Will my parents kill me. Or murder me?

Question

Me and my boyfriend were going out for 2 mouths now. everytime i see him we would have sex. but intell one day we were at his place and all of a studden we had sex. But then i ended up pregnant. If my parents know that i am pregnant they will kill me. they did not even know that i had a boyfriend and if they did they will kill me even more. What should i do?

Answer 1

This is a very difficult thing to have to face, and I wish you courage and strength.

I would suggest you picture what you would LIKE your parents to say when you tell them. Do you want them to throw their arms around you and say it's all gonna be ok? Do you want them to heave a big sigh and say to you that they will support you?

Don't picture them screaming and shouting at you, with you in tears. If you are calm and controlled when you tell them hopefully they will take the news in a calmer way than if you told them through floods of tears and sobs.

Decide in advance when you are going to tell them. Pick the right moment. This is very important. You don't want to tell them when they are busy making dinner or being distracted by the TV.

Before you tell them I think you should have a fair idea in your own mind as to what you want to do with the baby. After all it is your life and inevitably your decision. Incorporate this decision you have made into telling them. Like: I'm pregnant and I have decided to keep the baby.

Also before you tell them lay down some ground rules. Like: Mom, Dad I want to tell you something but I'd like you to listen to me and let me finish. Tell them you want their support and their love.

But most importantly stay calm and mature about the whole thing. You have to understand to them you are their little girl and in their eyes your future is now ruined and may force you into doing something you don't want to do.

Their are thousand of successful young mothers out there. In some cases their parents supported them, in others their parents disowned them.

But most have two things in common - 1. They had to forget their teenage years and put their early twenties on hold while they raised a little baby and 2. They got through it, but having a baby so young changed their lives forever.

So take a deep breath, make some decisions and GOOD LUCK!

Answer 2

Well, from what you're telling us, it's obvious that you're in big trouble, but I am more concerned about what you said your parents will do to you after finding out that you are pregnant. I hope you did not mean this in a literal way, but in case you did, I would get protection, and I don't mean a condom. (It is a little late for that.) If you are very worried or feel like your parents may do something violent, speak to a trusted professional like a counsellor and/or the police.
Everyone makes mistakes, and it seems like you feel you have made a very big mistake that will deeply upset your parents, however, nobody needs to fear for their life. You just need to deal with the consequences afterwards. If you meant kill/murder as in grounding you (or maybe something a little more harsh than that) then go home to your parents, look for an opportune time to speak to them, and face the music. Handle this as responsibly as you can and don't try to keep it a secret, especially if you are still living under your parents, as tempting as it might be. You need to make sound choices, not only for yourself, but now, for your unborn child as well. Best of luck, and in the future, try to be a bit more careful than you have been.

Answer 3

How old are you? How old is the boyfriend?

Your parents are not going to kill you. They'll very likely be very disappointed in you, but they're not going to kill you.

Come forward and tell them what happened. If you're pregnant, you need prenatal care and that's going to cost money. If your parents have you in their insurance policies, you need to let them know so that you can start seeing an ob/gyn or midwife if you intend to go through with the pregnancy. If you decide you aren't ready for motherhood, you'll still have to tell your parents because terminating a pregnancy costs money as well.

If you intend to go through with the pregnancy, you're going to need all the support you can get. You won't be gaining much support if you hide the truth from those you need the most support from.

Answer 4

You didn't end up pregnant, you made a choice and so did your boyfriend, the wrong one, but I am sure you know that now....or at least I hope you do. You need to tell your parents, but you may feel more comfortable doing so with a trusted adult, (teacher, friends parent) by your side....good luck to you, good luck to this child, adoption is an option.

Answer 5

They will be upset for sure, but they won't kill you.

You must tell them and the sooner the better so you can decide what to do together. Talk to them when things are calm at home, like after dinner, or talk to your mom first alone if you are close to her.

Remember, they are parents and this is not the first time they would ever have heard about this happening.

Answer 6

honestly! not in basic terms do they deserve it, even nonetheless it rather is in all probability additionally saving yet another new child from a similar destiny. Our justice gadget frequently sucks and could launch those human beings from penitentiary after in basic terms some years. i can not even inform you techniques many circumstances i've got examine some molested or maybe a murdered new child and it suggested that the killer develop right into a convicted intercourse criminal and only have been given released. considering the fact that we don't lock those sickos up for existence, then i think of killing them is the only different secure answer!

Answer 7

It may not be the answer you are hoping for, but i think you have to tell them. They will probably be angery at first, but think of how much worse it would be if you didn't tell them, you would be going through everything with being pregnant, and thrying to cover it up, which in the long run will be impossible for you, because let's face it they are gonna figure it out regardless, whether you have it or not. Good luck with whatever you choose to do, i hope this helped.

Answer 8

They aren't going to kill you. They will be mad. They will yell & lecture you. But in the end....they love you. And in the end....they'll love their future grandson or granddaughter.


You need to sit your parents down and talk with them. If you're really scared about their reaction.....you could tell a counseler and have them have someone at the house to help you discuss your feelings to your parents..

You then have to sit down and discuss your future. Do you want to have this baby? Do you want the boyfriend to be involved? Does he want to be involved? If you're in school.....how will you handle getting your studies done.

It's going to be very painful in the beginning. But I guarantee you there is light at the end of the tunnell. Your future has not ended. It has just begun.

Answer 9

It is obvious by your question that you are very young...if you were so afraid of being murdered by your parents why were you having irresponsible, and most likely, unprotected sex? It's too late now to worry about being killed by your parents...at your age you're going to need their support especially if you keep the baby...time to grow up and face the music...tell your parents.

Answer 10

well the truth is going to come out eventually. I believe they are going to be mad, but I doubt they will kill you. Let them be mad, eventually they will come around accept what can not be changed. Better now, than having to explain later when it is really obvious.

EDIT: To all those who ask about why didn't she use Birth control? Does that REALLY matter now? What is done is done. Why torment the poor girl by pointing out what she did wrong. I am sure she will learn from this experience.