help clean up what both boys messed up? i don't think so. what do you think, would you insist that the child help clean up?
or would you go along with, "he's a guest, he shouldn't have to clean up"?
2007-11-12 14:53:19 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Guests apply to adults. Kids should help clean up. Your kids should help clean up when they sleep over their friends' house, and their friends should help clean up their mess at your house.
Good luck.
2007-11-12 15:00:07 · answer #1 · answered by ღ†Rocker Wife†ღ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, if he helped make the mess he should be asked to help clean up even if a guest. It's fair on his friend. I don't think he should have to do as much, or clean up other messes in the house, but if he was involved he should help clean it.
2007-11-13 06:47:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is always nice when my friends help to clean up. It is definatly not way out there for the parents to want the friends to help clean up their messes but a lot of the times it how they are brought up and because they are a guest the parents can't really say that they can't do anything until the mess is cleaned. In my case most of my friends are really close to my mom so my mom will get they to clean up if they don't already to so but if i ever bring a new friend home and they don't clean up, my mom will usualy ask me to quickly do it.
2007-11-12 23:00:36 · answer #3 · answered by I Solemnly Swear 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should even have to ask.
When sleeping over at someone's house, you are the guest, but it's simple common courtesy to help clean up. I always make sure the mess we made looks better than it did before I even got there. They're allowing me to spend the night, so it's the least I can do.
2007-11-12 23:13:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should def. do a "Boys...help clean" but at the same time, this is a special treat so if the mess isn't too large, just leave it for the morning.
And plus, the kid's 14...if there's a mess he should be able to clean after himself and his guests, or even he himself will have the guest help (esp. if they're good friends). It teaches good hosting skills and responsibility and such.
2007-11-12 22:58:27 · answer #5 · answered by crimson_heaven 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who is a guest at someone else's house, regardless of age can be expected to help clean up the messes they have helped make. Obviously, you don't ask the kid to do the supper dishes or anything, but a good guest (and yes we should all be teaching kids to be good guests) will OFFER to help out, it is all a part of showing your hosts you appreciate them for accommodating you.
2007-11-13 12:44:15 · answer #6 · answered by missbeans 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should put the responsibility on your son. Tell him that you will not be cleaning up the messes he makes with his friend(s), and that if he doesn't want to do it by himself, he needs to tell the other boy(s) they should help. It makes it more like he is the host, rather than you. He's at an age now where he's going to want more independence, and accountability comes along with that. If he wants friends in what he considers "his" space, he can be responsible for figuring out how to handle it. He's too old for the "I'll tell my mom to make you do it" thing, and he probably doesn't want to involve you at all at his age. It'll teach him about communicating with his peers and make him make his own decisions and see how to handle himself in real life. For example, if he has a friend who consistently refuses to clean up the mess that both boys made, he'll see that the boy is possibly selfish or lazy or irresponsible, or he'll have to come up with a way on his own to communicate his needs (in this case, cooperation in cleaning up). Good luck.
2007-11-13 02:56:19 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your son know beforehand that he's responsible for his guests, and unless he wants to clean the mess himself, he should have his friends help him. I personally wouldn't get offended if somebody's mother asked me to clean up, but it may be different in other cases. I also wouldn't be offended if my friend asked me to help clean up. Your best bet is to get your son to ask, that way they can do the work equally and you don't have to seem like the bad cop.
Or, better yet, tell him not to make a mess in the first place :) !
2007-11-13 17:45:05 · answer #8 · answered by Bridget 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took me a minute to figure this out. Outrageous, you mean...Ahhhh I get it now.
No, when we have company over (which is usually my nieces and nephews) they always help clean up, and they are ages 5-10! I don't even have to tell them to because their parents tell them to do it. When my daughter is at someone else's house, she knows she is to help clean up any mess that they have made. and she's just 6!!!
So, no, I think it's reasonable to expect that from a child old enough to clean up, and you would think that the parents would teach their children that, so it wouldn't be such a big deal.
2007-11-12 22:59:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should totally clean up! its not fair if he make a huge mess and they just go, "oh, hes the guest, we can clean it up"
Just cause your the guest
does NOT mean your off the hook
;D
2007-11-13 01:44:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋