now am i having these strong feelings for my ex. We have no contact unless it has to do with our 2 adult children. I have tried very suttle to be his friend, he has not responded. Oh yeah he is living with his lady partner (10 yrs.) and I am re-married (2 yrs.) after being single for 9 yrs.
2007-11-12 10:59:08 · 31 answers · asked by Mary Mass 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
was anything left unresolved between the 2 of you? maybe that's all it is, or you just miss him...simple human nature
hope you get things the way they need to be for you
blessings and luck to you
2007-11-12 11:11:25 · answer #1 · answered by starting over 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're probably just going through a phase. I'm sure it'll pass. I've been divorced for almost 10 years, and out of the blue, about a year ago, I started having dreams that I was getting back together in my ex wife. In reality, that would be a nightmare. She's been married for about 7 years now, but I haven't remarried. The dreams stopped after a while, and things are back to normal.
I remember when I was in my mid-20's, I kept having dreams about a girl from back in middle school. I barely even knew or noticed the girl, so I can't explain why I started having dreams about her. The mind is just a crazy random thing.
2007-11-12 11:04:57 · answer #2 · answered by Jonathan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dang.. 12 yrs is a protracted time.. break up already... this can be the least perplexing divorce in history.. probably get the paperwork on the cyber web, the two sign papers , get some decide to co-sign and record them with the courthouse...
2016-10-02 00:51:32 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry honey, you loved the guy before, you'll never stop having those feelings for him. Maybe seeing him more and more is bringing back some of the good feelings. Since you are married, you need to get your mind off of it and concentrate on the life you have with your current husband.
If you weren't married and he wasn't with someone, I'd say there is nothing wrong with trying to hook up with him. I have a friend who got divorced and their relationship grew stronger and stronger and they did get remarried a yr and half later. They realized that those special feelings were still there and they really loved each yet.
Good luck
2007-11-12 11:04:54 · answer #4 · answered by Cate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This used to be the man of your life and father to your kids. Of course you will have feelings for him but you really need to move on and be happy with your new spouse because if you are thinking of your old spouse you are not giving your all to your current husband. yes its hard for you since these feelings probably feel very intense but they can only do harm. you both have different lives now and new people involved. it would hurt a lot of people. so you really need to overcome this and move forward and don't look back.
2007-11-12 11:07:30 · answer #5 · answered by ☆Ele☆ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get help so you can let it go. A long time to hold a torch and 4 people can only get hurt if you continue trying to act on these feelings. The reason he has not responded could be he knows your feelings and is uncomfortable with them.
2007-11-12 11:03:15 · answer #6 · answered by wrathofkahn03 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when we remember our past we filter/block out the bad times and tend to dwell on the good times and as time goes on this happens more frequently.
It's not wrong but don't get your happy memories confused with real feelings.
2007-11-12 11:03:14 · answer #7 · answered by Dawn A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know why the feel are strong,because your emotion for him never left you,and you re-married knowing that.For the rest of the question is that he has moved on knowing that you are married.It's over try to be happy.
2007-11-12 11:14:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he already is living with someone and you are remarried hun its not a really good idea to persue those feelings
But if you wanna be friends try and talk to him about it. She was he really feels when you actually come out and say it, no subtleness
2007-11-12 11:07:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be truthful. If you're nostalgic, chalk it up to the season. If hormonal, work it out. Don't blow it with someone else because you see the grass WAS always greener where you used to be...
2007-11-12 11:03:43 · answer #10 · answered by Goethe's Ghostwriter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋