My husband slept with another woman what should i do?

Answer 1

what u should do has much to do with his show of remorse, and if this is his first time or if there have been other times. it would depend if he wants forgiveness, and reconciliation.

Answer 2

I am personally against divorce* (that's why i'm still here answering your questions) But seriously, it is a choice ONLY YOU can make. If you can find it in you to forgive him, then do it, but know that is the begining of mistrust and suspicion.
I don't know how deep you are into your marriage and what strings, sorry, I mean children and properties who have together, but the more of these present, the more thoughtful you need to be about your decision.
Mine did, infact, several times before we got married (don't ask why i still married him) and its always been the single PERSISTENT PROBLEM in our marriage. He claims i'm suspicious and paranoid, but i really cannot trust him with any female, and he doesn't help the situation by being secretive and sneaky.
My dear, think things thru. It is a long long road to go with mistrust. If he is remorseful and gutted about it, you may want to forgive him, if he's not, you can only expect more bouts if you stay. Either way, your trust for MEN might have been broken, so even if you choose to leave him for s'one else this experinece will always be at the back of your mind. As i said the decision is yours. But think deeply, people make mistakes and don't go back to it, others make it a habit. only time will tell.

Answer 3

Only you can make that decision. If you still love him and he is truly sorry, ashamed and doing all he can to show you he wants your marriage to work, then you do have the choice to make a go of it. You must he willing to forgive him and start again with a clean slate; from this day forward; never looking back. The past is written and you, nor he, no matter how much you wish to change it, cannot do so.

Not every person is 'once a cheater; always a cheater'; it is according to the person. Suggest you concentrate on letting go of the pain, healing and when you can think clearer, make the decision that is right for you; no one can tell you what is best; you will know.

Answer 4

If you can forgive him...and to turly forgive a person you have to forget what they did as if it never happened. So if you can do that then yeah stay with the bastard. But if you can't forgive him....meaning that him cheating with constantly borther you and interfere with your marriage. If you can't get over it (and i'm not saying you should get over it and stay with him)But if you can't get over it. You know no matter what he does, your always gonna wonder is he cheating again. Those thoughts of him cheating again will destroy your marriage in the long run because you can't trust him anymore. And without trust you have nothing. You will live in dount for the rest of you life. It's not worth it and he doesn't deserve you. So to save yourself from more pain, heartache and stress. You should just divorce him. And move on!

Answer 5

I'm sorry. You must be in shock and also in pain.

You need to ask yourself if you can forgive him and if you'll ever trust him again. Do you think this is a one time deal? Did he tell you about it.........come clean??

If you are able to forgive him 100% and gain his trust back, I'd think about giving him a chance. Make it known to him that you cannot be hurt again by his cheating and that YOU don't deserve to be dumped on like that. How would he feel if you banged his best friend?? Sorry.........

But if you don't think you can forgive him, then try to seperate for a month or so. Take a vacation and get your head straight. Ask yourself if you want a life without him or if you can deal with his cheating lifestyle. Ask yourself if you deserve it. Ask yourself if you think he'll be faithful ever again. You need to do alot of soul searching and its best you do it on your own. You can ask us all you want but its what is in your heart and mind in the end.

Good luck dear

Answer 6

#1 Go to the Doctor for STD exam and blood test for HIV
#2 See Attorney, and have a good one listed on speed dial
# 3 Go to pet Smart and purchase a kennel for the
Dog that your husband is prepare him for eviction
++++++++++++ Seek Sound Consul ++++++++++++++
# 4 Take time to heal and determine if your marriage is worth saving

Answer 7

Find a marriage therapist. Infidelity will sometimes be a symptom of the relationship not working properly. You need to at least try to debug the relationship before dumping your husband... but you CANNOT debug the relationship without professonal help.

Answer 8

What happen to the vows....you have a concern and you need to consult your husband,particularly on the circumstances that left him in that kinda saturation.There isn't any excuse ,and to continue your marriage you will have to forgive him and obtain a marriage counselor.

Answer 9

How long have you been married? What led up to this? Did you see it coming? To ask a question of us to answer without the fracts is hard.... The question the way you have asked it now is.. Find out why! (and no dont leave him) There was a reason... Ask... Good luck.. write me if you want a specific answer.. OK?

Answer 10

I agree wit Roz, I always thought if anyone ever cheated on me i'd dump there lousy behind and keep things moving. but in real love there can be forgiveness, it just depends on the couple. Can u forgive AND forget, and can he be faithful to you. that's the real question. once u find those answers than you know what you should do.

Answer 11

Your husband is well aware that if youre married, you dont have sex with other women ! There is no excuse for it. You will probably never have trust in him again and if you forgive him, you will no doubt always wonder what he's up to. I say move on.