What do i wear to a funeral??

Question

I know that your supposed to wear dark colors,
but i dont really have that mch dressy black stuff.

Can i wear like a nice brown, pink (preferebly) or blue sweater, with a white flowy skirt??
Or would the skirt be better with a blakc shirt??

ORRR.

Would it be better if i wore khaki pans or white pants with a sweater..
i thought a skirt would be nicer.
but everyone is telling me its to light..

Answer 1

I would wear a nice navy blue if you do not like black.
Try and find something that looks homesome and does not show to much clevage at all. you can get away with wearing a white or brown shell or shirt under a sweater or suit jacket. Think of it as bussiness dress alos make sure if you wear a skirt the hem line should be no more then a bit above the knee longer here is better. You can also get away with a med-dark gray too but try and stay away from light colors.
this is also I found on line about the subject

Though black is tradional for a funeral, there are other options that are just as acceptable today, depending on how well you knew the person.
Men: If you want to dress tradional, wear a black suit. This includes a plain white shirt and a long, non-vibrant necktie. However, there are always exceptions to the rules, no? A black suit with a black turtle neck, black dress shirt with long black tie, black dress shirt(no tie;first button unbottoned), or a black t-shirt (clean, kind of silky) could all be acceptable depending on the family.
For women. If you want traditional, go with a black suit, either skirt or pants. However, this next route is strongly recommended. If it is summer, go with a black cocktail dress. Plain, not too low cut. For winter, black skirt and black sweater. And always, no open-toed shoes! If you want to mix it up a little, get a hat. Not a trucker hat, but a wide-brim hat that is black. If you are unsure in this department, look at some pictures of Queen Elizabeth II, or any other female member of the English Royal Family at a funeral. (They have the basic idea, if not always hitting the nail directly on the head). A feather or flower on the hat is good.
Some do not necessarily believe that wardrobe should be strictly black in color. While the person's death should be grieved, it seems also appropriate to celebrate the person's life with some color-- not anything like lime green or neon yellow, but a deep red or maybe a pale blue.
Plan to wear something tasteful and conservative especially if there is a religious service at a church, funeral home or grave side. Black, navy, gray or darker colors usually appear more conservative. A sexy dress, although black, is not appropriate as some churches prefer the shoulders remain covered.
Leave your flip flops, timberlands and athletic wear at home and opt for more sensible and appropriate shoes.
As a rule of thumb, dress as you would for church (a more conservative version if your church is casual) or for a job interview. Dresses are appropriate for women. Avoid sun dresses (unless you have a wrap or are a very young child, celebratory patterns (martini glasses or wild prints), anything too flashy (sequins unless minimial). Gentlemen should wear a sports coat or suit. Everyone should wear polish-able shoes.
Consider the temperature and dress appropriately for the funeral. Men can opt to remove their jackets for anything outside but you should at least wear it inside for any services.
If you are a pall-bearer you should expect to wear a suit or a dark sports coat and tie at the very least.
Funerals out of town may require you bring multiple outfits or plan to adjust your suit with extra shirts, ties, etc.
In some cases, all black is requested. This means black suit, black shirt, black tie, black socks and shoes. Check with the party beforehand.
[edit] TipsWhen dressing for the funeral, think of the deceased person's personality and interests. If they enjoyed baseball, a man could wear a baseball print necktie and a woman could wear jewelry with baseballs on it. If they often wore floral dresses or camo or worshiped their red patent pumps, the dress code could reflect these as well.
Immediate family should always lean more conservative with attire.
Remember to pack multiple outfits if you are attending a wake or viewing the night before. Those can be more business casual if you are a guest.
The family may choose to have a more celebratory gathering. If so, and you are not familiar, you shouldn't be afraid to ask what the appropriate attire may be.
Ladies, please remember to wear a slip if you are spending any time outside at a grave side.
If the funeral takes place on a hot day, bring an umbrella to shade you from the sun. Please remember to offer it to an elderly attendant or hold it for an elderly attendant. This also goes for rain.
For a very conservative service, some women may opt to wear a more formal hat. This isn't the Kentucky Derby so keep it simple and avoid straw or more casual sun hats.
It is a good idea to bring a handkerchief in case you or someone near you tears up.
[edit] WarningsFor men: black dress shoes and black socks -- no sneakers!
Remember to be respectful.
Avoid t-shirts with potentially offensive slogans. Generally, t-shirts should be avoided anyway, but slogans bearing bad language, nude imagery or advertising a particular brand name are definitely not advisable (unless the dead specifically requested such attire in his/her will; check with the family in advance).
Ladies, please use caution when attending any service outside. High heels that are spiked can sink into the ground and cause you to fall.
For very hot days you can stick a small bottle of water in your handbag. Please be discrete when trying to drink.
Carry an umbrella in case of rain or very sunny days.
Waterproof mascara and minimal eyeshadow/eyeliner will help you avoid a mess or irritated eyes.
Please offer your seat or umbrella to elderly guests or mothers with very young children.

Answer 2

The pink and/or blue top is probably cuter, but at a funeral it's best to err on the side of too dark.

Even white is slightly pushing it; I'd honestly go out and buy a black skirt to wear--it's something you could wear after the funeral, as well.

Answer 3

I believe you can wear anything as long it is not a costume of something sexy. Wearing black to funerals, in a lot of areas, is passe. I note that some people wear jeans a lovely shirt and jacket so as long as you are not being disrespectful wear something that suits you and if happens to be dark that is ok too. I have worn red to funerals. It is also applicable to think of whom you are honoring at the funeral.

Answer 4

I once had a client that asked me dress them for a funeral...

Make sure it's a funeral..you wear dark colors, and not a memorial.

She made the mistake of telling me it was a funeral when it was a memorial, she looked pretty silly in all black while everyone else was wearing floral.

Answer 5

honestly i think wearing drab dark colors ranks right up there with the whole don't wear white after labor day thing. It is old fashioned and silly. I actually wore a black leather jacket, red sweater, black and white tweed skirt and knee high black boots last year to my great grandmother's funeral. It was perfect. All of us were in color. She loved color and would have been tickled pink that we wore color. Most women wore her favorite color...varying shades of pastel purple.

Think of the funeral not as an end, but a celebration of their life.

That said, depending on the weather, I would do the flowy skirt and probably one of the sweaers..you didn't mention the color of the skirt. but whatever looks best with it. I don't think that the pants outfit is nice enough. way too casual unless you are teenager or younger.

Answer 6

Honestly whenever I go to a funeral I wear darker colors. Just stay away from white or bright summertime colors. Stick with the black skirt or pants and a sweater of any color (but not Bright colors like white, yellow, ect.)

HAve you never been to a funeral??

Answer 7

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What do i wear to a funeral??
I know that your supposed to wear dark colors,
but i dont really have that mch dressy black stuff.

Can i wear like a nice brown, pink (preferebly) or blue sweater, with a white flowy skirt??
Or would the skirt be better with a blakc shirt??

ORRR.

Would it be better if i wore khaki pans...

Answer 8

I highly suggest you don't wear white, it's like disrespectful and it's not about you so wear something darker. Brown is okay, black, and blue is fine too, but no white, PLEASE. Khaki pants are good if you wear a black top, although skirts are nicer. Hope you find something, but please out of tribute to the person dead, don't wear white.

Answer 9

1st off were you close to the person that died or not.

If you were close to them then think to yourself: Would they want me to remember them happy and bright or mourning?

If they would want you to be happy when remembering them then go ahead and wear lots of color. If you think that they would want you to remember them as mournful then you should dress in black along with everyone ealse.

If people ask you why you are wearing bright colors then just say that you think that they would want you to be happy when remembering them. Stick up for what you believe they would want.

If you weren't close to them than you should just wear black because it will be more respectful.

When my grandma died I wore black but with a lot of white in their too so I seamed happier.

Answer 10

I do enjoy using long skirts occasionally. They can be actually more comfortable than Denim jeans and also much less hot to wear.