I'm not saying they are good OR bad, but why are they necessarily bad? If 2 consenting adults feel right at the time, why is it bad? If you don't find someone to love are you supposed to never have sex? How much of this stuff is taught to us? I've always wondered what my true sexuality would be if I hadn't had society's stuff crammed in my head from birth.
2007-11-12 07:31:57 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
From a sexual standpoint, there is certainly nothing wrong with two consenting adults sharing some sexual intimacy, as long as proper precautions are taken and you have no personal convictions against it that will lead you to feel guilty afterwards.
The only potential "bad" thing about it is...if you don't know the person, you can't be sure that he or she is not dangerous and will act violently or unbalanced toward you either during the act or later.
2007-11-12 07:36:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
What is the difference ? You meet someone, you give the person your number, you date until the night you give in and have sex. Then, somewhere along the line, someone doesn't call, the fling is over. By this time you have to deal with the emotional bond.
1) On a one nighter, there are no preconceptions, you can be you right off the bat...you don't have to pretend unless you want to.
2) You're not waiting for the phone to ring.
3) Just because you date the person for a month before you jump eachother's bones doesn't mean the other person is free of HIV or any std's...unless they just went to the dr. to check, and then wait for verification.
4) There is no right or wrong. You just need to do what is right for you. You are the one who will pay the consequences, no matter if they are good or bad.
What you have been taught which has led you to this confusion is from people who have had your best interests at heart, as they were also taught. Humans are fallible.
The world has to change...
2007-11-12 08:21:30 · answer #2 · answered by imgram 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
they are bad for me (I had one, and regretted it), but I suppose if both people (or however many) have no further expectations, then it's up to them.
I think love and sex are like coffee and sugar (assuming for the sake of comparison that sugar was not an ingrediant in anything else). Mainlining sugar without the coffee might be a rush at first, but after a while it makes you sick. The two go much better together than apart.
2007-11-12 07:57:42 · answer #3 · answered by Kara J 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with a one night stand, other than the possibility of STD's and unwanted pregnancy, but that's easily remedied by using condoms. It is human nature to go around and have sex with multiple partners. Regardless of what uneducated, closed-minded religious types will tell you humans are animals, and animals are supposed to go around and have sex with as many partners as they can to further their species. Don't listen to all the crap that everyone tells you about abstinence, only having sex with someone you love, no premarital sex, etc. Those are all man-made constructs. The science and nature of it is that we should just be able to do what we feel in our instincts. If you want to have a one night stand, go right ahead, you're supposed to.
2007-11-12 07:42:38 · answer #4 · answered by FSM Raguru AM™ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If neither of you is in a relationship: be safe (condoms), have fun, go crazy. Just realize that it might not be 'one night' as attachments do tend to form.
If either of you is in a relationship there are a few issues:
a) your current partner won't ever fully trust you again, and they will know. Even if it's just a 'hunch', they'll know.
b) your friends, family, coworkers, etc will no longer view you as trustworthy.
c) you may be denied clearances for some high security jobs.
The Clay Walker song, "Then What" puts it rather well when it comes to cheatin':
http://www.cowboylyrics.com/lyrics/walker-clay/then-what-9591.html
Cheers,
Douglas
2007-11-12 07:44:16 · answer #5 · answered by DouglasD 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Safety is the primary concern with regards to a one night stand. Ted Bundy was a good looking, average seeming guy - one that you wouldn't see as a threat for an encounter. The other consideration is health protection.
2007-11-12 09:03:31 · answer #6 · answered by Super Ruper 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's only bad if you aren't emotionally equipped to handle them. Some people fall for their partners too quickly and want more than a one-night stand. Others can just tell them to get up and leave when it's over.
2007-11-12 10:14:59 · answer #7 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No they are not bad as long as you go into it w/no expectations and remember to be safe(ofcourse) It can be fun!! Although sex is hotter w/a mental connection such as love but casual does have its perks! Society says alot of things..that doesnt make them right.
2007-11-12 07:41:30 · answer #8 · answered by jo 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
To me they look shallow, hollow and empty lusts for actual intimacy. yet they do fulfill that lust for particular. i think it extremely relies upon on the place your at who your one evening stand is with and whether alcohol or different drugs had to do with it that would strike a bad notch in my emotional e book.
2016-12-16 06:31:32 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think one night stands are bad. but having sex with someone who you have at least some type of relationship with is okay. you don't have to necessarily be in a committed relationship with the person, but at least talk about it and know where each of you stand. so nothing is misinterpretted or so no one will get hurt in any way (emotionally or get pregnant). but one night stands, which is a ONE night thing, is bad!
2007-11-12 07:46:04 · answer #10 · answered by Just DiVine 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋