I was dating this guy and he was cheating on me with a girl i used to know. So i told her he was a cheater and showed her pictures to prove it. I told her that she better not kick him out (He was living with her... wow... sorry still in shock) until he has a place to stay and if she does she and i will have problems. She is 17 and i turned 18 November 2nd.
Her mother came over to my house today screaming at me, trying to get me to hit her. I have a 1 year old daughter and the chicks mom said, "I am going to bring this e-mail to the sherriffs office and start a DCF case against you. Hopefuly they will find you a fit mother after they see what kind of person you are."
Okay, first off, i am a very good person. I do everything i can for my friends and even people i dont know. I take good care of my daughter.
I want to file charges on her before she charges me. She came to my house and threghtend me. She stood on my pourch and screamed and got in my face and i didnt say anything back.
2007-11-12 15:50:33 · 25 answers · asked by Emma 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
You are asking why i told her not to kick him out, it is because i have been best friends with him for 2 years. He moved to MA a year and a half ago and moved back down to FL to 'be with me' hah I care for this guy, even though he hurt me he came down here for a new start, to get away from his past in MA. I dont want him to fall back into that life by being on the streets.
The pictures i showed her were just of he and i hanging out and one of us making out.
He told me he only dated her because they would kick him out if he didnt. Okay, whatever, he did it for him, so what? He dosent love me like he says he does, big woop. :)
Also, the chick he cheated on me with (Heather) and i have known eachother since grade school and were even good friends up until about 2 years ago, we just stoped talking. She does not want to file charges and she was trying to get her mom away from me.
I am not immature. I didnt ask for this! I worte her because everyone should know if their guy is ****
2007-11-12 16:18:24 · update #1
You could file it first and say you sent the e mail cause she threatened you first. You file first!
Would you guys pretty please please please answer this? ;)
Pretty, pretty thanks! But wait a 17 year old is going out with your ex who must be older isn't that illegal????? If the mother files charges against you, you could claim that you did it cause she threatened you and that she is going out with a man who is older which would get him in trouble!
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2007-11-12 15:58:46 · answer #1 · answered by ♂♥♀ & ♀♥♂ ∞! Love Oh Love ! ♫♥♪ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the police and tell them you'd like to press charges. If she does act on her threat of calling DCF. If they even act on it, they will send someone out to inspect your home and discuss what the complaint was. Then they will ask if you know so and so. Then you get a chance to explain that she was acting out against you because you found out your boyfriend cheated on you with her. He/she will see that it's a revenge thing and leave you with an apology for wasting your time. That is so long as you have a clean home and you child is is well taken care of.
But you should have called the police the moment that girls mom started yelling. That way the 911 operators would have heard the threat and all you had to say was that you have a baby and are afraid for your safety. She would have gone to jail because the operator would have heard the threat and the recording of it would have been admissable.
You can still call the police and press charges saying she threatened you and that you are afraid for you and your baby's safety since she came to your door.
2007-11-12 16:00:36 · answer #2 · answered by Carol T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"I was dating this guy" With that being said I think it is safe to assume that you aren't currently dating him. As to why you felt the urge to tell she could not kick him out otherwise you two would "have problems", I have no idea.Seems you showed her pictures either to warn her of the type of guy he was or to get some mild form of revenge.
With that being said, if she took your advice and didn't want to date a cheater, why would you think she owed him some place to live? Why are you standing up for some guy...who is unable to take care of himself and has to bunk at a girls house to get by (yes... he sounds like a wonderful catch).
The mother was way out of line, I agree. However I can see where she might think you were making a threat. I really don;t think a sheriff is going to waste much time with such a little thing. Her coming to you house and flipping out on the other hand, could lead to you having ground for a restraining order placed on her.
What this really sounds like to me, is immaturity run wild on all sides. Filing charges before them? Are you kidding me? That doesn't make a lick of difference. My best advice would be, not to worry about you ex, avoid him and his new girlfriend and move on with your life.
2007-11-12 16:01:58 · answer #3 · answered by First & Ten 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has nothing on you other than you proving that your ex was cheating. If you are truly afraid that she is going to do anything to you than you can file a tro (temporary restraining order) and have the police look into it. As far as being shown as an unfit mother, that's a grey area and she can file a report with CPS (child protective services) and they may make a trip to check on you, but if you're a decent mother you'll be fine. They can't do anything unless something is SERIOUSLY wrong (take it from me, I graduate in may with my B.S. In Social Work). In other words, don't worry. As long as you haven't said anything threatening or harmful to any of them you have nothing to worry about=]
2007-11-12 15:57:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, neither one of you can file charges. it's not considered harrassment until it becomes an every day thing.
i had my upstairs neighbor calling Children services on me constantly, the cops were at my house every day, and she was making up crazy stories. she was calling my husband's boss, and it was never ending with her.
She came down stairs and told him to turn his music down and told him she would slit his throat (mind you it wasn't our music it was in a building across the street)
We tried to file charges but they said there's not enough to file.
we finally got to file after she called our house 3 times...
This went on for a year before we could actually file charges.
the mom is just trying to scare you. Don't listen to her. and tell her next time she comes around you will call the cops.
they will make her leave and tell her not to return. then if she does you will have more against her and maybe be able to file charges.
2007-11-12 15:59:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
All other things being normal in your life, I assume, Let it go....No harm no foul...If she attempts to have you evaluated as a fit mother there shouldn't be any legitimate reason to pursue it. If you want to place charges on her you need a witness and a legitimate threat against you which means you would have called the cops when it happened.
2007-11-12 16:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by lenzix5 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first off why shouldnt she kick him out he is a loser and you are 18 which makes her a minor so she cld take terroristic threating charges on you....... now i was a social worker for 10 yrs dont worry about dss they are maybe just gonna let you know that u have to stay away from her .be at ease move on u deserve more
2007-11-12 15:58:47 · answer #7 · answered by Psychologist In The House 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you threatened her by saying she would have problems if she kicked him out for cheating. Stupid move. You have no bussiness interfering and making threats. The cops don't give a sh** about a bunch of kids fighting and making empty threats. Just take this as a leason learned and stay out of all these people's lives. It is none of your concern any more.
2007-11-12 15:58:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO, But I wouldn't fool with those bunch of loonies. What kind of pictures are you flashing around anyway. If they are bad I would get rid of them if I were you. If she does claim that you are an unfit mother I wouldn't have the pics around. Good Luck!!
2007-11-12 16:11:08 · answer #9 · answered by mikk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can yell and scream all she wants and can even talk to DCF, but there has to be more than just a random statement for any real action to occur.
2007-11-12 15:56:54 · answer #10 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah what email??
i'm sure unless in the email you were threatning someone or having sex or said that you had sex the only thing you could get in trouble for is having sex under the age of 18 nothing else you could get your kid taken away or anything else like that. And if that lady did get in your face next time if she does do it call the cops
2007-11-12 15:55:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋