I had plans for thankgiving with my daughter and son-in-law..she just told me nthey decided to spen it with his family..should I be hurt or just let it go...
2007-11-12 08:19:47 · 24 answers · asked by brennastarr24 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hurt a little on the inside but don't let it show. Make some new plans!!
2007-11-12 08:22:58 · answer #1 · answered by Pallavolo Girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello I can really relate to this situation being a mom myself, In a similar or have been in the past .Feel the hurt like I did and then make the best of it. But after thanksgiving have a mother daughter talk and let her know how it made you feel don't show this before thanksgiving because being moms we always want our kids to be happy, and if she knows how you feel now she may not enjoy thanksgiving knowing you are sad.From birth until we leave this old earth we never stop putting our children first.Thats why moms are so special , and she is also in a pradicament she also has her husband family and he wants to spend time with his family on holidays which is only fair. So after thanksgiving I talked with my daughter we decided to share the holidays thanksgiving her husbands family christmas with her family summer holidays were spent in a park or beach and it works out so well, and of course moms food is always the best gee she was raised up on it (smile) and once she has spent quality time with her other family she makes a bee line to my house to fix food and take it home. So I still see my baby on thanksgiving. Maybe you could come up with a plan with your baby that works for everyone.Good luck and Happy THANKSGIVING!!!!!!
2007-11-12 08:51:59 · answer #2 · answered by Back Field In Motion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go. Life is too short to worry about things like this. Thanksgiving is only a day. Make plans with your daughter and son in law for the Sunday after Thanksgiving. Its more important to enjoy the time you spend with family. You wouldn't want to "force" her to come to see you and have her resent it or have a "fight" and spend all of Thanksgiving feeling bad.
2007-11-12 08:25:25 · answer #3 · answered by tobydogkac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know you dont have to celebrate all on one day.I worked this out with family.We each picked what day we wanted our dinner celebration to be one. The weekend before the day before the day after that way we got to celebrate with everyone.This makes the holiday season a season and not just a day.why dont you have your celebration on friday or saterday and invite his family too if you get along.This works for Thanksgiving Christmas Easter.hopefully your daughter and son in law will love you for taking the presure off.
2007-11-12 08:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by Debbie Ann H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends. Does she spend most holidays with you? If so then you shouldn't let it bother you if she wants to switch it up now and then. If you had plans though she really shouldn't just cancel on you without a good reason so see if she has one and if not you should let her know that it hurt your feelings. If it is a good and fair reason though, then you should just let it go.
2007-11-12 08:24:15 · answer #5 · answered by Deanrijo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your daughter you are hurt. Explain your feelings. Then compromise. Ask if for the next holiday, rather than spending it with her hubby's family, spend it with you. Then for the holiday AFTER that one she can go to her hubby's. Get it? That way, your daughter spends equal time with her in-laws and you. Hope this works. Good luck.
2007-11-12 08:45:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have they been married? Are his parents control freaks? If this is year one then they are working out the schedule and probably thought you'd be more understanding - his parents might have made a fuss (it happens). My daughter spends Thanksgiving with us and Christmas with her husband's parents. We invite them to our house for desert and it's reciprocated. No harm no foul. If, on the other hand, you're out for both TG and Xmas you have been sent a message.
2007-11-12 08:27:39 · answer #7 · answered by canela 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go. You will find someone to share the day with and if you don't, then just cherish the alone time. Life is too short to carry around resentments. Someone once told me that a resentment is like shitting your pants, you're the only one who feels it.
2007-11-12 08:24:35 · answer #8 · answered by replexgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be hurt, but just let it go. To compromise Why don't you ask them to come by the weekend for yummy leftovers?
Take care!
2007-11-12 08:27:30 · answer #9 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not about what you should be...obviously you've already been hurt by the action...so that answersthe first part of allowing your self to be hurt! and for the second part you already know the answer...let it go, its not major and wasnt intentionally done to hurt you so just let it go!!!
2007-11-12 08:25:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋