guess i'm wondering what is an appropriate time frame to end this or look else where (i've only been married for 1 1/2 years) the friend connection is there we just lack an intimate connection
2007-11-12 12:48:56 · 17 answers · asked by daigle451 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no more than 48 hours
2007-11-12 12:52:26 · answer #1 · answered by gfrog82 4 · 3⤊ 3⤋
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2016-12-20 20:07:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried having the person who is not interested get a complete physical? Have you tried couples' therapy? Have you tried working on being more romantic and planning special dates/mini vacations that can/might end in sex? If you have tried all these things there is still no way an outsider can tell you whether or not it's time to go or stay. That is something only your heart can tell you.
The friendship connection is really the harder of the two to maintain. If that is still there then it might be worth trying to figure out what went wrong and if it can be fixed...if nothing more than to keep you both from making the same mistakes in any future relationships.
2007-11-12 13:00:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stayed married for almost ten years without sex before he and I called it a day. We had a small child, health insurance issues, a lot of reasons why staying married made more sense. When we both found ourselves attracted to other people, we said enough was enough.
We're still very good friends, but like you, the intimacy thing just wasn't there.
2007-11-12 12:55:20 · answer #4 · answered by j3nny3lf 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on the reason for no sex.. when i first go with my bf he was depressed and could not do anything.. for 1 and a half years.. now he could..but he drinks to much most of the time..been going on 3 yrs.. we been living together for over a year.. yeah i knew how he was when he moved in.. it don't change how i feel about him. i just go out and get a toy.. he has been with me when i buy them .. any yeah he knows why i get them..and were not married.. no children between.. no house..nothing to tie us together.. but if tommorrow i was to hear he could never do anything i would not leave him.. but now a intimate connection is more than sex..it is a thing of the heart..where you can lay with that person and just know they are the one you want.. but just plain raw sex is something all together different
2007-11-12 12:58:58 · answer #5 · answered by vis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you two need some serious counseling. I'm not sure why the two of you married if you did not feel attracted to one another sexually. I think you need to find out why the two of you are not love-making through a professional. It's easy to say that sex isn't so important if you're having it. But when one partner wants it, and another doesn't, the one that does is left feeling abandoned, rejected, and hurting emotionally. Now that doesn't sound so unimportant anymore, does it?
2007-11-12 13:04:16 · answer #6 · answered by Miami Lilly 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whilst it has come to the area of thinking of affairs and speaking approximately open marriage, you do have a severe problem in spite of the size of time. given which you're working demanding to look after the kin, its no longer too plenty to invite your desires are met in specific circumstances. You dont ought to undergo with it. An amicable divorce with proper preparations for newborn help and custody is greater helpful than an affair or open marriage or you suffering in the time of existence. Open marriage could sound great. yet whilst all of us includes know, it is going to look such as you're having an affair. Your spouse may even use it against you in destiny. incredibly why do you should compromise your integrity and acceptance due on your spouse's fault ? despite the fact that in case you return to a call to undergo with this, the marriage often gets in elementary terms worse in those type of circumstances. The spouse will continuously be suspicious that husband could have an affair or go away her. The suspicions will create stress in marriage. Its greater helpful to confirm a sexologist or marriage counseller who take care of sexual matters. possibly there's a reason in the back of your spouse's aversion to intercourse. possibly its our environment or your attitude which desires replace. besides handle the problem and attempt to confirm it.
2016-10-16 07:41:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what anyone else says, sex is important. It may not be the most important thing but it is important. If it is not there the relationship just wont work. You need to either find it, or look somewhere else.
2007-11-12 13:24:20 · answer #8 · answered by Julio R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.If this is the same condition as pre marriage, stay till death do you part. (unless it was promised after marriage)
2. If the situation has changed to this, get out now.
2007-11-12 13:03:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, although I agree sex is important in a marriage, I also believe that people put WAY too much importance on it. And not enough importance on building their relationship and actually gettng to know each other.
I have gone almost a year without sex with my wife, yes I was frustrated by lack of sex, but she had lost desire and I said I would wait till she is ready.
2007-11-12 12:57:02 · answer #10 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
My wife and i are best friends, but there is no love, lust in our life, just getting ready to move on!!! Like rite after the holidays!!
2007-11-12 13:24:28 · answer #11 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋