My birthday is coming up this week (i'll be 16) and my dad is going to take me to a really nice and expensive dinner place. about $40-50 per entree per person not including dessert. my dad wants to invite a bunch of his lady friends like he did last year... which i did not like. i do not want them to come because it is MY birthday and i don't really wanna see them. and the reason they come is because they get to go shopping with my dad before hand and he probably buys them stuff. AND They get a really nice meal FREE. so they pretty much use my dad. would it be wrong to say i don't want them to come? i feel bad b/c he is planning them to come... what do i do? and then he would have to tell them i don't want them to come (probably a couple ladies)
2007-11-12 15:18:53 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i know the ladies b/c they "SURPRISED" me at my birthday last year and they want to come again this year...
2007-11-12 15:35:02 · update #1
tell your dad this year its just you two no friends, a father daughter dinner, i would'nt mind if my daughter told me that, 16 is a big deal be honest it will work out
2007-11-12 15:34:29 · answer #1 · answered by halicon2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey..you need to tell your dad all that and more...tell him exactly what it is..and don't forget to tell him it is out of love that you are doing this..why should you watch your father suffer on your birthday?...anyways either way he takes it, the ladies will be cancelled coz if he gets mad there probably won't be a restaurant to go out to and there will be no ladies..and if he does take it the right way..then the ladies will be gone..and if he does take it the right way but invites the ladies then ask him why he is doing all this?..is it for impressing others or for you..it is YOUR birthday..one day in your life, let the rules go your way..not in the selfish way...but in this case..you need some daughter-father time any way.
2007-11-12 15:44:10 · answer #2 · answered by Faith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... first ask him who he plans to invite and if it really is a bunch of chicks, then tell him you want to have a night of just you and him going out for your birthday. Maybe tell him that you also think that he would end up spending too much money if extra people were to join you two. That way you can drop it on him easily and not upset him. Don't worry, he should understand. He is your dad after all.
2007-11-12 15:32:32 · answer #3 · answered by Lacey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg i would totally express how you feel to your dad. and should not feel bad about feeling this way this is your 16 birthday a very special moment in a young girls life...trust i know i just had my 16th birthday in september. when you approach you dad just keep it positive and make the reason for them not to come because you feel this is a time that just the two of you two should share together...*you could say*.. "dad this is my 16th birthday, a new chapter in my life and new beginning...and i want to experience and celebrate it with you dad since you've been here to experience eveyrthing up until this moment...id like if you wouldn't invite your lady friends because this is a personal moment for me and i'd like to celebrate MY 16th with you dad and wouldn't it any other way"
2007-11-12 15:35:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be ok to tell yoour dad that you want it to just be him and you (or him and you and your guests) because if they are there you feel like you can't interact with him the same way.
If it is a big problem, just let it go...that's just the way your dad is...there are lots of ways to celebrate your birthday, just have fun and bring some friends who will make it a good time.
Happy Birthday!
2007-11-12 15:41:16 · answer #5 · answered by joellemoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, Sweetie it is not wrong to tell your dad that. You need to be able to tell him how you feel. It is YOUR birthday. I am 28 now and when I was in 8th grade my mother told me that I could ask my boyfriend to a movie and she would take us. I was really surprised. So, I did only later to find out she only done that so she could go out with someone and my grandparents not fuss at her about it. Long story short disaster is an understatement. Tell your dad and have a heart to heart. He should understand
2007-11-12 15:27:16 · answer #6 · answered by zetty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that You don't want to share him this birthday and ask if they can have dinner with him some other time so that you don't have to share him with them. I get it from this that your dad is separate from you mother so even if he tells them that you don't want them to be there, no harm is done because you are setting ground rules for if they want to become more than friends with him. tell him it is your birthday and you would rather bring some of your friends to the party instead of his but you would rather it be just the two of you. Happy Birthday!!
2007-11-12 15:32:48 · answer #7 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-24 03:28:56 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is YOUR birthday, so Dad should respect YOUR wishes. Ask him if as an additional present, just YOU AND HE could go to the restaurant this year. I am assuming that your Dad is single--tell him that you don't mind him spending time with these ladies when you are not around, assuming you DON'T mind.
2007-11-12 15:29:15 · answer #9 · answered by Mike 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be honest with your dad and let him know how you feel. You will probably get a better outcome if you steer the feeling of the conversation towards you wanting to spent time with only him than you not wanting them there.
2007-11-12 15:59:21 · answer #10 · answered by Hubby . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of putting a negative spin on it, tell your dad, dad, I want us, just the two of us to go on my birthday date this year..... the do the cutesy pretty please thing and see what happens..... and if he asks why, just say, dad, I want us to try to spend more quality time together..... then you have to follow through, by actually trying to find time to spend with your dad other than when he is going to spend money on you or when you want something.........
Good luck
2007-11-12 15:24:50 · answer #11 · answered by bizzymom38 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋