Am i weird bcuz i dont have sex?? Am 14?

Question

i feel like a worthless idiot..dummy b-cuz i haven't had sex..like i've fooled around, but i didnt like it at all, and i felt nasty after it, im 14. But ALL of my friends are having sex at least twice a week. Whats wrong with me?? I cry about it alot.

Answer 1

Don't cry about it.

You're one of the few smart ones left out there.

Don't worry about having sex. When you see a girl having a baby at 14 because she was "being cool" by having sex, you'll realize that you're doing the right thing.

Good for you :)

Answer 2

First of all, your friends are NOT having sex twice a week. I can guarantee that. Your friends are talking big to try to impress people. There is no way that you should be having sex at 14. Just think about how much of a dummy you would feel like b-cuz you show up at school pregnant in the 9th grade.

Do not be upset about this, or think there is anything wrong with you. If there are people around you having sex at 14 they are the ones who should be feeling bad about it.

Answer 3

You are not weird, I would call you wise. You have a very good head on your shoulders, don't fall into peer pressure. I lost my virginity at 15, only to be dumped by the guy a week later. It was a game to him, you don't want to do that. I regret every moment of it, and wish to god i could change it. PLease do not cry, you should not be sad, don't let people tell you that your strange, they'll find out that what their doing, they will regret later on hun. They will realize they made mistakes, and hopefully learn from them before its too late. These days girls are having sex at younger and younger ages, but you are doing the right thing, it's okay that you fooled around, you are ready when you feel ready, but the fact that you didn't like it or that you felt nasty about it afterwards, that is probably because subconsciously you know that you are not ready, that you don't want to sleep around, and that sex should be meaningful to you. I know this is probably a really long answer, but I just wanted to reassure you that you are completely normal, and you will know when it's right for you. Be a leader, not a follower, meaning don't have sex if you don't want to just because other girls are doing it. Trust me, I have experienced alot in my day, and I wish I would have been strong enough to not fall into the pressures of the teenage mind. I hope this helps you sweetie.

Answer 4

Do you know what? I congratulate you. I really do - you have at least some sense in you to wait until you're ready. I think the reason you felt 'nasty after it' was because you weren't ready to do sexual things but you did them because you felt you should. I think the reason you cry is because you see something other people are doing and you're not - I know what it's like to be on the outside, looking in and wishing I was doing what people were doing. You say you feel like a 'worthless idiot' - imagine the scene: you've woken up after a party, you got completely out of your head and slept with 'some guy'. All it was, was basic sex. No comfort, no warmth -nothing. Just cold, hard sex. You see the guy sitting up, groaning as he looks at you. He dresses and leaves. Believe me, then you will feel like a worthless idiot. I am proud of you for being different to your friends, being the one person who doesn't follow the crowd but is her own person, with her own values. When I was fourteen, one or two of my friends were having sex and for a while, I thought what it would be like to have sex. But looking back now, almost three years on, I'm in a long term relationship and it's both our first sexual relationship. If you have sex with guys, you'll be attracting the wrong ones. Wait for the guy who'll see you as his world. Good luck chicken =)

Answer 5

Kudos to you!!! Dont feel down about it be proud! Im 19 and I still have yet to have sex and you know it feels great because I am engaged and we are faithfully waiting until marriage to finally do it. People may laugh but remember you cant get pregnant and when they do you are still getting an education and will have a better job and life than them in the future. Im glad to see someone else who is still a virgin (even at 14 thats really good) but really dont let it get you down. Itll be 1000 times more satisfying knowing that you can control yourself and wait and even more so when you can look at your families dumbfounded face and say "you know all those times you thought we were doing something, well tonight is the FIRST time youre right"
Stay strong... boyfriends come and go and if you have sex with them you will get emotionally attached and breakups will be so much harder because youll have given a part of yourself to them.

Answer 6

Dont feel like a idoit. You'l be the one bragging that you don't have a baby on your back when your at the park. Don't feel because of sex. Stay sex free until you can support a baby.( Even if its after marriage )
And besides, your "friends" are probly not tell the truth that they have sex twice a week.
And probly the reason why you felt nasty after being with that guy is because he wasnt the right one. Theres nothing wrong with you sweetie. Just your one of the smart people left in this dumb *** world.

I hope l helped
~Annay

Answer 7

You are a lot more mature than any of your 14 year old friends. Why? Because you have the guts to say uumm no thanks leave me alone, i'm not ready for that. They don't, a guy say lets go, they do. So in my book you're the bigger person by far. Anytime someone has sex, they should be prepare for a baby or an std, even proctection both of these can happen. So keep it up, don't let some loser guy or girl that matter talk you into anything, its your body, and you should keep respecting it like you do!!

Answer 8

Not weird, smart. You are way to young for sex- no matter what your friends are doing. They aren't smart enough to know better.

It is hard as a teenager. But follow your gut. 14 is way too young for sex under any reasons. You will have plenty of time for your sexual life. I waited until college and was glad that I did. I may not have been as adventurous as some of my friends, but I was not a teenage mom, I haven't gotten any STD's...

I know have a great sex life... with my husband. After I was in a committed relationship- marriage- sex was great, and that is the way it is suppose to be.

Don't let anyone make you feel that you are missing anything. Now most of my friends say the sex when they were younger was terrible, and some of my friends have teenagers from unwanted pregnancies and have had a really difficult life.

Be true to yourself.

Answer 9

There is nothing wrong with you honey. You are the normal one. You should not be having sex at 14. Do not cry about it. Once you get a reputation for being easy it is hard, nearly impossible, to get rid of it. If you did not like it at all you are definitely not ready. Do not rush it. You will be grown up before you know it wishing you were a kid again.

Answer 10

Omgosh dont cry!! Your perfectly fine and you should be proud of yourself! Virginity is very special and u cant just give it away like that you have to save it for the one you love. Im waiting till im married and im 14 too. Girl there are plenty of teens who are older than u who didnt even have a gf or bf yet. Your friends sound like whores. Dont follow in their foot steps plus they're way to young for that kinda stuff anyway. Next thing you know they'll be on Maury trying to find out who there baby's daddy is! They're the ones that are dumb not you.

Answer 11

Do not cry about not having sex! You are ONLY 14!! If your friends are 14 and having sex, they are little skankerellas and will probably have an STD before they are 20. Also when you find one of your friends is pregnant and you aren't, you will be relieved you did not hace sex.

So don't do it, there are major consequences. No one is ready to have sex at 14, its ridiculous.