I know this sounds strange, but it could be for any reason. Maybe just to have an excuse to get out of the marriage for instance. I hope I'm not the only one who feels this way.
2007-11-12 08:19:17 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I did that to my second husband....I knew if I could just get him concentrate or find someone new. He'd be less likely to stalk me, after I left. Plus the thought of sleeping with him made me want to vomit. Fortunately he finally found a new girl and he stopped paying attention to me...so I was able to plan my get away. I didn't want to have to up and leave every aspect of my life to get away from him. I have family here and a good job. Plus verbal, emotional and financial abuse is hard to prove in order to get restraining orders. In some cases restraining orders just piss them off even more and he was or is just that type. That girl was smart she didn't stick around. Worried me for awhile, but I quickly regained my strength in just the short time I was away from him and stood up to him when he came catting around trying to manipulate me.
2007-11-12 08:25:41 · answer #1 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't think you are the only one. I am sure that there are women out there that are waiting for there husband to mess up in one way or another. It's easier that way, when the divorce starts. If the husband cheated, the favor is gonna go towards the wife in most cases. I don't think it neccisarly has to be cheating... maybe messing up in other ways such as the husband loosing a job. Or spending all the money.
2007-11-12 08:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by Chicka 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
if your truely unhappy and want out then just sit him down and explain how your feeling and work out an arrangement that work's for the both of you , but dont expect him to lower his self respect just so you have an open door to run .
The simple fact "IF" he did cheat it wouldnt matter that you wanted out of the marriage , it wouldnt matter that you thought you werent in love with him anymore and dont want to stay with him or married to him , it is still going to break you in half in pain.No matter how strong minded you think you are or how tough you think you are , it will HURT.
Dont play stupid game's of cat n mouse marriage isnt a game and your not a child so start acting like an adult and communicate with your man , so many people think they have marriage problems , come live in my house for 2 week's , you wont last 1 day .
2007-11-12 09:00:52 · answer #3 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeha there are r women out there who don't wanna be the ones who break up the marriage or relaionship - so they would probably wanna find a way for the husband to break it up, without them doing it. Maybe it makes them feel guilty.
Or for any other reason like maybe the hubby didnt get his wife to sign or pre nup or something, and she can get money if she proves he broke up their relationship, buts all legal stuff.
In short, yes there are definitely women out there like you missy, you're not alone.
2007-11-12 13:03:54 · answer #4 · answered by Meera88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just have to say this... You are a very disturbed woman!! There is obviously something wrong with your marriage and yet you don't have the decency to talk to your husband about it! You want to push him into an affair so that it is HIS fault the marriage ends and not yours. If YOU want out of the marriage then get out and have the guts to take the blame!
2007-11-12 08:35:32 · answer #5 · answered by tigger 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first off, you need to get out of your marriage. I feel the same way towards my husband. he has done things to me that I am ready 2 pack up and go. But then there are days when I snuggle with him and think everything is ok. If you want him to leave you then empty out your bank pack up move. and file for separation stay separated one year and that's it.
2007-11-12 09:04:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want him to cheat, it's really easy. Just get him all hot and h0rny. Then don't give him any. Keep this up until he can't take it anymore and finally cheats. I highly recommend you never actually do this to a man though. If you want out of a marriage, try being a grown up about it and expressing your thoughts directly and up front.
2007-11-12 08:24:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
no way,
and neither should you,
iwould think that if your at an age of marriage, then you should be mature enough just to say it out right you want the marriage to end,
and if you can't say it, then obviously there is something wrong,
I would be surprised to see if women actually think this way?
Meg
2007-11-12 08:34:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually the ones that dont care are getting that as# tapped by someone other then her husband. there is a question out there where a girl is trying to find a hot husband contest to find him a girl to cover her guilt.
2007-11-12 08:47:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your husband were to cheat on you, what would you do?
Leave him? Blackmail him into getting things you want?
Or maybe you just want to watch?
2007-11-12 08:24:51 · answer #10 · answered by countryguyhfc 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋