My fiance is planning on meeting up with a woman he went to elementary school with, that he hasn't seen since they were 12, but he has talked a little bit to on myspace. He is 23, so 11 years ago in elementary school they knew each other. Doesn't this seem odd? Why do you think he wants to meet up with her? She is overweight, but he is eluding why he wanted to.
2007-11-12 08:14:47 · 14 answers · asked by Snow Bunnie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This place is supposed to be for advice, not arguing about fat is beautiful. To me, overweight means you don't take care of yourself. Don't tell me I have problems with myself because I don't think fat is sexy. It has nothing to do with a flaw in my personality, it's a personal opinion. Move on. If you don't have sound advice to give, go complain somewhere else.
2007-11-12 08:40:00 · update #1
There are some girls that i would definitely meet up with from when i was young. I would take my wife with me at this point, if he fights taking you with him then you have reason to be concerned.
2007-11-12 08:27:34 · answer #1 · answered by hawkeye316 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe they were friends when they were kids. There's nothing wrong with that. It's kind of cool to talk with someone whom you haven't seen or heard from in so many years. You can catch up on old times, see what has happened in eachother's lives since then, etc. You seem a bit insecure about it. And what does being overweight have anything to do with it? Do you think he has romantic feelings for this woman, they were 12 years old when they met, for goodness sakes. You need to relax, there's nothing wrong with this. Would you still feel the same if it were a guy he was going to meet?
2007-11-12 08:23:48 · answer #2 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
And her being over weight means WHAT?
He could have had feelings for her, they could share some very important memories,
It could just be a playmate, or his first kiss,
Child hood memories are a great,
But I suspect that he is just honestly happy to see this old friend,
I have several OLD childhood friends that I would be genuinely happy to see again,
For diffrent reasons,
My first kiss, we had the best summer together,
adn then there are 3 playmates that we had our first jobs together, went to church together, and shared some MAJOR family heart ache with eachother,
OH and then there are a few others that i would definately like to hear from from my early 20's , they really helped me thru some RUFFFF times
it really bums me that you think that a persons weight has anything to do with a lack of attraction,
I mean its a personality that counts,
I am FAT now, and Married, my husband married me FAT
but as a younger girl i was always THIN,
I still consider my self beautiful, and so do many men,
So your jealous comment, on her weight, should be directed to yourself, if you see someone else as UGLY, its because
you feel UGLY, Maybe its a personality defect, or a physical flaw,
But what i do know is that if you say something like this to him, your gonna make him MAD, becaus he obviously really likes this girl, for some reason,
SHE MIGHT just remind him of YOU
2007-11-12 08:28:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Who cares. Just tell him you are excited to meet people from his childhood too and go with him to meet her. Be happy and affectionate (not clingy) with him during the encounter. Be polite and your normal self with her. She may make a great friend for you.
BTW - the fact that she is overweight means nothing. The fact that you think it does means something.
Edit- Your feelings are legitimate, but don't dismiss the fact that your opinions influence your life, your actions, and your response to situations. Try to remember that and keep it in check. You may think she is ugly but your opinion (which is yours to have) is NOT the opinion of the majority. And more specifically may not be the opinion of your husband.
2007-11-12 08:21:12 · answer #4 · answered by Poppet 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with catching up with an old friend. And please dont judge people for what they look like - all it matters what the inside. Dont jump conclusion just yet if you're suspecting your fiance is cheating on you with this girl. But trust your guard up if anything happens!
2007-11-12 08:18:18 · answer #5 · answered by mitchchan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So what is he eluding to as the reason? That would be the answer you are looking for... right?
Good luck.
2007-11-12 08:18:27 · answer #6 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he needs a connection from the past i still talk to my elem buddy and he is so hot but its not like that because in elem school i wasnt thinking wow hes hot, its like a brother connection not to mention his girlfriend is my friend too now .you really have nothing to worry about....and we too hooked up years later.
2007-11-12 08:23:52 · answer #7 · answered by nicole l 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I reconnected with a childhood friend and we, er, ok, maybe I'm not the best example.
2007-11-12 08:24:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anakin 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
u honestly seem jealous. she mustT got something going for her if your man wants to meet up w/ her
2007-11-12 10:42:08 · answer #9 · answered by Juicy Girl.♥♪ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
dont be jeolous sometimes people want to meet their childhood pals there is no harm in it
2007-11-12 08:20:20 · answer #10 · answered by sandeep j 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋