Almost divorced and have discovered my ex's affair?

Question

I've recently discovered that the reasons behind my STB ex leaving me was so she could have an affair with a married professor who has kids.

Knowing that this guy contributed to your marriage ending so that your wife could be his side dish, would you contact his wife?'

Here's what I do not understand... There is a repeating replky of this is not my business. Umm, the guy was sleeping with my wife and cheating on his own wife. How am I not a part of this again?

Answer 1

YES tell his wife! she deserves to know what a bastard he is! It is your business. He involved you when cheated with your wife!

Answer 2

No.....why inflict that kind of pain on his wife, not that she isn't already suspicious.....is it because you want some one to be just as miserable as you may be,or you're attempting to exact revenge by sabotaging your STB's current relationship......you may think you're doing the wife a favor but believe me, not only will her anger come down apon her husband and your STB, you'll get hit with it too as the bearer of bad news...ever hear of 'killing the messenger?'.....
....Time to move on....the Class Act thing to do.

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I read your details of three hours ago....the 'None of My Business' one...Honey, how is what your ex does now with her personal life your business? They only business you two share at this point is if you have kids together...other than that once the ink dries on the decree.....that's it.

I certainly understand your anger.....but to what purpose would contacting the prof's wife ? It won't change the past,and altho you may feel it's doing the wife a favor she may turn around and lash out at you as the bringer of bad news....do you want to deal with that? Does venting your anger by exposing the relationship with your ex and the prof justify dumping the info on the wife? And what if she refuses to believe you ? Are you prepared for that kind of anger/drama? She may call you a lying S.O.B.trying to trash her good marriage to get back at your ex.....Think it through before you act...........

Answer 3

No you shouldn't say anything. Even though it seems like a good idea now later on you realize it wasn't. She will find out on her own about the affair, it is not your place to say anything. Relish in the fact your wife was stupid enough to go from being the main dish to side kick. You can move on & still be happy she will spend the rest of her life going "what happen why didn't he ever leave her?"

Answer 4

No it's none of your business. If you're almost divorced that means that it's been going on for a while, so why dish some dirt now, That is just about the worst thing that you could do. Let her deal with it, if she's still with him and he is still with his wife, there's a good chance, that he will never leave his wife for your ex, so you'll get revenge without doing anything.
Just let it go and go on with your life, Don't waste anymore time on that , life is too short.
Good luck

Answer 5

No. I wouldn't. Regardless of what you feel about what she has done to you, it is not going to do you any good by trying to bring down someone else. If the other wife finds out then it should be on her own terms and in her own way. Just because she played you doesn't mean that you should be the one going around the world policing everyone elses lives.

Answer 6

I don't think you should contact his wife, but I hear in some states you can sue the person your spouse cheated with for contributing to the breakup of the marriage and emotional distress, so I think you should ask your divorce lawyer about that.

Answer 7

you could do that, but you have to keep in mind what that could do to his family, this guy is a complete tool but his wife and kids have done nothing wrong. Be happy you are out of that situation and tell your soon to be ex that she should have more self respect and these things always have a habit of coming out on their own anyway....... they cant stay hidden forever. Rise above it and move on with a clear soul.

Answer 8

that isn't an uncomplicated element to do. Be clever. possibly you ought to communicate on your mom. possibly there's a reason your mom is having an affair. possibly she isn't happy alongside with your Dad, possibly there is something incorrect with him. no person is optimal. or in line with possibility your mom is in basic terms too in love and is happy together with her ex. . you ought to settle for the reality and be courageous sufficient to stand this venture. you could tell your Dad if your carried out alongside with your mom. Slowly communicate on your Dad and verify out to make him sense which you like him. Be waiting on what could be the end results of this communicate. additionally communicate on your brother so he would be waiting. stable success.

Answer 9

Yes I would. When I found out my husband was sleeping with his best friends wife, I called the husband. The dumb man didnt believe me in Feb but he finally did in September. Mine just moved out this weekend. Yes tell the spouse! Why should you keep their dirty little secret and be miserable

Answer 10

No. Do not contact his wife. That is between them.

Do not seek revenge...and revenge would be the only reason to contact her. The learn how to admit to yourself all the reasons for the divorce.

Just move on and after you have healed your wounds, enjoy the dating scene.

Good luck.

Answer 11

No, because you could face legal drama in the form of a defamation suit unless you can prove your allegations. Stay away from it. It's not worth the potential loss of money.

You might want to ask your attorney whether your state allows lawsuits for "alienation of affection," however. If your state allows it, you might be able to rake the prof over the coals. Heck, he might be willing to settle out of court (confidentially) once he gets the complaint served on him...just to keep his job and to keep it out of the press. Now THAT might be worth the effort.