my friends daughter just died and everything i want to write sounds so korny...i know its suppose to come from your heart but i am having a hard time...i dont want to say sorry for your loss my mom signed the same card and wrote exactly what i wanted to! you are in my thoughts and prayers...help!
2007-11-12 14:29:26 · 15 answers · asked by jabbercs 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It isn't corny if it is from your heart. Just imagine you in her place, what would make you feel better? How about saying you are there for her, no matter what time of day, she can count on you. Then, be that friend. She will appreciate that.
The loss of a child is the worst kind of death. It is something that is unnatural since children are to outlive parents. It will take a long time for her to feel "normal"again, so be a very compassionate and caring friend.
2007-11-12 14:34:00 · answer #1 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
focus on the future, dont bring up things from the past, i have been in that unfortunate position, and just seeing my Friends and family trying to share my sorrow truly helped, let your Friend know that even though they are going Thur a bad time you will be there to see them through, all the way, let them know that they can call you or e-mail , or stop by if needed at any time. i will always remember what was told to me at the wake, when you lose a parent, you loose a part of your past, when you loose a spouse, you loose a part of the present, but when you loose a child, you loose a part of your future.
2007-11-12 22:52:11 · answer #2 · answered by roc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"My heart and prayers are with you during this difficult time. I'm sorry for your loss."
That would be appropriate. To put anything more may not be the words she needs to read. Right now, reading a larger statement would not be appreciated. During grief, it's best to keep it short and simple. When paying respects, it's easier for her to hear, "Let me know if there's anything I can do." Then give her a quick and firm hug. Then let the next guest pay their respects.
2007-11-12 22:37:21 · answer #3 · answered by Carol T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom died.....all the cards were fine, but the one I treasured and keep to this day (7 yrs later) is the one from a stranger to me who knew my mom and told me something about her that I didn't know. It was a short funny/sweet memory she had of my mom. Dunno if you have anything like that for your friends' daughter, but that would be best IMO.
If not, I would say, "I am so sorry. None of us can know your pain, but we will be here to help you in any way we can."
2007-11-12 22:39:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is truly from your heart then nothing you say is corney. you can let your friend know in different ways than a card. if the friend is a distance away you can call or if close by then just pop in if nothing else but to sit with your friend to let them know you are there for them pain and relief can come in many forms same as love and kindness. let the friend know that you are there.
2007-11-12 23:43:45 · answer #5 · answered by littlebitold 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically say just that: "Deepest sympathy in your time of loss."
I lost a son, and that seemed so sweet and to the point when I read it in cards from the community. Please don't say that you know how someone feels, you may not. Don't offer more than you are willing to give (i.e. don't say call me anytime, unless you are really prepared to get those calls) and just keep it simple.
2007-11-12 22:34:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I get stuck, I visit any free email card website to see what "poems" they have to offer!
May you find comfort to know that others care....and then sign your name.
Corny works because it is sincere in times like these when words fail us. Just sending the card so she knows others care is what matters.
2007-11-12 22:37:35 · answer #7 · answered by wawawebis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write something personal about the person they lost..."I will never forget ____'s smile" or something to that effect. Or a simple "With Sympathy and love" will do.
2007-11-12 22:33:32 · answer #8 · answered by Marina 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start with: With my deepest sympathy, .....
and just let your own words flow.
End with something like. My prayers are with you
2007-11-12 22:33:18 · answer #9 · answered by 2Cute2B4Got 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that they are in your thoughts and prayers, and that you are always there if they anything at all and if you can help.
2007-11-12 22:33:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋