Im curious if its really true what people say the cons are to staying a virgin til marriage argument. One of those reasons is that the husband and wife will be curious about what else is out there, especially if they don't find their marriage sexually gratifying. Would this person cheat to find out? Would it thus be better to have had sex before?
Are you a virgin who regrets staying a virgin til marriage? Were you a virgin before marriage and don't regret it? Why don't you regret it or vice versa?
2007-11-12 07:10:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am a Virgin over the age of 30 and unmarried. I worry about the problem you stated. I sincerely believe it truly is human nature to wonder what else is out there and if a person is missing out.
For this reason, I don't want to marry as a Virgin and want to lose mine before that day comes. I would not be so arrogant as to assume the woman should be a virgin herself. Having eventually lost mine and then finding the woman who is the right fit for me, I believe would cure me of that wandering mind and I could then devote myself to her 100%.
2007-11-12 11:40:34 · answer #1 · answered by Sirius70 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was not a virgin before I got married.
I regret it to an extent.
I don't regret sleeping with my husband
I only regret the others because when I look back to the reason I did it it just was not good enough reasons.
With my husband it was more than that feeling in the moment it felt right and I knew that once we did it that was it for me. I did not need anyone else and I still feel that way after 10years together.
2007-11-12 07:17:50 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyH 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I regret no being a virgin. I would have loved to experience and learn with my husband all the things that there are in the sexual world.
I have a few friends who were virgins before marriage and hardly ever complain about sex with their spouse because they have nothing to compare it to. I think that that is the best way to go.
I almost feel like I short-changed my husband in some way.
2007-11-12 07:16:09 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not married yet, and I don't believe in sex before marriage. the anxiety is there, but thinking about it, It is not worth loosing something that will not completely satisfy you in either way. I don't know if you understand my point... I have the feelings that I will not regret not exploring my sexual capacities and values before marriage... You should be patient too if you are a virgin.
2007-11-12 07:19:06 · answer #4 · answered by Lila86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was not a virgin before marriage. I was older though before I gave it up...LOL. I do not regret it either. I have a husband who is wonderful and is the best I ever had!
Have you ever heard the term: "try it before you buy it". That says it all.
My best friend "first" ended up being her husband. She eventually cheated on him b/c curiosity got the best of her. It was wrong but she couldn't help herself. The marriage ended up in a divorce (but come to find out he was cheating too).
2007-11-12 07:29:30 · answer #5 · answered by sierra_91_2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was a virgin when i got married and never regretted this.
it will then a special moment that u truly share with someone u love (here, my husband).
i've never thought about having sex with other men. perhaps it's because im deeply satisfied with what i have now.
my husband was not a virgin, but he has never cheated..faithful till now.
keeping ur virginity till u get married OR till u found the rite man is really tough, but it can be done and it's truly worth it. believe me. good luck.
2007-11-12 08:14:33 · answer #6 · answered by kate 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was not a virgin when I married and I regretted it. I loved my husband dearly and I had lost my virginity to someone I did not love so I felt a loss.
Good Luck
2007-11-12 07:20:45 · answer #7 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I was a virgin when I got married. But I also wish I was an astronaut. But no big deal now, I still got a divorce and I will not be going to space. I think you are thinking too much.
Enjoy your life and live according to your moral obligations to your heart and soul.
Good luck.
2007-11-12 07:19:08 · answer #8 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it matters if you were each others first or not, on whether yo will cheat or ot, people don't need an excuse to cheat they will do it regardless. The virginity issue has nothing to do with it.
2007-11-12 07:35:41 · answer #9 · answered by Bad_Kity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a man, so commonly i was not before i got married but my wife was. it raises conversation once in a while. but the fact that i was her first only means that i am special to her as now we're married and that i am to take special care of her to prevent her from wondering around for sex.
2007-11-12 07:15:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋