Recently me and my wife seperated for reasons I wish not to share, and I was wondering how to win my wifes heart back? I have broke been a horrible husband in the past, and contiunally pushed her away. I have asked god to forgive me and I'm trying to rekindle the marriage, but I think it might be to late. Please help.
2007-11-12 07:31:09 · 12 answers · asked by Ronald H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is not too late as long as you put God first in your life. He will restore your marriage, but you have work to do.
Please check out Bob and Charlyne Steinkamp. They have a restored marriage after being divorced for about two years. They have a website and send devotionals everyday encouraging men and women to stand for their marriage and their spouse's salvation. Check out their archives.
https://rejoiceministries.org/devotion.php
I highly recommend that you sign up for Doreen's Devotionals called Doreen's Daily Delights.. These are awesome. http://marriagerestorationministries.org/
Here's another website for people standing for their marriages. They have a men's forum where you can talk to other men standing for their marriages. There is chat every Thursday night. http://www.faithandmarriage.com/
Check out Jimmy and Karen Evans. They have a weekly tv show that discusses marriage. Their shows are on the internet that you can watch. Jimmy is excellent. Jimmy gives very practical guides on how to have a successful marriage. http://www.marriagetoday.org/
Also check out this link concerning divorce and remarriage. I think you will be surprised. Many churches are blinded to the truth and even encourage people to divorce. Satan is tearing the church and marriages apart.
http://www.biblicalresearchreports.com/divorceandremarriage.php#hatedivorce
Good luck and God Bless!
2007-11-12 07:34:53 · answer #1 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you may in time be able to convince her to try again, but unfortunately there are some things that just arent going to go away. Like the memory of whatever it was you did. Even if she decides that she really does want you, despite whatever the problem was, I can gaurantee that whatever happened will have permanently altered her feelings or view of you. Only you and she know what it was you did, so how much her feelings have changed will depend. For instance if you just never came home on time from work or something like that, or just didnt always do what you said you would...didnt help around the house...small things like that, then she can probably get over it because that would mean what was bothering her in the relationship is something that can change. All you would have to do in that situation is prove to her that you had changed. However if you lied to her in any way I can assure you her trust in you will never be the same. Also if you were doing anything that hurt her emotionally that she can remember specific instances of....as in not just a way you behaved or a state of mind you had...if there were actual events that took place that hurt her, I doubt she can ever look at you the same. I am assuming that it is one of the bigger problems since you mention asking God for forgiveness, maybe she is strong and will be able to move past it with you. But it will never not hurt her remembering what happened.
2007-11-12 15:47:29 · answer #2 · answered by Kii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is going to take an awful lot of sincere communication. I am going through the same situation although I am on the recieving end. I too was pushed away but I never once walked away completely. Yes I was the B@#@ at 1st because I was the one that left without any reason to his knowledege but I had my reasons. I prayed to God every night to help him find his way back to me. He is proving his trustworthiness but after so long of just sitting there waiting for him to talk about it I couldn't take it anymore. Needless to say I waited a long and hard 6 months for him to change his mind which at that point I knew he loved me because my husband is the type that once he makes a decision he sticks with it. I gave up everything and walked away with my diginity still intact. It was a long hard fight but I think I proved to him that I was wrong for walking away but I was scared to open my mouth. But now I don't have a problem and he is going to hear what I am feeling and have to say. 6 years of my life were taken away from me, I felt hopeless. But I know one thing is for sure God was and continues to be with me every step of this reconciliation process.
2007-11-12 15:47:18 · answer #3 · answered by ????? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have exerted every effort to win her back and have shown how sorry you are, but still don't get the marriage work, well,I guess, you just have to accept. She might had been really very very hurt by what you did and probably felt unrespected and unloved. Now, no amount of prodding or even love could change her mind.
2007-11-12 21:17:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My honest opinion is this:
If my husband continued to put stress on our relationship the way you put it on your wife. I would have left you. Period. There is nothing worse than being married to somone that just lives to cause stress. I know you asked for forgiveness and God will forgive you if you sincerely mean it. However, when it comes to a women, we are less likely to forgive a repeated offence, regardless of out "nurturing nature". I'm sorry, but you'd be doing HER a favor if you just left. Remember, "IF YOU LOVE SOMETHING, LET IT GO, IF IT LOVES YOU BACK IT WILL RETURN TO YOU." So dude, chill out and let her go.
2007-11-12 16:20:39 · answer #5 · answered by ★♥AJ♥★™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Praying and asking god to forgive you is a good start. Now you have to talk with her and ask her forgiveness. Have you gone to therapy to work out the reason you pushed her away. If you do that and stay in therapy and start going to church and ask her to go with you and slowly build your relationship and her trust back it might work out. It really depends how long you have been gone and how much she wants you back.
2007-11-12 15:38:34 · answer #6 · answered by youcandoit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I'd just try being a friend, and being there when she needs a shoulder, or a favor.. then slowly, start proving you are a better person., dont expect things to change over night, give it alot of time... if there are kids involved, be the best you can be for them also. Good luck, and keep your head up.. time helps to heal...
2007-11-12 15:47:17 · answer #7 · answered by queenlionus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We need to know what you did to give you the right advice- if you cheated on her it's most likely too late especially since she's already left the house.
That's the one thing I always say- don't push so hard because once she is gone it then becomes easy- the hardest part is leaving.
2007-11-12 15:37:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take time to win her love back. Just keep showing her you have changed and that you love her and are sorry for the past and if she still loves you she will come around.
Good Luck
2007-11-12 15:39:45 · answer #9 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as she still draws a breathe I guess it is not technically too late.
But there are some decisions that we make that change our lives irrevocably. You just have to reap what you sow.
Good luck.
2007-11-12 15:36:43 · answer #10 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋