i am 3 weeks pregnant and very scared to loose it?

Question

hey, i have been trying to get pregnant for 7 years now i got it, the conception was on Oct 24th so im almost 3 weeks, the doctor said no to get to confident because in a normal case the first 3 months of pregnancy is very dangerous, i have been feeling some cramping sometimes is very hard sometimes isn't, but yesterday i had a little bid of blood (like water blood) just a little and now i have a brownish discharge, call the doc but she said sometimes thats normal, but i feel shes not very sure about this pregnancy. i feel really frustrated, i don't want to loose my baby, can someone tell me if that is really normal?? thanks

Answer 1

If you don't feel confident in your doctor or don't think they are concerned about your pregnancy find a different doctor. There is nothing worse than getting a sense of uncertainty from someone like that. The first 3 months are the most dangerous and critical, yes. But there are people that give birth to healthy babies every day.

Answer 2

I have had 2 miscarriages and yes I completely understand how you feel. Yes it can be normal but it is also how a miscarriage can start it is hard to tell. If I can just offer some advice from pure experience Please either go in and get checked out or get a second opinion!!!!! Cramping even a strong cramping is normal I had almost period strength cramping with my second son. It is your uterus and pelvic area stretching and preparing for the growth of the baby. Spotting can be normal as everyone is different and as is every pregnancy. My Grandmother had her cycle it was very light but she had it for the first 2-3 months of most of her pregnancies that went to full term and she would have had about 23 kids if not for miscarriages. However I did not spot with my 2 pregnancies that went to full term, only with the 2 miscarriages that I had. If you feel that strongly about the Doc then find a new one. you should feel completely comfortable and confident with your Doc.!!!! Just try, as hard as it may seem, to relax and take it easy. Stress is not good at all for you or the baby right now. Good luck and be safe.

Answer 3

I would honestly find a new dr...you have been trying for 7 years and she tells you the first three months are very dangerous!!!?? That is thoughtless and unsympathetic - stress is bad to a pregnancy and a comment like that can add to it!
Also while spotting can be normal - most Drs will have you seen anyways - yet she did not!!
Find a new dr...ask friends and family for a suggestion!
In the meantime...spotting can be more common than folks think....and sure the first 12 weeks are the riskiest...but MOST women get through just fine so think positive and call around to find a good dr that can see you now are offer you some better advice!!
Good luck!

Answer 4

Some spotting is normal and the cramping is very normal. Your doctor is right that the risk of miscarriage during the first trimester is a little high(about 15%, 85% of pregnancies turn out just fine though) but there is nothing that can be done if it happens. There are several reasons for it and none of it can be predicted or prevented. Just take it easy, take care of yourself, and try not to stress about it as it's not good for either of you. Just let it go and know that it's out of your hands, if you have a faith just know that it's in your creaters hands now. It's hard to do but it's best if you can manage to.

Congrats!! and good luck.

Answer 5

I tried for 7 years to get pregnant and with the help of ivf i got pregnant but i had some discharge and brownish blood in my water between weeks 8and 12 but they told me it was normal and with each scan the baby was fighting fit, the mist important thing is try to relax, im now 19 weeks and im just starting to relax i was a nervous wreak for a while and no one ever tells u what to expect. Good Luck

Answer 6

Slight cramping and light spotting are normal during early pregnancy. If you are very unsure or you are doubting their judgement, get a second opinion. Your doctor is correct in saying that the first trimester is critical, and miscarriages do occur typically prior to the 12 week mark. Just be careful, don't stress. There's nothing you can do to avoid a sure miscarriage, it's your body's way of preventing other issues. Good luck!

Answer 7

Just so you know, if conception was Oct 24, you are almost FIVE weeks pregnant. Doctors measure how far along you are by the first day of your last period, so you're further along than you think.

As far as worrying about miscarriage, I was really worried about it, too. I'm about 12 weeks now so I'm out of the danger zone. But really all you can do is take your vitamin and rest, and don't stress. You should be okay. Good luck!

Answer 8

No one is going to be able to give you a definitive answer at this point. If you have large amounts of blood, then you should be concerned. The key right now is try to relax. Live your life right now as it is given to you. You can't control this so don't try. It will only frustrate you. God is in control. Trust Him. Pray to Him. Jesus is listening all the time. He loves you. Ask for peace, guidance, and help. He can do things you can't so give all of this worry, fear, and frustration to Him. Let it go. Relax. Take a deep breath.

Answer 9

FIRST, CALM DOWN. STRESS IS NOT HEALTHY AND THAT WILL CAUSE A MISCARRIAGE. LISTEN, IT IS NORMAL. HOWEVER, IF YOU DON'T FEEL COMFORTABLE WITH THAT DOCTOR, CHANGE. YOU WILL HAVE CRAMPING, LIGHT BLEEDING, ETC. IT'S CALLED THE GROWING OF THE LIGAMENTS IN YOUR BODY. PREPARING FOR THIS PREGNANCY AND LATER FOR DELIVERY. LIKE I SAID, IF YOU DON'T TRUST THE DOCTOR JUDGMENT, GET ANOTHER DOCTOR'S OPINION. I FEEL/FELT THE SAME WAY ABOUT HAVING A MISCARRIAGE. ONLY DIFFERENCE IS MY DOCTOR HAD ME COME IN FOR EVERY LITTLE THING I FELT NERVOUS ABOUT. GO SEE THE LOCAL ER OR SOMETHING ABOUT CRAMPING AND HAVE THEM DO A ULTRASOUND TO EASE YOUR NERVES. GOOD LUCK

Answer 10

First,... calm down, seriously you need to relax because the baby can feel it when you are stressed, it's not good. You're doctor is right, it's perfectly normal, but if anything doesn't feel right to you then use your motherly instincts and go to the hospital,... get checked out just to be sure. God Bless you, Good Luck and Congratulations.