My friend is hurt and confused and I want to advise her right.?

Question

This weekend we got into deep conversations and she mentioned to me that several yrs ago she had found two letters he had wrote to a woman expressing that he loved her and wanted to make love to her and he didn't care if she was still with her husband and that he also wanted to lick etc. anyway last yr. she said this woman tracked her husband down and called the house. she is apparently good friends with the husband from the past years. anyway her husband happened to be going out of town that next week by coincident with his job. well she mentioned to me that she has a gut feeling that he snuck to see her and made love to her. she also feels that when he is day dreaming he is dreaming of this woman. even though this woman lives far away she feels that deep down that her husband is actually inlove with this woman. i want her to know the truth. i feel as her friend that she needs to know that maybe this woman is his soulmate. it is more details to the story.

Answer 1

Wow.If you get this right your her best friend.If you get it wrong and advice her incorrectly you may never see her again. Did you ever think of just staying out of it?

Answer 2

Don't truly need them the truth is general, not specific. For this he does love her, BUT she is feeling from the "HOW" he loves her, that something isn't right. IT ISN'T JUST THE COINCIDENCE'S!!!!!!!! That aside, "soul mating" is based alot on maturity. So yes if she is a cheating, emotional unatuned, deceitful person, maybe, it happens. Soul mate doesn't mean anything deep, but this comes down to the quality of this fella. But I look for her feelings on it, not yours. Its typical of a married woman to TRY and paint a pretty picture, if she can't do that, its because even in the things she isn't saying, he is failing. You what to help her? Tell her this truth, you love her, you feel for her, and you NEED the best for her, you've show'd that her. Show her that you'll be here for her, help her to confront him HONESTLY about the way she feels. Because it isn't just about the notes, the trip, its about the ENTIRE history of the relationship. Help her see this, and help her, help herself, confront him honestly about what it is she needs to say. This could all be blown out of proportionly. But you guys well never know unless she confronts him. Personally, between you and me, its going to get messy. For this to happen, they've never really understood each other, and I don't mean him cheating. I mean her even FEELING that he's cheating, means they don't understand each other or themselves. But I can go on and on, I've gaving you a direction. You choice, anything less means you guys babing this man, he doesn't deserve that, he desevers nothing less then truth.....