how should i ask my mom to go on birthcontrol?

Question

my period comes every 2 weeks and lasts for 6 days.
its a pain in the butt and annoying also.
ive had sex like 3 times and i just want to be carefull but i dont want my mom to think i want to go on it so i can have sex...
how should i ask her without her thinking ive had sex or want to?
cuz for the most part i want it to control my period!

Answer 1

Actually, you don't have to ask your mother to get on birth control. You can go to the health department and they will give it to you and they aren't allowed to tell your parents. But, I don't recommend this. I would just be honest with her. Tell her you need to regulate your period, Research it and be well informed and prepared for your discussion with her. If she thinks you have really thought about it and took time to study up on it she will be more likely to take you seriously. Good luck

Answer 2

You should never have a period every 2 weeks that is extremely abnormal and needs to be checked on. Dont bother asking for birth control if youve had sex just stop doing it birth control doenst work all that well, I know of 15 people that can prove it. Find out why your period is so messed up and if your doctor SAYS its ok to take birth control and to have sex then go have "fun" but youll probably end up pregnant anyhow.

Answer 3

You aren't going to be able to have this conversation without admitting that you are sexually active. Be prepared for that, and be completely honest about it. Your abnormal periods are actually a real concern that you should be seen by a gynecologist as soon as possible. You may have a serious problem with your reproductive system that could cause lifetime damage if it isn't taken care of.

Sit down with your mother and tell her calmly and intelligently about the issues you are having. Tell her about your health problems first, and then gently tell her that you have been sexually active in the past, and you want to do the mature thing and be protected. Your mother will be a little disappointed, and you will both feel a little awkward, but most mothers after their initial shock will feel relived to know that their daughters feel that they can come to them and be honest with them.

Answer 4

Well, if I were you, I'd ask to see a gynecologist to have your period evaluated. Six days every two weeks is a lot, and actually leaves you vulnerable to anemia. I'm betting that the gynecologist will suggest the birth control pill as a form of hormone therapy.

But be warned: The gynecologist will also ask some very pointed questions about whether or not you are sexually active. She will probably ask several times, because most girls lie, especially if their mother is sitting there smiling at them.

Answer 5

I would have her take you to a gynologist about your periods that is not normal.

As far as birth control, if you aren't willing to deal with an unplanned pregnancy, then you aren't mature enough for sex. No birth control is 100%. But if you feel that you can deal with the consquences and want to be safe, that is another story. But just realize that having a baby will change your life in every possible way, I really don't think that teenagers should be having babies!! It will make it 100 times harder to make a good life for yourself and your family later in life.

Answer 6

Tell your mother that...doesn't she already know about your abnormal periods? That seems like a legitimate reason for birth control. You can either mention or omit the sex bit. Another option is just asking her to take you to the gynaecologist/doctor about your periods, not specifically asking for birth control. When you get there that is probably what they will suggest.

Also, I don't know where you live, but in most places it is possible for minors to get birth control without telling their parents (confidentiality laws). Sometimes it's even free.

Answer 7

Be honest with her tell her about Ur periods and tell her they r getting worse...Tell her u think it would be best to ck in with BC. If u do see a doc make sure u tell him or her everything about ur past but don't worry the doc can not tell Ur mom anything! Teens who have sex r so scared to tell there moms and go to a clinic when u start haven sex u should start getting a Pap once a year and most girls don't do that which is why HPV is up so i think it would be best to be up front and honest with Ur mom or try idk some moms r stuck in the past and think kids don't have sex if u know what i mean. In some states there r free clinics that u don't need a parent with you so u may want to ck in with that! I got preg at 16 and my mom always told me she wish i would of told her i have been haven sex so she could of put me on BC so Ur mom may shock you. Best of luck.

Answer 8

You did a good job explaining to us so I would just come out and be honest with your mom. I was afraid to tell my mom and I got pregnant at 17 years old and had my son. I went on birth control after that but I think at the time my mom much rather have had me ask her to go on birth control to prevent a pregnancy than get pregnant at that age.

Answer 9

Just tell her that your period is really irregular and you get bad cramps... and that you heard using the pill regulates your period and helps with cramping, etc. It really does and would not be a lie. Just flat out ask her... most mothers would like to not believe that their child is having sex anyway.

Answer 10

Yes. You need to talk to your mom - it might be hard, but no one cares more or is better prepared to help you. If you just can't bear to tell her you are already having sex at least tell her you are thinking about doing it and you want to do it safely with her advice. It could be a tough conversation, but the alternative is worse.