probably its his first time
2007-11-12 07:35:14 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It may be his first time but he will do it again!! Tell him if he does it again you will leave. Ther is no reason whatso ever and no excuse for him hitting you. Never meaning to doesnt go with hitting. You cant not mean to hit someone!!! He ahs a serious problem if he is doing this and you will ahve serious problems if you dont get out of it. Try persuading him to get help, that is when you know if he will change or is willing to change. Even if you have to stay away from him while he sorts himself out.
Good Luck
2007-11-12 07:48:54 · answer #1 · answered by jodee1kenobi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He meant to . And it'll happen again if not dealt with properly the first time . . All abusive relationships start with the first time and an apology . But it doesn't stop a second time .And it gets worse the more power they think they have . After all, it is a power play . What is likely to stop a second time is to do what's right the first time and call the cops . This will show him it's intolerant and put him on record in case something really terrible happens . It's not something to mess around with. And the victim needs to ask her/his self, is this really love ? It's not love in my neck of the woods .
2007-11-12 07:51:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree kick his *** out the door. Trust me Iv edealt with do you want a fear of a sunglasses like i have. cant wear them cause i use to cover black eyes with them. I may never be able to have kids cause the time i was thrown down the stairs. there is never an acusses for a man to hit a women or the other way around (it does happen men). If you really wanna take it than go head but i would recommend counciling and anger mangement and if that doesnt work. start packing
2007-11-12 07:40:36 · answer #3 · answered by blackraven254 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many good answers here. It is true that violence escalates in relationships. Violence can not be tolerated. The answer is in you... and your relationship. How many children do you have? If none, leaving might be the answer, if there are children, definetly seek counseling and talk with a lawyer to know your options and talk to someone from a battered womens group as that is free. Then discuss your options with your husband and tell him to make a decision about his future actions but only if you think that is safe to do. There is NO excuse for resorting to physical violence in a relationship.
2007-11-12 07:44:39 · answer #4 · answered by mastoyshop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get out or get him out. If he did it once and you let it go, then he'll think it's okay to do again. It is not your fault because it's never okay for someone to hit you.Don't stick around for the next time and there will be a next time. If you're afraid and need help, go to a close friend or family member or go to the police if nothing else. I wish you the best of luck. God Bless You and keep you safe!!!
2007-11-12 07:41:47 · answer #5 · answered by shelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use common sense and don't let him off the hook. One time is all it takes. I hate to tell you that he is awful and abusive without more information. My hubby and I play tackle each other and just like little kids, someone always gets hurt but if you listen to your heart you'll know if this was accidental and if there is even the smallest hint that it isn't you should leave. Don't get stuck with someone who doesn't treat you the way you deserve to be treated. You are amazing and hitting you is just foolish.
2007-11-12 07:39:24 · answer #6 · answered by sm0kinac3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dropped a cup and broke it that is an accident, you hit another adult then that is no accident. Not taking responsibility for his action shows he does not care about what he is doing, so yeah he will keep doing it again and again cuz he gave some dumb excuse as he never meant too and you believed that.
2007-11-12 09:00:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably didn't mean to hit you or probably did? Either way he's out of control and if you let him get away with it, he'll do it again and again. Of course he never meant to, who plans that, but he did and he will again. Counseling if you want to stay with this abuser. Lawyer if you are smart enough to get out now.
2007-11-12 07:41:41 · answer #8 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he did is what counts, not what he says. So.... When he has his hands full of sacks of groceries I want you to kick him in his balls as hard as you possibly can like if you miss you are going to do a backflip. When hes laying on the ground and paralyzed with that bulging eyes *I just had my nut driven up into my spleen look* you say oh crap sorry I didnt mean it. Thats the only way youll get that kind of person's respect.
2007-11-12 07:43:40 · answer #9 · answered by timssterling 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey - they never mean to. get away....telling you that they never meant to is a classic piece of the violence circle.. of course he never meant it and it will never happen again - until next time. maybe it is his first time - but it won't be his last. trust me. get out. how do you deal with it? kick his *** out, get a restraining order and move on. it sounds harsh, but when they hit, they need help, and they won't change until they want to. hitting is not normal, and shouldn't be tolerated.
2007-11-12 07:40:23 · answer #10 · answered by cheyenne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋