sensitive subject?

Question

this may be a very sensitive subject to some but i have been thinking about it for a while now. i believe in god and his laws for man. ok! i have several gay friends and relatives. i think they are very caring and fun people. i would hang with them any day. i also think that their personal lifestyle is wrong. saying that though, it is none of my business! please dont start being mean. my friends and family know this about me and respect me enough to leave me with my opinions. i have never judged them and i never will regarding their choice. they are always helping others and throw awesome parties! so is it wrong for me to be this way? i like them for the people they are and not what they chose to do with their personal lives. is it wrong for me to have these kind of opinions about this? what is your thoughts on this? please be respectful.

thank you to the ones who will educate me with this. i am sorry if i offend anyone. i will understand that its is not a choice.

what i meant about their choice is their choice to live it openly.

i have never called any gay or leisbian a freak or anything hurtful. i am just confused. my god is a loving god so why do so many believers think they should try and change gays or leisbians? shouldnt we leave that between god and the person?

i am not embarrassed nor am i ashamed of my family or relatives. i love having them in my lives because i see them as every other person on the planet. my opinions are just that, my opinions. i never throw it in peoples faces they just know how i feel.

i respect all who respect me. gay or not. i care because i love these people and it bothers me that i have these feelings about their sexuality. two-faced is what i feel like i am.

Answer 1

It's absolutely not wrong to have these kind of opinions. We're all entitled to our own thoughts. HOWEVER. . ..I'll simply ask you this. If you have a child that turns out to be gay, would your feelings stay the same? 99% of the time, our opinions are based on our life experience. Much of that comes from our upbringing (i.e. parents, church, etc). If you choose to expand your horizons and further investigate our "lifestyle", you're likely to find that there are gay people all around you. We live normal lives. We have the same goals of happiness, a nice home, good friends, etc. and our straight friends. If you understand the biology of being gay, you may change your tune. Until then, you are certainly entitled to your own opinions. Please, however, don't use those opinions to berate, judge, or condemn. Thanks for a good question!

Answer 2

It depends on the person. I'd keep posting away because sometimes, you do get really good advice from some of the nicer people but I also have tough skin and I can take the rude comments. Some people cant take the insensitivity, if your one of those people, there is nothing wrong with that, you should avoid posting stuff about a sensitive subject matter.

Answer 3

the gay / religion issue has nothing to do with right or wrong. it's the proviors of bais on either side that makes it seem that way. God created all things, (if you believe) therefor, he created gays and lesbians and all other things that may seem different to some. Just because they are different or fall outside the parrameters of your religion doesn't give you or anyone the right to condem them. And also there is the religion of the left that just as closed minded, this doesn't this make them more right or wrong just in disagreement with the way to live your life.

It is two ideologies that conflict, but can be harmonious if we leave out the hypocrisies of man in each and understand love and the often hard but necessary rejection of what we choose not to be around, though even if that is our choice, we must all understand that others choose differntly.

Live your life as you feel you need to do to be a good ____ Love people unconditionally as long as they do no harm to you or others and if they do, then forgive them but be weary of them. It's god's job to judge not yours or anyone else.

It's man that has turned god's good book, "idiots guide to living a better life" into the espersions you claim to make against a your fellow man.

Answer 4

As said by Robin W: It's not a choice. The scientific community has proven thousands of times over that it is not a choice you can make (now they're debating over whether it's nature, nurture, or both, or, if it is nature, whether it's hormones or genetics, etc). I personally am a deist, but I used to be christian, and from my memory, I can say that God, as he is in Christianity, would not hold responsible anyone who honestly isn't responsible. Personally, I don't think it's wrong at all. But, seeing how you took extra care not to offend people any more than is required to say what you said, I shall not turn this page into a heated debate over who's religion is better, but simply leave it at what I've already said.

Answer 5

If being gay is seen as bad in your eyes, you are entitled to your beliefs. The fact that you don't shun gays and let them live their lives their way without making a big issue out of it is called tolerance. Bless you. If more people worried about their own business, and not what others do behind closed doors, it would be a much better world.

Answer 6

You just contradicted yourself. If you were really and truly non-judgmental you wouldn't say that the gay lifestyle is wrong. The gay lifestyle, like most of life itself, simply IS, the way that a tree just IS, or how the sky IS. It's a fact of life, it exists, and there's nothing that can be done about it.
If you insist on believing that gay=bad, that's your choice. Just show your friends that you care by keeping your thoughts to yourself. You don't HAVE to be all rainbows and gay pride parade and stuff like that, just leave well enough alone.

Answer 7

I think that if you had the courage of your convictions, that you would just say that they are caring and fun people, and stop right there.
There is nothing wrong with you--you are just fearful because your religion uses fear to control you. You will some day realize that it is not 'God and his laws' that you are trying to defend. You are merely parrotting the lies that your Church teaches to keep you in line and to keep the collections flowing in. When you realize that your Church is just a business, and when you can say that God loves GLBT the same as everyone, then you can come to heaven with us later. Have a great life!

Answer 8

There is nothing wrong with your attitude, in fact it is better than most. Your religious beliefs are strong teachings and should not be ignored, I don't agree, but it is reasonable for people to disagree on difficult topics! The fact that you do not ridicule or shun them in any way is admirable. A next would be to discuss this with them to try to get an understanding of how they came to realize they are gay.

Answer 9

Just don't bring it up around them

And If your Christian keep in mind that Jesus overturned the old Covenant (which is why you don't keep kosher, dress certain ways ect ect ect) the only overt homophobe in the New Testament was Paul and he has no authority to decide what is and isn't a sin he's simply an apostle

There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free person, *there is not male and female*; for you are all one in Christ Jesus.

Galatian 3:28

Answer 10

The truth... it is not wrong to have those opinions... if we say it is we are being hypocrites because we are fighting people to change their opinions by enforcing ours and that is just wrong. The problems is what do you do with your opinions??? I can't change yours and you can't change mine. But I don't meddle in your lifestyle why would you meddle on mine?
I don't forbid you to sleep with men and get married and live your life... even if I don't approve... why if you disapprove of my lifestyle then try to forbid me?
All we want is respect and equality not to brainwash you into enjoying everything rainbows... i don't want you to start pushing every men in your life to dress as a woman but if you do see a drag queen or a tranny don't call them freaks... is that too much to ask?