Maybe he should just go out and find someone who does. Whadda ya think...?
And no, he is not ugly, dirty, or abusive, just in case you were thinking along those lines...
2007-11-12 15:10:20 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have you spoken to your wife about her not finding your desireable anymore?
2007-11-12 15:16:34 · answer #1 · answered by CHARLES R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is just not showing her enough attention or making her feel attractive. Why is it the very first thing that pops in a mans head is to go find another woman. That other woman will be just like the wife after awhile. Be a man and find the problem and fix it. Chances are you know what the problem is.
2007-11-13 05:39:46 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
Marriage is like a mirror, you see what is in front of you. Don't think she doesn't think you are attractive. Tell her she is and show her she is and treat yourself well. Do not gain weight and keep youself interested in her. Believe me she will have no choice but to think you are. You must know her and her likes and dislikes, if you car and love her then you will know what attracted her to you in the first place and go back to doing it. If you don't care about her, then the whole thing doesn't matter because the first thing that came to your mind....do I go out and look for someone else???? This should not be an end....look into your investment in the marriage.
Good luck
2007-11-19 05:53:37 · answer #3 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a big no-no. Why not try to find the cause of this? Do things that will ignite the fire again... remember the early years of your relationship. Think of the moment how did the two of you end up to be a couple...the courtship period. I may sound old-fashioned and traditional, but, the best and surest way to find the solution is to go to the heart of the matter. Somehow, somewhere, someone did lax. Go and win your wife, again. Bestluck!
2007-11-12 23:23:38 · answer #4 · answered by Justine 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Easy:
First ask your wife if she still WANTS to find you desirable. If she wants to find you attractive, but simply doesn't anymore, that can be fixed with counseling and maybe a visit by "Queer Eye for the Straight Guy".
If she hints that she'll never ever find you attractive again, then I think you should go out and meet other women, pending your divorce. Emotional attachment is important, but mutual attraction is also an indispensible part of a relationship.
2007-11-12 23:29:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, it sounds like they have some problems they need to work out. Going out and finding someone who thinks he is desirable is NOT a good thing to do. It only makes a bad problem worse.
I would suggest trying to find the root of her issue. If by "she no longer finds him desirable" you mean she doesn't want sex, you may want to find what the real problem is-- it may be that she is having hormone issues. There may be things she can do about it.
2007-11-12 23:20:00 · answer #6 · answered by mj69catz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK. I am going out on a limb here but..... maybe he should ask her why. Then maybe if it something he can fix he could try. If not then try some therapy. Dont be in such a hurry to jump in the sack with someone else. The grass isn't greener on the other side....it's just trimmed different
2007-11-12 23:18:15 · answer #7 · answered by natasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man should first look into himself and ask if he has caused this change. And if so, is he willing to change back.
If not, he will only have two options.
Live a the life of a man that has honored his commitments, but has no partner in love
OR
Live the life of a man who has not honored his commitments and has a chance at having a partner in love.
Neither is a very welcome choice, but one must be made.
2007-11-12 23:38:35 · answer #8 · answered by Hubby . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should ask himself why he caused this to happen in the first place. Has the man been treating his wife like dirt, or has he always been courteous towards her, dumping the male ego and going out of his way to make sure she`s happy?
That, is what marriage is about..
2007-11-12 23:16:10 · answer #9 · answered by I tell it like it is 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first bear in mind that your idea of being treated desirably may be something that your wife knows nothing about.
i'd address the differences of opinions of behavior with her first.
and ask yourself, what would having an affair accomplish?
most likely, she's thinking that you don't desire her either and so why even try when he ain't interested.
2007-11-12 23:48:38 · answer #10 · answered by celticbuddha 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋