I've been married for a couple of years. This is the only man I've been with. We have sex once every other month, and I'm pretty sure he's doing it just to shut me up. The sex is good but it seems like I'm forcing him! We are in our late 20's. We talk about the lack of sex all the time and he says that his sex drive isn't strong. But once every other month seems like he has no sex drive at all!
I've been through a lot in life and need a release. What can I do? I'm ready to pack my bags!
2007-11-12 12:48:01 · 19 answers · asked by anli 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get him to a doctor!!! Many conditions cause low libido such as high blood pressure, diabetes, and several others. I had the same symptoms as your husband. Once I got my blood pressure and blood sugar under control, I was back in the saddle again. Still am at age 65, approx once per week (more often if wife is feeling horney). It's not as wild and crazy as it was 30 yrs ago, but still just as much fun. Good Luck.
2007-11-12 13:15:29 · answer #1 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same siduation, im 28 my ol mans 31, im waaaay interested in getting some all the time. I had to sit him down rescently and disscuss this with out emotion. I asked him why he didnt become intersested like he used to.. i look the same, i weigh the same, so whats up? He claims exaustion, and timing.. apprently my timing is off.. i like it between 11pm and2 am and hes more of a 4 or 6 am guy. Those are just some of our own reasons, and as logical as it all is layed out dr. phil like, i still get horny and angry that hes not.
I toyed around with finding a sex partner, and leaving him. but i know i love him with out his weiner comming into play. I know one day I wont want any booty, and ill be old and tired, bt ill still want him to talk to me and make jokes or hold my crusty old hand. This is all new for me, wanting sex nd not getting it, so i had to take my slef to a place where I, didnt want any. I asked my self what if his dong fell off would i still love him and want to be with him.. even if it meant id never sleep with anyone else, ever. I decided id rather have the man and not the sex. This is my second, note that, second marriage. I left my first one for very similar reasons, and while there were other reasons, that one was a big one, the no sex thing. I did find better tho, better sex, when it comes around, a better companion too. It seems to me that this happens to everyone about 2 or 3 yrs in. When I am really in the mood i act like sex is the last thing id ever want, it seems to work for him.
2007-11-13 00:57:50 · answer #2 · answered by wyldkisses79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been married for a couple of years and this the only man that you have ever been with and you have sex once every other month was this the way your relationship started out in the beginning. Marriage is not always about sex its about being able to communicate and talk things out. marriage is about compromise not about sex only your ready to leave because you cant have sex when ever you want to. talking about you have been though a lot in life and need a release what can you do is to hang in there and find out if he has been under stress because if he has this could cause a problem also. though out this letter i have not heard you use this word once your in love with your husband or have you fallen out of love with your husband because he is not interested in sex as much as you are.
best of luck
2007-11-12 20:56:34 · answer #3 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that sex is designed for procreation purposes solely. have you considered going to someone professional to discuss your need 4 sex? It seems that your are along with about 3/4 of this room is using sex as a means of communication as if sex is the only way to define your relationship. ( I am not a professional) Stay with him if you love him or leave him if you dont cause you have the potential of hurting him just cause you are under the impression that love can not exist without sex all the time. (Good Luck).
2007-11-13 05:24:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He really needs to see a doctor for a complete physical for starters.
Perhaps therapy may be another step but it depends on the results of the physical.
Unfortunately some men just have super low sex drives too. Hope you both get this worked out.
2007-11-12 21:31:10 · answer #5 · answered by pcgirl2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the two of you discussed going to a doctor who can check his mojo out... Some guys can get a low sex drive early because of low sperm count and things like that. When you guys talk is he very open or is he dismissive, are there other issues that you to are having they may contribute with the no sex. honestly he might get it some where else, i dint know wither or not that's a good thought to introduce but it happens
2007-11-12 21:22:00 · answer #6 · answered by imgonnabamommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That can be a big problem in a marriage, you need to find the real reason for the lack of sex on his part, good sex is vital to a healthy marriage, if he wont tell you the real reason he may Needs to talk to a professional to get to the reason, tell him if he wants to save the marriage he needs to get help and be open and honest with you,
2007-11-12 20:58:52 · answer #7 · answered by George 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in my 40's and get more sex than that. In my 20's there would have been NO WAY for me or my wife to hold back.
Has he spoke to a doctor about his problem? Are you sure that he isn't gay?
2007-11-12 21:00:07 · answer #8 · answered by Mo_Joe_man 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk with him, you need to let him know how you feel. Because he needs to understand your feelings and needs, but you also need to listen to him and let him express his feelings as well. Is he in a high stress job? Alot of stress can affect sex drive. Just talk with him. It might surprise you what happens.
2007-11-12 20:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys are in your 20's, and he quit 45 years ahead of time!! You should have your feet pointed toward the ceiling x2 daily, and then xtra play times in between!! Have him see a Dr., if he's healthy, then you need to find another(real) man to enjoy yourself with!!! I'd tell ya to call me, but, I'm booked up!!!!!!! LOL
2007-11-12 20:54:58 · answer #10 · answered by happywjc 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋