I have come to the realization that all men (particularly gay men) are whorish. Being 22 I find that most guys my age just want to have sex. Is it possible to find a meaningful gay relationship? So instead of constantly getting hurt I've decided to only have sex with people & keep my emotions out of it.
2007-11-12 07:19:23 · 22 answers · asked by LG_89 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Actually I have hopes of meeting the right guy, buying a nice little house somewhere, and settling down for a nice life of growing old and loving each other. I'm just waiting for the right guy to come along. So, please don't put your judgements and stereotypes on me, Okay?
2007-11-12 15:49:15 · answer #1 · answered by Squirrel 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
"Whore" is a slang term meaning "prostitute."
The term you're looking for is "s|ut," and we men can indeed be very sexually driven. [And like me, they hopefully learn how to control themselves at times to avoid being clods.]
And of course your peers "just want to have sex" -- in the early 20s, the libido is extremely strong. That's not a bad thing.
But it sounds like you're wanting an emotional connection, and that's going to be hard to find if you're hopping into bed on the first date. Deep connections just don't happen that quickly. Frankly, you sound a lot like me when I was your age -- I could get quite infatuated with someone quite quickly. And I did indeed embark on several years of having anonymous sex; though it was satisfying at first, it eventually grew tiresome and unsatisfactory.
So, since you're 22, my advice is to keep things light and have fun. You're still extremely young and only a few years into adulthood, so be on the carefree side while you can -- hell, even straight people shouldn't get married at 22, because I've seen innumerable examples of people that young just not being experienced enough to handle the unique challenges that a relationship presents.
By the way, by "carefree" I don't mean lazy and brainless. I just mean to have fun when you go out, and if you practice safe sex you can have all the sex you want. And along the way, you can be on the lookout for dating opportunities with other men who share your goal of a meaningful relationship -- trust me, they're out there.
2007-11-12 15:36:13 · answer #2 · answered by The Snappy Miss Pippi Von Trapp 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
In your age range, you may be absolutlely correct. Most guys your age are simply not ready for a committed relationship. Even those that are in their 30's often have a difficult time being "committed" to exploring one relationship (and, yes, monogamy) than they are to simply having sex. Having come out much later in my adulthood, I can attest to the fact that I was on a path of "quantity versus quality" kind of mentality. Only after the anonymous stuff got boring was I finally interested in exploring a more committed relationship. Like you, I had learned to make the emotional disconnect. I assure you, however, that once you (and another person) are ready to make the emotional and physical connection simultaneously, sex becomes better and the emotional maturity grows. Best of luck!
2007-11-12 15:29:17 · answer #3 · answered by pocket68rocket 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Most men, gay or straight, are at their sexual peak from 18-30 years old. Once they grow up, they get bored with boinking anything with a pulse and start looking for meaningful relationships.
2007-11-12 16:04:20 · answer #4 · answered by Victor 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say no. And most possibly yes at the same time.
Sure, alot of young men want to have sex. Experiment. All that kinda stuff.
However, a few men will pop up, who aren't going to just want to have sex.
You will find that person eventually.
2007-11-12 15:29:11 · answer #5 · answered by Sira 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wait till the right man comes along. I haven't slept around all the men I came across, but you must discount the varying degrees of libidinous desires in men and women. If you know what you are looking for, you will surely get it, provided you know where to find it.
2007-11-12 15:32:00 · answer #6 · answered by Gaymes Last Orchestra 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
im 15 and id have 2 say tht i agree but u cant go without trying there are other guys out there like us who want more than sex because hey we want more we r not the only man tht wants more and just having sex is not the solution
2007-11-12 16:11:00 · answer #7 · answered by RUKIDDIN 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My advice is to seal your emotions. Have some senseless sex. It feels good to just have what u want without the fear of getting hurt. So go big!
2007-11-12 15:26:25 · answer #8 · answered by Mistique B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Silly boy! You need to only have dates and keep the sex out of it. If you do, you will be in a relationship before you know it.
2007-11-12 15:35:30 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
most men at a young age sleep around; gay, bi or straight. you just have to meet the right person and stop falling into bed with them
2007-11-12 15:23:13 · answer #10 · answered by ♥SPARKLES♥™ 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋