He says being fat is just as tiring, as hard or harder than being pregnant and his back hurts, he can't bend over without getting out of breath, etc. How do I make him understand that my body is not only sustaining itself but also creating and sustaining another life and I am carrying around weight I am not used to, therefore straining my body daily?
2007-11-12 13:43:15 · 18 answers · asked by hms 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
plane and simple just stop doing everything you do, soon he will have to start doing things for you. You are at a time where you need to not have to worry about all your normally daily problems. The stress can take its toll and cause its own set of problems and that could effect your pregnancy. Just do your best to keep your cool. :)
2007-11-12 13:57:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him to go with you to your next doctor's appointment and have the doctor explain to him that you cant be doing anything stenuous because you could hurt yourself or the baby. The doctor can also explain just how different being pregnant and being fat are, especially with the baby bump and weight that goes with it, what changes happen to the body in labor, why pregnant women are told to take it easy, etc. An authority figure needs to explain this to him because he is definitely not going to listen to you and this is just part of his nature. Guys are naturally hard-headed (sorry guys!).
Like was said earlier, he may also be jealous of the attention you get or the baby gets and just needs attention himself. Some guys are like this. Think back...did you pay a lot of attention to him before? What about now? Just something to think about.
2007-11-12 14:31:01 · answer #2 · answered by Kimmy3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the one thing that he says about being fat is tiring to well he can lose his weight so thats not really an excuse. the baby you are carrying around is a lot harder than him just being fat! it takes everything you have in you just to get up when your 9 months the baby drains you. So the next time your husband wants dinner tell him to make it himself or starve. men are just jerks and are not much good for anything. so don't be hurt welcome to the real world, good luck with the baby.
2007-11-12 13:52:32 · answer #3 · answered by answer machine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him to get off his fat ***. You are the one that had to have the morning sickness, swellings, contractions, and have to give birth. That is more tiring and painful then he will ever have to deal with. Tell him that it makes two to make one, and your the one that has to go through it all, at least he can do is help you around the house. At 9 months, you should be taking it easy. And if his excuse is that his back hurts and out of breath, tell him its not healthy and lose weight. I don't mean to sound mean, but if it was my husband, he would get a ear full.
2007-11-12 13:51:46 · answer #4 · answered by xtiger_eyes_2006x 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he is gets out of breath when he bends over because he never does anything. You can do some things easier, like dishes, laundry and cooking because you can sit on a stool, but you should expect him to do the rest. Sweety, if you don't make him carry his on weight now, how do you think he will be when the baby comes? I agree with cutie, ask someone else to help you if he won't. You can't do it all.
2007-11-12 13:49:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm not certain what you can do to get him to help, I'd be tempted to tell him being fat is a lifestyle choice and maybe a little work around the house might help him lose weight. The only thing I can think of is see if you doc/midwife would write you a note saying you have to have help and cut back on activity. He may listen to an authority figure.
2007-11-12 13:47:43 · answer #6 · answered by Mom of 3 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If he was a turd - be pleased he's long gone. The only sort of man that will leave a woman who is 9 months pregnant is a turd. Sorry this has happened to you. Get a lawyer correct away and have the jerk serve with support papers. Good success.
2016-08-06 03:57:01 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys are selfish!! but crying sometimes works to make them feel bad. my husband is the same way but is somewhat sympathetic about me being preg and taking care of our 3 kids all day, he'll stay up and get them to bed so i can sleep he rubs my back when i ask and sometimes when i don't. I'm very lucky, but still i do all the cleaning laundry and other stuff. i spent all morning afternoon and some of the evening cleaning while he played a game on the computer i don't think guys fully understand and never will what women go threw and continue to do for them and there family.
2007-11-12 13:51:32 · answer #8 · answered by Manda P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is a little jealous of all the attention you are getting and needs a little himself. Just let him know that you love him and that you are so happy to be having a baby with him and you really NEED him right now. You are pregnant, tired and your body is going through a tremedous amount of stress and you would like a little help with your chores and a little care and concern would really help you emotionally.
2007-11-12 13:52:46 · answer #9 · answered by busemomme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be a book for dads out there.. If not then you should get "What to expect when you're expecting" it gives you a month to month blow by blow of the changes that are occurring in your body. Maybe you should try being blunt with him. Tell him your fatigue is the result of a baby sucking all of the nutrients that you have out of you and his is due to putting bad things in his body. I say, if he doesn't help you, then it doesn't get done. You shouldn't push yourself when you are pregnant its not healthy for you or baby.
2007-11-12 13:57:22 · answer #10 · answered by AJ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋