she's changed a lot since her father passed away 2 years ago. her bathroom trips have lasted longer, she wears long sleeve shirts in the dead of summer, and i've noticed tiny scratches all over her lower arms. not to mention serious attitudes. i'm worried about the scratches. any ideas on how they could have gotten there, and what's going on?
2007-11-12 07:42:11 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
First: don't jump to conclusions. That's definitely not what she needs right now.
That said, you should take her to a psychologist or some other professional, instead of just asking online. She might be mad at you for it at first, but it'll help her in the long run, so just try to get through it.
The attitudes sound normal though; at least she's still talking to you.
2007-11-12 07:50:25 · answer #1 · answered by Sonatina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those are cuts or she's about to start cutting. Sometimes younger people do this because it takes away from other pain. It's like a cover up. It takes the place of the pain they are feeling inside. Now I don't know if it actually works or not but this has been common in teens for years. Sedatives work lol. Just kidding. Yeah maybe she needs some depression drugs.
2007-11-12 08:16:07 · answer #2 · answered by Jamie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh...are you sure you're the mother? are you not, in fact, the 14 year old looking for someone to connect with? In case this is right:
If you are the 14 year old...talk to someone you trust. There are people at school who can help. Go to the nurse, the psychologist, a teacher you trust. Tell them you're having a problem with cutting and you aren't able to stop on your own.
You can find ways to feel better without cutting. I'm not talking about "high on life" crap, but actual ways to deal with what's bothering you. There are ways to deal with sadness and loneliness that don't hurt you more. You can figure out how to cope with grief, frustration and all the other crap that comes along with adolescence.
2007-11-12 08:01:37 · answer #3 · answered by Big C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she needs someone to talk to...have yo been spending alot of time with her lately? Go out to dinner and ask her and maybe a shopping trip and ask her to try on some short sleeve shirts so you can see whats up on her arms...they may be from a friends cat or something...she is also grieving the lost of her father
2007-11-12 07:47:19 · answer #4 · answered by brisbeachmom 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She might be cutting herself. Check her into a mental hospital for a period of time to be determined by her doctor in the hospital so she can get help. Cutting is a sign of depression or some other serious mental illness.
2007-11-13 06:54:39 · answer #5 · answered by wolfkarew 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is cutting herself she is very emotional i have friends with this problem and if anyone says she is emo ill be mad cuz she cant control it she doesnt do it to get attention she cant help it sometimes shes just so depressed its the only way she can express herself talk to ur daughter tell her its okay take her to a theropist so they can get her some help it really isnt a big deal once u get it taken care of but does need some serious attention right now tell her u love her and understand tell her ull help her she doesnt have to be afriad anymore
2007-11-12 07:49:01 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my friend went through something like this....she was around the same age when she started cutting her self, some people think that when they cut themselves it relieves pain... i never understood why she did this but the only thing she told me was that when she was bleeding that the pain was leaving her body, you really need to address this right away because she probably thinks that you might not care any ways.... i know that it might cause some big problems but you need to come right out to her and ask if she is cutting her self, if not you need to seek some counseling with her to find out what is going on...i hope that every thing turns out OK......hang in there i know it can be tough....
2007-11-12 07:50:53 · answer #7 · answered by A & AJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister did that. She had to have some psych help. I don't understand it at all. But she said it helped cover the other pains she was feeling. It's awful for such a young girl to potentiall be doing this. I hope things turn out ok. Good luck!!!
2007-11-12 08:00:05 · answer #8 · answered by h_e_r_a_80 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs professional help. She's cutting herself. It's a very serious condition. And very common these days, I have never don't it but i'm in the same boat she is right now,, I THINK
2007-11-12 08:49:47 · answer #9 · answered by ipod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are they scratches or cuts? Be sure she's not cutting herself. Get her some therapy. Could be adolescent normalcies, but with her father passing... make sure she grieved in a healthy way.
2007-11-12 07:45:47 · answer #10 · answered by jmiller 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋