my bf has always told his ex's (when they were together).. even thought they had children together they were not family..well my daughter called me outside to tell me she wanted to join the army.. when my bf asked me why she called me outside and could not talke about what ever infront of him.. i told her what she said.. i did ask her .. she said he was not family.. the thing he alwasy told everyone before me.. she told me he was not family and sense he did not want to be married to me it showed he had on intersest in being family.. he got mad about it.. wtf.. I told him she was right..I think she was right.. what do you think
2007-11-12 14:05:13 · 13 answers · asked by vis 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my kids do love him.. but they know he has no interest in being family..
2007-11-12 14:11:32 · update #1
i was with her too.. and told him so.. i told him that techically he was not family,,quess he old words came back to haunt him
2007-11-12 14:27:20 · update #2
yes your girl was right she gave your bf a taste of his own medicine
the feeling he got was the one he gave to all those before you
2007-11-12 14:27:20 · answer #1 · answered by stephanie R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel your daughter was right, this was a decision that she felt she wanted to discuss with you as her mother. She sees him as nothing more then a bf since he's made it clear either in word or action that he doesn't want to be a family, you are her family.
I respect her feelings and he decision to want to talk with you only about it, though to keep from having an argument it might have waited till he wasn't there or when the two of you could have been alone at another time. I wish her the best in her decision.
2007-11-12 14:22:13 · answer #2 · answered by Ghostwriter1959 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im with your daughter, cause i think if u want to be family u make a total commitment and go ahead and get married, i mean i think its crazy sometimes all these people having babies together and not being married, i mean if u are committed enough to be together, stay together and make a baby together than, and then u are not committed enough to get married, that doesnt make any sense, I KNOW THIS DOSENT APPLY TO U BUT SAME IDEA. and if he can use this line why not u even more important this was your daughters news, decision and her desire to keep it private with her mom, she is right he isnt family and it is none of his business good for u and for your daughter im proud of her for her views. sounds like u brought her up properly
2007-11-12 14:19:52 · answer #3 · answered by Dale T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he has no interest in being family why are you letting him around your children?
It is a shame your daughter can read a man better than you. Or had you already felt that way too and not admitted it to yourself?
2007-11-12 14:59:04 · answer #4 · answered by Hubby . 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
,I think she's right, especially since she knows he's not the family type. Your kids deserve to be in a family where there is mutual and reciprocal love and respect, and it sounds like if you stay with this guy, they're going to miss out on it.
2007-11-12 14:21:52 · answer #5 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She IS right!
A guy who wants marriage and a family doesnt shack!
He gets to know the girl first THEN marries her, and it CAN be done without shacking.
If he would tell his ex's who had kids by him they werent family, what makes you think he will adopt YOUR kids by other men as his own hon?
Wake up and smell the fire.
2007-11-12 14:10:21 · answer #6 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should have felt hurt but your daughter was not wrong to say that. Perhaps this will show him how it felt when he said it to others. Explain to him why she feels this way and tell him there is really nothing to change about it.
2007-11-12 14:25:28 · answer #7 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you even with this man is the question I have. If he cant accept her as family then I would be out the door!
2007-11-12 15:30:44 · answer #8 · answered by bella s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is right. leave him if u kids don't like him. if he has no intrest in beaing a family leave
2007-11-12 14:10:03 · answer #9 · answered by lisaanndubay 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
shes right
2007-11-12 15:15:18 · answer #10 · answered by bright 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋