Whats best for the kids?

Question

While I was playing with my kids today my daughter told me that her mothers boyfriend had hit her mother and hurt her pretty badly. The comment came from out of no where(we werent discussing satan or her minions)and i came to the realization that my daughter had seen it first hand. I called her mother and she flat out denied that anything had happened. I know from experience that Liz isnt the most credible person ive ever met and that children do tend to exaggerate situations, but i think my daughter is being truthful for the most part. So who would you believe, your four year old little girl, or the ex with very very little credibilty

for the record i have no intentions of calling the police. my daughter wasnt hurt my ex was and based on past experiences she probably asked for it. My dilema is what impact would keeping the children from their mother have on them. I have full custody so the ball is in my court. My four year old should never have to witness her mother being hit. I m thinking of issuing her boyfriend a healthy *** whippin just based on the fact that my girl might have been there.

Answer 1

your daughter, a little kid wouldnt lie about anything like that

Answer 2

I would believe the four year. Second of all I would have no hasitation of getting the child out of that situation coz it is oviously affecting the child and I would have social services investigate the matter and I would also have the police interveiw both the mother and the boyfriend.

Answer 3

I would believe there was some truth to what your daughter is saying, but her perception might be different than an adults. You know how kids like it when a person pretends to be hurt so they can be the one to make that person feel better? It's not likely, but it's possible it was something like that.
I'd err on the side of caution... whatever that means to you.

Answer 4

I dont see any reason for a 4 yr old to jsut come out wiht somthign liek that unless it were true, eitehr way I would do somthing about ti becasue you dont want to risk your childern being dammaged and if it was true and they were hur you would never forgive yourself. it sounds like you are a good dad and liek you love your babies to death so call the cops or what ever the correct course of action is for somthing liek this maby is CAS? the dammage will be much worse if you do somthign and its not true than if you don do somthing and it is. Good luck

Answer 5

Im with the others, believe your little girl. Call some of your Ex's friends if you can and ask them. But I would definitely believe my daughter.

Answer 6

I'll believe the little girl, but there's not much you can do about it. The situation does not concern you . You can talk to the mother and try to get her to find help for being abused. As for your daughter. You have no proof, so you back to square one...nothing much you can do, unless he actually hits your child. Then all hell brakes loose.

Answer 7

I'd tend to believe the four year old.
My partner has a son who lives with my partners ex. The ex is in a relationship where her and her boyfriend hit each other. My partners son tells us. My partner left his ex because she was abusive. So it all makes sense. There is a pattern to her behaviour.

Answer 8

The little girl...she isn't at the age yet where she knows what lying is....so call the police and report what your daughter saw...and I'd take some action (like taking the kids away from her, till she gets her rear in gear and shapes up.)

Answer 9

I think I'd believe the daughter. Children at that age tend to blurt out things honestly (not knowing social customs that well yet), and abused women often deny that they're being abused.

Answer 10

children do tend to exagerate situations some but in a situation like this, she is telling the truth. your daughter has nothing to gain from exagerating this story. shes only four and saw something she knew was wrong and is telling you because she doesnt know what else to do. do whats right, you know shes telling the truth or you wouoldnt be debating it.

Answer 11

if your ex denied it, it would probably be best to assume she's telling the truth. just in case, i would keep an eye out for any bruises on her or anything like that in the future.

im saying this because if you call the police, you might be making a bigger problem out of the situation than it really is, which would only cause problems for your children. if you don't see any bruises on your ex, she's probably fine.