My wife went out and got her nose pierced when I was away for the weekend. We have had numerous discussions about this were I expressed my dislike for this. Now, I understand it is her body and she may do what she likes, but don't I have the right to be upset? She is mad at me for getting upset, which makes me even more mad about the whole thing. Am I missing something here?
2007-11-12 06:33:12 · 20 answers · asked by Spyder81 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get mad, stomp your feet, be mean to each other, argue, and in the end her nose is still pierced and nothing has been settled. You have both created a major problem, over something so minor. Life is more about, what you make it or don't make it. And the time you wasted fighting over trivial BS can never be recovered.
Love each other for your differences. Love and Cherish your relationship.
2007-11-12 06:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right in that it is her body to do with what she wants but she should have also had a little respect for your wishes as well. I would love to get a tattoo but my husband says it is a turn off for him when women have them. Out of respect to him I have not gotten one. Someday if he changes his mind I will get one but until then I will just dream on. I can't say that you should be mad at her for this but I can see where it might hurt your feelings that she didn't think more of your opinion than she did. I wouldn't start an issue about it. Just let it go. There are bigger battles in marriage than a little hole pierced in her nose.
2007-11-12 14:41:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may be her body but you are the one who has to look at it all the time.
You do have some right to be upset that you said you disliked it and she did anyway. Its not as if recreational piercing was something which needed to be done for a statement of individuality.
I guess you get to do something she dislikes now with a free pass.
You can always continue to hand her tissues. When she asks why tell her it is to wipe off that buger.
2007-11-12 14:40:56 · answer #3 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have a the right. But what does it solve? Think about it your mad because she didn't Liston to you or your advise, that is why your truly mad. lol Tell her next time to get her tongue pierced so you can enjoy it to if you know what I mean.lol l lighten up it's not the end or start of the world. lol
2007-11-12 14:44:49 · answer #4 · answered by shadow of life. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not missing something... you are missing a ton of opportunities.
And no, you do not have the right ot be mad. Go tell her you are sorry with a nice piece of jewelry... maybe even a nasal ring or two.
Good luck.
2007-11-12 14:41:01 · answer #5 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you have no right to be upset at her. It's her body, and her nose, so let her do what she wants with it.
I do understand that you want her to be attractive and noserings turn you off, but if it makes her happy to have a nosering, then you should try to get used to it.
2007-11-12 14:46:23 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a couple, if either one of them disagrees on something, they just plain don't do it... plain and simple... basically, she disrespected your feelings and did it anyway... yes, it's her body, but, your feelings are more important... she basically does not care what you think at all... that's what I think... for some reason she likes the attention she gets for this thing... and that's wrong to seek attention outside of the marraige =(... she should take it out... plain and simple...
2007-11-12 14:44:09 · answer #7 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be mad too,if that happened to me. A husband and wife must consider the feelings of their spouses.
2007-11-12 14:50:07 · answer #8 · answered by Vannili 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you do. But remember it is her body. You two have deeper issues here than just a nose ring.
2007-11-12 15:31:32 · answer #9 · answered by C>/ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you were given a big hairy "Up yours"! It's a control issue---she is going to do whatever she wants and you're not going to be able to stop her. I'd be upset if I were you too, but there's nothing you can do about it. Let her have her nose ring and hopefully she will outgrow it!
2007-11-12 14:38:53 · answer #10 · answered by Marina 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋