Me and a friend of mine have been good friends for many years. I would do anything for her and feel she'd do the same for me. 2 things have made me think (and come here) because of what she's told me. She knows (because I've told her) that I really, really like her. But 2 things I've heard her say that really bothers me about her
1 - She's told me before that she judges people on how they treat her and what they buy her
2 - She's told me repeatedly that she's a high maintenance girl.
Now, she's always had a b/f, so I've never done anything to disrespect that, but if a friend (that you really like) told you these two things above, would you still want to go out with her if she broke up with her b/f???
I don't have a big issue with the high maintenance issue as much as I do about how her men are judged by what they buy her. I have a good job, but don't want to be judged what I spent on her. I want to be judged how I treat her
What would you do?? Stay or Go ?
2007-11-12 12:15:04 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
don't ever spend a dime on her, if she still hangs with you, then it was just a front she was putting up about the high maint crap.
2007-11-12 12:21:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone like to be treated well, so that part is understandable. HOWEVER, judging people on what they buy her is not. That is a very needy and disrespectful behavior.
Being high-maintenance is a matter of subjective opinion. For all you know, YOU could be considered high-maintenance. You are not marrying her and there is no commitment that you can't break if you decide the relationship is not working out.
I'm very concerned with "buy her" thing; however. If that came out of her own mouth, personally, she would not even be in consideration. Gift is a voluntary thing, not something to be demanded or being judged on.
Go or no go? It's all up to you.
2007-11-12 12:22:28 · answer #2 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really like her, let her know how you feel. say that you have strong feelings for her but you dont want to be judged by the gifts you get her. if she's a descent person she'll understand and like you for you, not for what you can buy for her
2007-11-12 12:19:07 · answer #3 · answered by Haley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's obviously proud of being high main. She sounds shallow because of it. Judging people by what they buy for her speaks volumes about her low self esteem.
2007-11-12 12:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by sahel578 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a chance. If it's not working out, tell her and if she's a good friend she'll understand. Plain and simple.
2007-11-12 12:19:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋