11-12 16:47:16 · answer #5 · answered by sgt 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wife swapping and "swinging" is one thing if you are both doing it, but you being preggars and him wanting a little on the side is not the same as an open marriage.
IMHO as long as you are ready willing and able to satisfy him with an alternative he is abusing things you agreed upon when the playing field was level...... for him to expect to be able to have one at home barefoot and preggars and have another on the side your marriage will slowly deteriorate because of the inequality.
As for down loading goodies for him, as long as you both enjoy this and it enables you to have a sex life with out intercourse I think you could be one special gal and he better keep you happy....
I do have two questions, if it was all oral with your sister and her spouses, as in more than one husband, why did she lose hubby # 1, because she was into extra activeties???
And #2 question, why aren't you pleasuring him oral your self, movies are fine but an extra female ???? why don't you ? ? /can't you do this your self
2007-11-12 16:59:18 · answer #6 · answered by Judy 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Your friend is right - being married is about an exclusive commitment to a single other person. You can also still get things like herpes and syphilis from oral contact. He is the father of your child and should act like , no matter if you foolishly encourage him.
BTW - have you thought about what would happen if in his playing around he found someone he liked better and left you and the baby?
2007-11-12 16:42:03 · answer #7 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
are you for real? "that either of us could be with other women?" So you bi-sexual? Girls don't touch just oral? Doesn't that require that you touch the other person? You download porn for him? It sounds like you place an un-healthy exclusive focus on sex within your relationship.....I don't sense any sacredness in your intimate relationship with your husband..frankly it sounds like a free for all.. I can't see how you or he can ever feel truly satisfied within your relationship...Why do other people have to be involved? You are pregnant are there any boundries?
2007-11-12 16:57:32 · answer #8 · answered by only1sol2000 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I want to be open minded about this but I truly feel in my heart and mind that you are making a mistake with this. You may not be able to have full sex but your mouth isn't broken. Your husband isn't some animal that must have full penetrative sex or he'll die.
In the end you'll do what you want but I don't think it will turn out as well as you hope it will.
2007-11-12 16:46:55 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Either your the most understanding wife in the planet or you are plain crazy. I think he's lucky to have a crazy/understanding wife that cares about his needs. If you allow him to be with other women, maybe you should supervise, that way you can be a part of it too. I'm talking out of my @ss, I'm just trying to understand the situation at your level.
2007-11-12 16:42:56 · answer #10 · answered by nyc718 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
he can go with out for 9 months, you are too.
i had a marriage where we were "open". after he cheated on me a number of times(with out telling me) because in his mind he had done it before why wouldnt it be ok now?
you need to stop this because it will lead to more trouble than it is worth.
2007-11-12 17:28:36 · answer #11 · answered by nightbutterfly69 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋