He put his finger in the "other" place. It surprised me but I didn't feel anything special or different, other than the feeling that I had to go to the bathroom. I'm just wondering, why he did that, we never talked about it and if I should do it to him now. I am going to ask him about it, but I wanted your thoughts.
2007-11-12 06:13:27 · 20 answers · asked by Lily 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Anal sex is becoming more and more mainstream.
BTW - it does *not* necessarily mean he wants to anything more than what he did!
Having said that, I don't recommend doing this to anyone by surprise. However, it can feel quite nice if you expect it and are relaxed.
I do recommend that you talk to him about it. I'm sure he is wondering what you thought!
This book (http://www.amazon.com/Ultimate-Guide-Anal-Sex-Women/dp/1573442216/ref=sr_1_13/103-5324289-1816643?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1194895325&sr=8-13) is considered to be a good source of information on the subject.
2007-11-12 06:24:10 · answer #1 · answered by susanmaried 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard that a lot of people do that. But I'm pretty sure that its not going to end with the finger. I think that he is testing the water in order for him to put something else there. And as for you doing that to him, he probably would like it because I heard that they have a sensitive spot up there that really turns them on when found. i'm not sure where it is up there but I'm sure you could do some research.
2007-11-12 14:23:32 · answer #2 · answered by lexi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Little digits eventually lead to small toys. Small toys lead to bigger toys, and eventually, the toy gets replaced my him. Every man that has never experimented "back there" has heard how hot it is. He's just looking to get his fingers in the pie. If you have no problems with it, enjoy it. I personally would not recommend returning the favor. A guy doing it to a women looks and feels right. A women doing it to a guy, just looks wrong.
2007-11-12 14:35:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If it feels good, do it again. If not, then try something else. Let HIM know how you feel about it. But don't tell him while in bed or having sex. Wait until a neutral time to discuss such things. While you are at it, tell him what REALLY gets your motor running.
2007-11-12 15:48:14 · answer #4 · answered by C>/ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems that this question has been well covered in the answers given. I do not believe he is cheating or learned about it from another bed mate.
What you do relating to this topic is your choice. Just don't go over board if you find it offensive and call him names or you will lose his trust.
2007-11-12 16:50:42 · answer #5 · answered by Bambi C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It just occurred to him, some friends might have brought it up. Nothing to be suspicious about. Things all of a sudden, pop in our heads.
2007-11-12 16:22:09 · answer #6 · answered by Rosie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He did it to jazz things up a bit, or because he was curious as to what your reaction would be. I definitely wouldn't "suprise" him with the same action though---men can be very touchy about that area; no pun intended.
2007-11-12 14:18:27 · answer #7 · answered by Marina 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Men try different things to add variety to the sex . He was trying to get a response out of you to see how you like it. For fun, you should try it to him to see what his response is.
2007-11-12 14:20:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He did it because it turned him on and he hoped you enjoyed it. Do NOT try it on him without asking him first. Also, if you don't want him to do it again, let him know. Saying nothing is the same to him as saying you approve.
2007-11-12 14:18:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
He wanted to see if you were going to get more excited. No you do not do this to men this is not good. Be happy he is trying new things to keep love alive.
2007-11-12 14:26:58 · answer #10 · answered by Lost 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋