I've watched pornography before and all that so I know what it looks like, but I'm not really sure what to do for the first time. I want it to be perfect.
2007-11-12 16:26:02 · 26 answers · asked by Mikey 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
If you love each other it's the perfect next step. It will bring you closer if you do it right. Forplay is needed for both of you: touching, caressing and lots of kisses (my first time had a 4 hour foreplay). Get naked and feel each other, cuddle and make out for as long as you can stand. Use vitamine C (C for condom). Let her put it on, it will make her more confident that she plays an important role :)
It's gonna hurt for her so move slow (put a towel under her so that the mess will not extend to the sheets). After you're all in, don't move until she tells you to. I know it's difficult, but restrain is essential.
If she gives her ok, on your marks, get set, go!
Remember there's always tomorrow to continue if things end quickly ;)
Have fun you too (I simply loved my first time) and it's something you will both remember forever :)
2007-11-12 18:20:56 · answer #1 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
First, check out some websites or whatever other information you can find about ways to prevent pregnancy and STDs. Make sure you use a condom, and it's a big plus if she's on some form of birth control.
Second, please please please do not try to have porn star sex with the poor girl the first time... Be gentle and slow and just work your way through things together. It's what the human body was made to do, so things will just come naturally.
Take your time and make sure that she is aroused. Not being fully aroused is one of the main reasons that sex is uncomfortable for women. I'm sure she'll be nervous, and so will you, but don't rush.
Last, don't expect fireworks. Most of the time, the first time having sex is just kinda blah. It's quick, and awkward, and when you finish you'll probably just be thinking, "that was it?" But don't be disappointed. There is plenty of time to practice in the future.
And do not have sex unless you are both totally ready for it. You really need to talk about it a lot, and you need to really honestly ask yourself what the two of you would do if you have a baby in 10 months, because that is the reality of having sex.
Just think it through first, be VERY safe, and take your time. There's really not much else to know.
2007-11-13 00:37:28 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Making love to the person you care about is nothing like porn. Pornography shows the extreme side of sex when little to no affection is shown. And if it is, is really bad acting. And to top it all off, most porn is shown with the guy using no protection. Aside from waiting until you marry the person you will spend the rest of your life with, you both need to do some heavy duty talking to each other about the pros and cons. Having sex in the heat of the moment is what causes a lot of couples to end up with an unwanted pregnancy. If you really want it to be perfect, wait until you marry the perfect person. No condoms will be necessary and it will be extremely rewarding for the both of you when this event finally happens to you.
2007-11-13 11:04:57 · answer #3 · answered by gleemonex69 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well Dont Try And Make It Like The Pornos Uve watched, It Shudnt B Hardcore Like Porn, It Should Be Coz U Love Her. Make Sure U Get A Condom, not Jus 4 Protection But Makes It Easier N Less Painfull! Jus Make Sure Ur Alone At Home Or Something And Take It Slowly...Dont Expect 2 Much Either...Have Fun x
2007-11-13 02:18:11 · answer #4 · answered by fairyprincesssasy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say "my girlfriend" is ready to have sex, you didn't say "my girlfriend AND I are ready to have sex". It sounds to me that you don't feel ready yet. Don't let someone force you to be ready before you really are. You'll regret the whole experience if you do.
If you want the experience to be "perfect" the most important thing to do is make sure you feel completely sure that you aren't going to regret later. You only get one first time, you want it to be a good memory. The sex itself won't be great, and frankly, you'll forget most of that aspect of it. What you will remember is how you felt at the time, and then afterwards. Make sure that those feelings aren't going to be loss, regret, or embarrassment.
If you do feel ready, make sure you use protection. Make sure you know the proper way or using a condom ahead of time (also if you feel too embarrassed to buy condoms, you aren't ready), and it is probably a good idea to be doubly protected...you're girlfriend should go on the pill. Don't use the pill as your only protection though...you can still get diseases. Good luck making the right decision for YOU.
2007-11-13 12:36:49 · answer #5 · answered by missbeans 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahaha =)
Perfect? Don't bother. The first time is usually rough and just...not the best sex. You're both new to it. the first time you play an instrument, you're terrible, you have no idea what you're doing. Your main goal is just to not look bad. As you progress though, you get better. Sex is the same. The first time, just try to enjoy it. Focus on her. It'll be a little awkward, but the important thing is to be able to laugh an awkwardness off. Have fun =)
2007-11-13 03:06:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 16 year old girl who tells her boyfriend she's ready is not the kind of girl you need in your life. Do you ever wonder who the girls are who sleep with multiple guys and give one guys' Herpes or Chlamedia ( or anyone of dozens of diseases) to another poor unsuspecting guy?
Listen if and when you catch something from a girl like this, pregnancy is the least of your worries. There ARE plenty of men who have a life long venereal disease that they caught from their girl friends whom they trusted. Unless they're gay, this is exactly the way an unsuspecting guy gets infected.
Even with protection, most veneral diseases can be transmitted from other kinds of contact. Once it's too late and you've caught something, then when you really do meet the girl of your dreams, you'll either have to infect her, or you'll have to tell her what you have (and will have forever) and there will be an almost certain risk of losing her with heart break for both of you.
Find a sweet, sexy yet innocent girl you can respect and have fun with, but without going all the way. A girl who's happy to find a respectable guy who's waited too. If you find a girl like that and both of you wait until you're married, then neither one of you will ever have to worry about infecting each other, unwanted pregnancies, broken hearts and other issues.
Girls who're looking for it in high school are not the kind of girl you want. TRUST ME. You'll look back at this advice as the best advice you ever got. Your dad should have warned you about girls like this.
Never feel like you have to have sex because she wants to. It's perfectly manly (and VERY strong and disciplined of you) to say that you don't think you guys are ready to live with the consequences of having sex at this time. If she respects you, then she's smart. If she doesn't she's dangerous and unworthy.
2007-11-13 15:45:10 · answer #7 · answered by TJTB 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HOnestly , My best advice is sex is not a step to be taken lightly. You both need to sit down and weigh out the pros and cons. If you're 16 now, it's likely you two won't be together forever. Sex comes with scars. Emotional and physical. She may think she's ready but in actuality I think it's best to wait to you're both adults and this decision is a choice you've placed careful thought into. If you really want advice try talking to your father about it. If you're adult enough to take on sex you should be adult enough to talk to your parents about it. Read up on stds and pregnancy. Condoms always. but the safest sex is no sex.
2007-11-13 01:56:37 · answer #8 · answered by Waiting Patiently 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it are you ready to deal with the consequences if she ends up pregnant (and no abortion is not a good answer) if you are then go ahead but I can tell you it will be 1000 times more rewarding if you wait until youre married and rub it in everyones face that thought you were doing it all along. If not then still wait for marriage, you actually may feel guilty you didnt wait after youve done it your first time having sex. My parents made the mistake (my mother had over 11 abortions) and I dont want anyone to go through the same thing trust me waiting wont kill you.
2007-11-13 01:56:28 · answer #9 · answered by Ariana, <3 Deaf Dogs 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
no such thing as a perfect first time. you're gonna suck really bad at it and so will she. it won't feel like it to you, but trust me, it'll be horrible or so so for her. can't avoid it, you lack experience and no matter how much porn you've watch, it ain't the same. not even close, cuz those girls are so far beyond any average girl you'll encounter. and the guys are on a level most men will never achieve. you're gonna suck real bad. why isn't your dad telling you this? this is why you have a dad, kid.
2007-11-13 05:20:04 · answer #10 · answered by optcynbassist 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋