My ex emailed me and said the kids only want to come if I take them to Florida. They are 7,12 and 14. I have joint custody and speak to them every day and they did not tell me this at all. I am tired of arguing with her. How should I handle this?
2007-11-12 10:22:23 · 9 answers · asked by paco 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
. I dont know if you are going to fla. but why would she entertain the thoughts of the kids. I would say you are going to spend time with your dad it doesnt matter what you guys decide to do. Just say you will discuss it with them when they arrive.
2007-11-12 10:32:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If it is in the divorce decree, then you should have them. No matter where. There is no need to argue. Simply tell your Ex that it is in the divorce papers and that is how it is handled. You can only only argue with someone by going back and forth. State your case once and bluntly and leave it at that. Make it known when you will get them and when you will return them, per your agreement in the divorce. It is no ones business what your plans are while you have them. You can always contact your attorney, should your Ex continue to make it difficult for you. That is "your time" with them. Best wishes!!
2007-11-12 10:59:42 · answer #2 · answered by 2008girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your ex wants to keep the kids for Christmas and is trying to cause problems. Your kids are old enough that I would think they would tell you if that was the case. You could simply tell her that your and your children's Christmas plans are no longer any of her concern.
2007-11-12 10:42:02 · answer #3 · answered by jlynp84 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what you do with your kids on your visitation days is none of her damn business.
having been a non custodial parent in the past, i can sympathize with your frustration. how dare she encourage that type of bratty behavior. this is not co-parenting. don't respond to her e-mail. if she brings it up, change the subject. as long as you are abiding by the court order, it is of no concern to her.
make your plans for your holiday with your children. and remember, you are still the adult. don't let them act that way either.
2007-11-12 13:32:13 · answer #4 · answered by Isabella S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her to mind her own bussiness and stop using your kids against you, there should be no condtions to which you see your kids, tell her yes just to get them on the plane, then do what ever you want with your kids, she can't force you to take them somewhere you don't want to take them to.
2007-11-12 10:30:48 · answer #5 · answered by Bad_Kity 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Take them and explain to them spending time w/daddy is great no matter where u vacation...
2007-11-16 10:18:57 · answer #6 · answered by momof3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
none of her business what you and your kids do over christmas, so just tell her to STFU and mind her own business.
2007-11-12 10:44:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
is this for real? they'll only see you if you take them to florida? there's no argument here, it's bribery and you should let them know who makes the rules.
2007-11-12 10:31:58 · answer #8 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do what you like.
2007-11-16 10:28:35 · answer #9 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋