My boyfriend last night told me he isnt happy in the relationship anymore, he later confessed his in love with his ex even thought they broke up 5yrs ago. My family 3 months ago moved overseas and he knows i miss them heaps. I am staying in this country for him mostly.
I love him but know feel up set that he has no decided to do this to me.
what should i do, leave and join my family or sty and sort this out with him.ive been with him for 2and a half years and we get on really well.
2007-11-12 07:40:24 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Go to your family...they are always there for you, men are not!
2007-11-12 07:43:51 · answer #1 · answered by Sandy Dahling! 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go and be with your family!!!! If you have been with this guy 2 1/2 years and he is still in love with an ex from 5 years ago-what have the two years with you been?!? Be thankful you can get away and get over him. You will find someone who wants to BE WITH you, not just use you to fill in the void of an old love! Use this as a sign that everything happens for a reason. If he chose now to tell you, even though he knows that you are hurting because you are missing your family, I think everything points to getting while the getting is good! Good luck=)
2007-11-12 15:48:14 · answer #2 · answered by bundanator 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay. He probably isn't so much in love with his ex as he is OUT of love with you. Discuss the issues. Find a solution. The solution IS there. Just don't give up. Relationships go through rocky periods. Tough it out. Above all, communicate. Don't go into a shell because you are hurt and don't allow him to be spacey either. Focus on discovering the problem, first. There IS a solution to every problem -- and it does not involve divorce or separation, etc.
2007-11-12 15:45:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anpadh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is a jerk, you dont need him. Let him go and you go with your family and find someone that's going to be happy with you. You are going to miss him because you have been with him 2 1/2 years. But you will get over it. Move on and let the next guy get the gem that some jerk is not happy with. Move on honey.
2007-11-12 15:46:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think this relationship is going anywhere so i think if you really miss your family and feel that is where you should be then you need to follow them. i would not stay here and sort out a relationship that truely the other person does not want. beside you are not married and therefore there are no obligations.
2007-11-12 15:46:35 · answer #5 · answered by Scorpio_sting 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would move on... if he isn't happy then it isn't even worth the time or effort to try and change that... I would join my family, leave him behind, live a little, and don't think twice!!
2007-11-12 15:45:25 · answer #6 · answered by Official Bethy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, be glad he was honest with you. If I were you, I would go and be with my family. If he's the one, it will work out. Otherwise, move on - there are plenty of men out there. Never be afarid to be alone or that you can't find someone else.
2007-11-12 15:46:47 · answer #7 · answered by kiddkosmic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously not too well if he said that. I say he is just a boyfriend kick him to the curb and move on. You didn't put anything in your argument that makes me really think you like him. Go overseas hopefully Europe where they know how to treat a woman. Go for it in Paris.
2007-11-12 15:44:09 · answer #8 · answered by Str8 Answers, Hurt Feelings 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no self respecting woman is going to stay with a man who professes to be inlove with someone else. He's just not that into you. You can stay and get along well, but you will never be his love. You can't make him love you. If love is what you want stay with your family.
2007-11-12 15:54:29 · answer #9 · answered by MessieJessie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no point in staying with a dude who's in love with someone else.
No matter how hard you try you can't make someone love you. I know it hurts, but those are the facts.
Drop the dude now. He's not good enough for you anyway.
2007-11-12 15:44:03 · answer #10 · answered by >>Phoenix<< 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He would have to be interested in trying to work this out with you, and that might involve some couples counseling. He really hit you with 2 issues: one, he's not happy, and two, he's in love with his ex. Ouch. If he is not willing to try and work things out with you, then I would suggest that you join your family. You need them right now. Good luck!
2007-11-12 15:44:45 · answer #11 · answered by rascal0718 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋