My husband cheated on me and I had a small baby. Will he cheat on me again?

Question

I thought about having another baby but I am all confused. He says he's sorry and does now not love this woman. He saw her for a year and wanted to leave but I convinced him to stay.

Answer 1

Just make sure that he isnt controlling you. i Understand its very diffucult especially when there are children involved, but just be careful and try to work things out. But if you think hes going to do it again, you need to get out of there. No one deserves to be treated like that. He should want to be with you and your child and love you with all his heart and never dream of wanting another woman.

Answer 2

You did the right thing,

this man is your husband, not just a lover,

its thru the good times and the BAD

its not easy , marriage is WORK,
and this is one of those times,

Hear is what I think,
I think that there is NO WAY to tell if he will cheat again,

but If YOU want another baby then Go for it, but remember, there is always the chance he might leave AGAIN

and then again he may NOT

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For all those that say once a cheater always a cheater,
WELL it can be true,
however, it depends on the circumstances, and things like that
NOT every situation is the same,

EG.
and military husband having a couple of one nighters,
and your situation, you were most likely arguing alot, due to hormones and family changes, its very stressful

and this other woman was probably pressuing him aswell,
, she mostlikely KNEW he was married and was attempting to Hijack your marriage.

After all she did want YOUR man,


So you see not everything is BLACK AND WHITE

we are all somewhere in the grey area,

Good Luck in whatever you decide,

Blessings
Meg

Answer 3

Ok this was not a one time affair, this was a year of lying, deceiving you, then he wanted to leave you and your child, he did not decide to stay or felt bad and wanted to make things work with you, YOU MADE HIM STAY. That does not seem like someone who is sorry. You live your life and know what you deserve none of us here can tell you what you are not willing to do or not. You have to decided if you are ok being treated that way, he had to have loved something about the other woman to stay with her for a year, cheat on you and his family.

Answer 4

Personally I think you shoudl cut your losses and move on,. like so many other posters have said a baby will not make him be faithful. sure he will stay because he has someone to have his babies keep his house and take care of him when his mistress won't but if he was cheating for a whole entire year it was just a one night stand uh oh i made a mistake the other woman is deffinitely emotionally involved with him and he with her. get out while you can before you are stuck and feel trapped because you have two or more of this mans kids. Kids are wonderful but if you don;t have the support to take care of them it can be a very stressful thing especially if you have more than one!

Answer 5

He wanted to leave but you convinced him to stay? My advice is to let him go. Sometimes the best thing to do is let the one you love go. It may be hard and hurt very much especially knowing you two have a child together. But if you had to convice him to stay with you what does that tell you?? If he loved you as much as he said he does then he wouldnt of cheated. Some people do make mistakes and learn from them but the trust is gone and that is one of the main keys to a relationship. The best thing to do is follow your heart. Do what makes you happy. If all you feel is heartache then why try to make it work? ITS HIS LOSS NOT YOURS!! He made the mistake. You deserve alot better!! Nobody deserves a cheater. I wish you the best of luck Take Care God Bless

Answer 6

Honey, it is all up to you, if you think you can trust him again, and have another child with this man, then fine, but if you had a small child due to his cheating, and all the stress he put on you and your pregnancy while he was cheating, then you have to decide if it is worth it.

Some people can forgive and forget, the question is, can you???

And are you sure, that he has stopped seeing this other woman, you have to cross your t's and dot your i's before you try again having another child with him, and if you think he will make a wonderful father to your children.

Is he a wonderful father to the one you have now???

Answer 7

Babies don't make a marriage stronger, they make a divorce harder. Don't put a kid through this mess as a way to keep your husband around. If he cheated for an ENTIRE year and you had to beg him to stay you are better off letting him go and finding someone who will love you right. You deserve love.

Answer 8

If you had to convince him to stay, what next? I think that if he was unfaithful to you for a year, you need to get couselling for all of you. I am sure your trust is lacking over all this and his fedility is questioned. No one can say if he will cheat on you again, but most refer to cheating as a one night stand not a year long AFFAIR.

Answer 9

Let me guess, he told you he's sorry and didn't love 'her' only after you found out about his affair, right? Hun, it's time to pack up and go. You're not responsible for him or his lousy behavior. You're in pain and this will ultimately affect your baby who, by the way, is not responsible either. Prepare yourself for some harsh reaction from him, but stick to your guns. I wish you the best.

Answer 10

If you had to convince him to stay, you need to find out if he really wants to be there. You can't keep some one there if they don't want to be there, and please don't bring in another child until you know for sure that you and him are going to make this work. Raising one child by yourself, is hard, but two, will tear you down. You also need to find out if he wants another child, and is going to be there no matter what. The kids come first.