My dad just told me i should start using proactiv!!!!! This really hurt me because its just a few spots! and i ALREADY USE IT!!!
why would he actually say that? any dads out there who might be helpful?
i mean everyone get pimples as a teen!
2007-11-12 14:39:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I mean I love my dad but I just don't think he handled it the right way. My sis already ordered it a long time ago and she gave me some. Our mom doesn't live w/ us though. She only got small little pimples and I'm pretty much a copy of her. But it just reallly hurt me.
2007-11-12 14:47:11 · update #1
Let me share with you, as a teen I had a pimple here and there, & I know there were plenty of pimply face kids in school, that were dying to get the secrets to beautiful skin.
Proactiv wasn't out then and there wasn't enough power in the
anti-acne medications on the market.
Maybe he's trying to help you. I'm an adult and I use Proactiv,
so does my husband.
I do get occasional pimples, so I use it as spot treatment, but, my hubby wasn't so lucky, as a teen, he had pimples,
bad and as a result
he got acne scars. As an adult, he still gets pimples.
So, if your dad is telling you that, I don't think you should take it personally.
Take it as a heads up to save your skin.....Early
Besides he's your dad, you may not like what he says all
the time, but, I'm sure there are times when you want to
thank him anyway... Later on in life you will.
2007-11-12 14:50:22 · answer #1 · answered by lashawn0676 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I think I maybe understand what your dad is doing....your mom doesn't live with you, correct? Do you have another female role(adult) living in your house...stepmom?
If not, or even if so...your dad was trying to be helpful i think. Dads just don't know how to be sensitive about things like this. I think he is trying, and for that he needs/deserves a lot of credit. I do realize that it is very hard to be a teenage girl, let alone without a mom living with you, but maybe you should approach your father, and tell him how you feel about what he said, and how he said it. Men seem to need to be taught compassion. I know my hubby sure needed a lot of teaching!!! and still does after 20 years!! LOL
Good Luck
Momma P
2007-11-12 14:53:14 · answer #2 · answered by Momma P 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your dad is trying to take care of problems before they turn bad. Be glad he cares enough. I have seen some kids out there with pocked faces and I think why don't their parents care enough to help them. He's just looking out for you. I don't think he meant to hurt you. As a parent I have done the same thing (not about acne but about other things) we forget that sometimes we need to be more careful how we say things. Remember parents are people to and sometimes we don't think before we speak!
2007-11-12 15:00:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think he was just trying to help. Maybe he didn't word it in a way that makes you happy, but maybe he didn't think you would take it as an insult either. Just tell him you are already using it and just waiting for it to work, but thank you for the concern. He probably had the best of intentions and they just didn't turn out right.
2007-11-12 16:31:47 · answer #4 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm not gonna ramble forever about how to cope with this but I always had really huge curly hair and I was begging for a chemical relaxer to straighten my hair, and my dad said why don't you just shave your head and wear a wig.
It's like thanks dad as if I didn't already know my hair looked bad? Ignore him he's probably just teasing you.
2007-11-12 15:00:27 · answer #5 · answered by Munbe 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow, thats crazy that your dad said that...but try to be strong about the things people say. my dad tells me stuff like that every now and then and at first it really hurt but i realized he wasnt gonna change. he kinda tends to "joke" like that. like the other day he said i looked like i was dressed for halloween and i wasnt. and he'll say things like that to poke at me to see if he can make me mad. when i was younger he made a comment about me looking like i gained weight and it kinda hurt but you gotta realize that if you can see it other people can see it too and you gotta be ready for comments like that because sometimes people can be so blunt. just know that he still loves you. i know it can feel like he doesnt when he said that you needed proactive but dads are people too and they make mistakes. but he should know that he cant be saying things like that so next time let him know what you think about his belly in a nice way. he'll get the hint once he knows how it made you feel.
2007-11-12 14:50:42 · answer #6 · answered by Love101 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
good for you for realizing that it is crazy for him to say that. you are totally normal, and even though you use it, you probably dont even need it. maybe he just has a real consumer mentality and really bought into the proactiv adds he saw on TV (like you NEED this kind of thing). You tell him its a good thing you dont depend on him for your self esteem!!
2007-11-12 14:44:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anga 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
dont take it personally
&& if its only a few spots then you most deff shouldnt be so offended by it
@ least he's not like my mom
she pokes my spots && ask whats wrong with me
but i really dont care because shes my mom
iM not tryin to look good for her
2007-11-12 14:45:14 · answer #8 · answered by TQUEEN 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Because he thinks you don't use it?
My mom's annoying as hell and ALWAYS tells me to use some sort of acne thing, even if I only have one blemish. =/
Teenagers get it. Big deal.
2007-11-12 14:42:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
i just thought i would say not every teen gets pimples. no1 in my family has gotten pimples as a teen and my skin has no pimples either.
2007-11-12 15:50:32 · answer #10 · answered by Erica 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋