Depressed Husband?

Question

My husband is depressed and wont do anything about it. He went to see a doctor and the doctor perscribed him some anti-depressants that he took for a week and then stopped because he didnt like the way they made him feel (numb). He went and saw a therapist once and he didn't like that all he wanted to talk about was his childhood (it was bad). It has gotten to the point where I dont even want to be around him. He hates his job but can't leave it (military) and I know that is a huge issue. Its to the point where I feel like he hates all of his life, me am at the end of my rope on what to do and on patients.

Answer 1

Talk to your husbands doctor. There are other medications they can try that may not have the same side effects. Also if his doctor documents the depression is serious enough then maybe he can help him get a medical discharge from the service.

Good Luck

Answer 2

Depressed Husband?

Answer 3

Being in the military is really tough and deployments for 15 months are terrible but your husband has to remember that he is the one who signed up for it. Have you been at this base very long? Can he speak to anyone in his chain of command about what can be done to make the job easier? If he has seen a therapist and doctor on post I am sure that his CO is aware that he is having problems. Unfortunately, the Army's mission is often not compatable with family life. It may be that he needs some kind of a hobby or just to plan for the future in order to get his mind off the here and now. Is he taking any corespondence courses to further his education? These classes are usually free and might focus his mind on "the way out" I know you want to help your husband but sadly, he has to help himself. So hang in there the best you can and "This too shall pass"

Answer 4

Same thing with us...except the side effect of the meds...he felt nauseated. I continually pray for him and our marriage. Though, I feel like I need to do more or maybe I just wish I could see results now :). Anyway, if you can, hang in there and stay by his side...be his help-meet, stay postitive and focus on the good qualities about him and your relationship. Because if you can do this,and get through this, your marriage will be fantastic! I have seen it work with dear family members and am doing and hoping the same for me and my husband. Good luck!

Answer 5

Truth is been thru the same thing. found out it is just midlife crisis for a man and it doesn't last for ever. He is questioning life,god,his age, were did the time go. allot of things. Happens to most men between 35 and 40. but not all. exercise helps,reading,spending time with ones kids,sleep, you making him the sexiest man in your life. boast his ego some by how much he is the world to you. good luck.

Answer 6

I give this advice to people looking to give others spiritual help such as how to avoid becoming so sad that you end up killing yourself:

Warning, Christian answer:

Jesus advises that before you give anyone spiritual advice that you FIRST (and he indicates that it can be done by God) get the log out of your own eye. The log he is talking about is your own moral / spiritual problem / relationship with God.

If you are a Christian with eternal life than you already have that log in your eye blinding you from understanding God removed.

If you aren't you must first get forgiven. There is an explanation available via the link in my profile entitled "thegospel.html".

Show him this message, copy it and print it out:

Read what Job, the man mentioned in the Bible, went through. He suffered intense pain, lost his family and even his friends turned against him. Despite that, he was rescued by God and is now known all over the world for his victory over Satan's attempt to completely turn him against God.

Don't make anything in life a higher priority than pleasing God. Whatever you do, always do it in such a way so that you know he will be happy with you. It may be hard, but it's worth it, and if you love him, that is how you will live your life.

Without God's love, you will always crave more and more and never be content.

Without a friend that gives you an honest answer when you want one, who gives you one out of love, you will always feel some misery. And if you only have friends that flatter you, you may be depressed knowing that they are doing so because they want to take advantage of you in some way rather than truly loving you, or loving you with a pure love, love which isn't self-seeking.

Other things that can make you miserable till you are depressed are a poor diet, bland food, bad smells (like from a carpet or hidden mold), are encountering unpleasant smells often (like perhaps from a new rug which smells bad), have bland surroundings (you may want to decorate your walls with posters), past trauma that is still bothering you because you don't know how to deal with it or because it was very painful, a lack of true friends or ones who give you bad to no advice when you ask for or when they see you need it, or living a shallow life.

I had problems with depression and suicide due to my parents neglecting my education, including knowledge about right from wrong, and not having much interesting or helpful to do. I also got bullied at school for how I was dressed and appeared before I was 14 and of course, instead of the bullies being punished I was the one who got stuck in a miserable substitute for a "normal" public high school and had next to no friends while there (and still have about none). Soon after attending that school I was bullied by the police off an on a few times. Other miserable things happened including being repeatedly kicked out and being mistreated at nearly all the jobs I had by coworkers or bosses who harassed me out of them. But, God saved me and helped me beat my depression and allowed and helped me to accomplish some great things that I can take comfort in having accomplished no matter how miserable. I'm still depressed sometimes, but it's not as bad now since he's opened my eyes.

Check out the link in my profile if you are interested in spiritual help, which I found has been a lasting and permanent solution heading towards perfect peace. I hope you show the link to others. There is also nutritional and cosmetic advice in one my books.

And this part is for you not your husband:

Should you get eternal life you will then want to explain to him how to get it. But he may not want to hear you preach. If he doesn't, God tells you to do this instead:

Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. - 1 Peter 2:21-25-3:1-2

Answer 7

nicely devoid of understanding the source of his melancholy, no you possibly can inform you especially the thank you to get him to interrupt freed from it, devoid of expert help. even nonetheless, that suggested, listed right here are some techniques. of course you and he shared very much of emotional intimacy and closeness, and so its in all probability the only element you are able to attempt to use to get him to open up slightly. i'm in all probability guessing that very much of persistence and love, and perseverance might help too. Now he could think of you're nagging him or smothering him, and people who're depressed tend to wish to isolate themselves. yet lifting his temper could be not something greater effective than only sitting next to him, protecting his hand or cuddling with him, and only getting him to talk. talk approximately something, no count number what -- and making him understand that no count number what he tells you, you will not injury him. There could be countless insecurities at play, or maybe there is something occurring that he's afraid to tell you approximately. notwithstanding it rather is, he desires to permit you in to a minimum of discover out what it rather is that's protecting him down. devoid of that, the only different wish is to get him to somebody who is familiar with the thank you to alleviate a number of the melancholy so he can start up getting back in touch with you back. it form of feels from what you have written that the biggest element of what's affecting you, is the shortcoming of communications and the shortcoming of emotional intimacy -- and in all probability loss of actual intimacy and affection too. so which you should artwork on that, perhaps slightly at a time. perhaps you will ought to gently decide on the flow in to form of get him to open up approximately what's eating at him. yet notwithstanding it rather is, faster or later he's have been given to tell you. it may help if its faster.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

thats hard. i think you just have to be there 110% and support him and try to get him out of his depression. is there any way you can do counciling with him?

Answer 10

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